Posted by KrissyP on March 6, 2003, at 15:09:09
In reply to Re: I'VE HAD IT-ANY HELP WOULD BE GREAT, posted by mattdds on March 6, 2003, at 11:12:19
Hi, I see "keeping up with the Joneses" as a motivating, positive force, but MORE so, with me anyway, as crippling and counterproductive. Again, highly subjective. Thank you for this>> "Is my tendency to critically compare myself to others hinder or help me?" IT HAS HINDERED ME And,"Is it affecting my quality of life?"-It IS obviously affecting my quality of life. In fact, I thought about this when I called it an early night last night and was lying in bed, "I am not being fair to myself".
I am a very driven individual and I need to use it to overcome this-hard, very hard.
I am definately open to a discussion !!!
Absolutely.
Thank you so much!!
Kristen------------------------------------------
A better question might be: "Does my tendency to critically compare myself to others hinder or help me?". Another question to answer is "Is it affecting my quality of life?"
In Krissy's case, she said "99%" of her depression is related to this tendency. So I think it's quite clear that it is negatively affecting her quality of life. The goal would be to shift her (you, Krissy :)) to the other, healthier end of the spectrum for this trait. I believe this can be done using CBT techniques. At least this was my experience.
Just my opinion, and I invite further discussion.
Thanks for the comments!
Matt
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