Posted by JahL on April 6, 2001, at 14:38:55
In reply to Re: treatment resistant depression , posted by sweetmarie on April 6, 2001, at 7:11:34
> > [I do apologise for this - I feel like I`ve been writing my memoirs. I totally sympathise with anyone who has fallen asleep/completely had enough of my ramblings.]> > I just wanted to say that for ages and ages, I thought that my depression was simply to do with my circumstances, i.e. situational. I thought I was in the wrong relationship/wrong town/doing the wrong college course/mixing with the wrong people/being in the wrong job etc etc. I didn`t tell any of the GPs that were treating me that it had been a long-term problem (didn`t think it was relevant, due to the above mentioned convictions). I was always advised to `keep going`, `get out more`, `think of all the other people in the world who are in worse situations`, `not spend so much time "looking into my own navel"`. I have to say that this was always my parents` attitude, and I always went along with it, feeling guilty that I was being so selfish. This is the story I gave to those treating me, so they accepted it.
> > I did change things over the years, but it wasn`t until I moved from where I had been living for 6 years since graduating, back to my home town, with the notion that this would `sort it`, that I realised that it was something that wasn`t going away. It was only then that I was referred to a psychiatrist. Everyone - myself included - was then forced to concede that I had an illness. So, basically it`s only been seen as a `proper` illness, not a passing phase (or tendency for negativity) for the past 3 years.
> > The reason that I`m writing this, is mainly for those who feel the same way, i.e. to say that it`s not the product of introspective thinking, tendency to the `glass half empty` way of thinking, or self-indulgence (or even, as one friend put it - `thinking too much`). I thought it was for many years, mistakenly, and have therefore `lost` much time blaming external things and most of all myself for being a failure. I`m not saying that depression isn`t always a biological thing - I know that it is also often reactive. Nonetheless, it is NEVER a `failure`.Hi Anna.
The above pretty much mirrors my own situation & explains my antipathy towards psychotherapists, expressed in various rants elsewhere on this board. I would not like to be the next therapist to tell me "I think a part of you doesn't want to get better" (as if) or "you have a lot of anger" (wouldn't they, if they had severe depression & consequently no life). Fortunately this situation will not arise since I will never see another psychologist as long as I live.
I have come to see through this board that psychotherapy is very useful for some; just not for individuals such as you & I. Like you I found it impeded my treatment, not only in terms of distracting me from getting real (in the context of *my* disorder) help, but in making me think that I was somehow to blame for my predicament. I've lost count of how many times psychotherapists have told me that my lack of response to their mis-prescribed treatment was down to a lack of effort on my part.
Thanks,
Jah.
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