Posted by Dinah on December 9, 2002, at 18:33:38
In reply to Social phobic/nerd/ shy person profile, posted by IsoM on December 9, 2002, at 18:17:15
There has to be something else though, in addition to shyness or social phobia, that can trigger the predator instinct. I was never the tiniest bit shy and my self esteem was just fine prior to my bullying experience, yet I apparently wore a target on my back. Three different schools were involved. After my bullying experience, I still wasn't the tiniest bit shy, but I was (rather understandably I think) somewhat phobic and lacking in interpersonal confidence (as opposed to overall confidence).
A lovely psychiatrist I met a few times told me that I probably telegraphed a certain oddness that others picked up on. I definitely had an interpersonal confidence problem after meeting with him. :)
So I imagine there are myriad signals that predatory humans pick up on. Sigh. If I could start my career life over again, I would be an anti-bullying curriculum specialist. The harm bullying does is incalculable.
Dinah
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