Posted by KrissyP on March 6, 2003, at 22:01:00
In reply to Some insights for a special person - Kristen. » KrissyP, posted by ace on March 6, 2003, at 19:05:56
Dearest Ace-Thank you sooooo much:
Here are the answers to your questions:-)
1) I haven't dated since last May, but I have my eye on a longtime schoolmate-but we have yet to meet, because my self-esteem-I'm trying to get the courage. The last guy I dated, used me BAD-long story. I miss dating.
2)Yes-I have suffered rejection from a male-my father-long story there too.
3)See above about my father, but my mom is my best friend-but she doesn't express her feelings much-but I know she cares for me and vice-versa-she has been like a mother and a father to me
Great woman!
4)Yep, I feel others are better than me-ESPECIALLY the ones I grew up with-mostly women.
5)I haven't read a lot of self-esteem books lately. I have a few great ones-I need to read soon.
6)Companionship, I think, makes most people feel better. Yes I would like to get to know a really great guy and spend some quality time and cuddle-just things I usually do with my boyfriends-whatever we like to do. I also would like to marry eventually some day.
7)I study Psychology and Health. I am a Medical Assistant(not working) and have my AA in Liberal Studies.
Would you mind telling me a little about Nardil??
What is it for?
Any suggestions on books I would greatly appreciate.
Thanks for being such a sweetie:)
Please keep in touch.
Kristen
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Dearest Kristen,
I feel for you. Even though CBT dose NOT work for me - different d/o's I have, I think it might help. From your posts to me all I can say is that are a very beautifal human being. I really think some INTENSIVE work on your s/esteem would help...and a script of Nardil (NOT just because I love it..but it makes you very confident in yourself)
I have some qstns...
!. Do you date much?
2. Have you suffered rejection from a male?
3. How do your parents feel about you
4. I assume you get the feeling a lot of others are better than you?
5. Have you read s/esteem books (not Tacky ones, but ones written by PHD's)
6. When you say you are lonely, would a steady partner make you feel better?
7. What do you study?
Krissy - I did 2/3 years of intensive psychotherapy and reading. it is NOT the answer for me, BUT i have gleaned a tremendous amount of knowledge on the subject, and If you tell me more I can reccomend some texts.
Once again, i feels so bad for your pain...you sound so sweet and caring.
BTW, one book which I would reccomend (not really) psychotherapy is "Love is letting go of fear" by Gerald J. Jampolsky. This had a significant impact on me. It is more spiritual, and I think maybe you might need to cultivate a special personalized spiritual relationship.
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> LOVE & BEST WISHES,
> ACE (ANDREW)
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