Posted by fendel on October 24, 2002, at 22:46:05
In reply to feelin' sexually frustrated/gf in therapy, posted by bookgurl99 on October 23, 2002, at 23:51:41
I mostly lurk, but I see nobody's replied yet, so I'll bite...
FWIW, I ran into something similar once. I was head-over-heels in love with a woman who started dealing with some sexual issues and said "Let's just be friends," and that was it. End of story. So the fact your GF is seeing this celibacy as a *temporary* thing is a plus...
Can you temporarily separate your sex drive from your other needs? Have romantic dinners and cuddles with your girlfriend. Concentrate on your emotional intimacy (including being supportive as she faces her abuse issues). When you need physical satisfaction, shoo her out of the bedroom and meet your own needs. Alone. Buy some toys if that helps.
Ooops. I hope by "what the hell" you meant "give me advice." ;)
fendel
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