Posted by shadows721 on April 4, 2004, at 15:38:29
In reply to i am lost and in pain, posted by wayne on April 4, 2004, at 9:15:18
It sounds to me that the sex is good, but the relationship is actually lacking. A good relationship doesn't involve all this arguing. It also seems like this girlfriend has issues of trust. She will never trust you completely. I suspect she has been burned before and never will forget it. She is going to make some guy pay for what happened to her. I wouldn't go back to someone that lies about my actions.
First, she hit you. That is just as wrong in the eyes of the law as if you hit her. This relationship is addictive and dangerous. Don't confuse that with love. Do whatever you can to force yourself to not get back into this dangerous cycle. Her violence will escalate. She will hurt you more the next time. You may actually hit her too. That is what she is pushing here.
I know, because I was involved in a relationship like this years ago. Trust me. It doesn't get better. There are "honeymoon" periods between the violence and the arguing. In other words, it's like a high. Everything seems great. But, the bad times just keep getting worse. The honeymoons get shorter and shorter. This relationship is about addiction to getting those highs (honeymoons) back.
Find someone else that is good to you without the drama. You may not find that as attractive, but trust me. By being with someone that is good to you, it will pay off in the long run. I have been married to the "good one" for 13 years and running strong. It took years to forget the one that I thought that "I really loved". It wasn't love at all. It was addiction to drama.
Point blank - Get out and stay out of this relationship. There are millions of woman out there. This one is not a good match. You can have great sex and sense of love with someone who will not abuse you and fight with you.
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