Posted by IsoM on February 20, 2002, at 11:41:49
In reply to out of control anger, posted by KB on February 20, 2002, at 10:54:04
KB, what I perceive as unjust & unfounded, I can become VERY angry very quickly. Rarely have I ever expressed my anger. For me, it helps to rehearse the possible scenerios over in my head - what they'll say, what I'll reply. I tend to practice these over & over - probably because I'm really mulling them over, thoroughly bothered by it. When the confrontation does take place, I find I'm prepared. If I feel my anger rising, I'm very aware of it & keep telling myself that I'm superior to them - let them make a fool of themself, I won't be drawn into it.
Maybe this is a very arrogant attitude on my part, but it works for me. There's a few people who's personality is so abrasive to mine that sometimes I think I'd feel more comfortable with my hands around their throat. I don't react like this with normal people but only those that are arrogant asses themselves. I hate mind games & work/office/family politics but damn it! if they want to play with me, I'll beat them at their own games.
Maybe it might help to adopt that attitude towards people such as those???
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