Posted by snapper on April 6, 2004, at 18:23:08
In reply to Trying to take off those rose colored glasses, posted by shadows721 on April 6, 2004, at 17:01:00
Shadows, your commentary on the above situation is profound. I am dead serious-you are right on - it is a game- I can sense it form 100's and probably 1000's of miles away. You have great insight and It appears that you have recieved some excellent therapy for yourself-to be able to pinpoint that kind of destructive -self defeating behaviour. It is a game of tug-o-war and one of the individuals knows it more than the other-it is a deadly game of attrition and I think you are right on in reccomending he do "something", anything and quit letting her win... I know its' painful ....but Great Sex is very often mistaken for supposed incredible attraction and being right for each other. I have fallen into similar traps like that over the years and it is def. not easy to get out of. In anycase it appears that you have probably had some very effective therapy in your own life !! I wish it were that easy for all of us-...pills can only do so much and the rest is up to us- Kudos' to you on your own healing and insight and intuitiveness. Have you considered being a therapist yourself? Dr.Phil, Watch out!!!
Snapper
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