Posted by Greg on August 5, 2000, at 10:13:42
In reply to Re: Pdoc visit and yet another new med JennyR, posted by Cindy W on August 1, 2000, at 22:19:12
Cindy,
Meant to respond to this sooner, I'm really sorry.
Maybe your therapist thinks you're ready to take the next step. I would hope this would be an affirmation of your growth. If you're not ready, then tell your therapist that. But maybe you're ready for more than you think you are. It might help to not look at this as an ending, but a new beginning. But do what you feel is right for you. I would suggest not walking away from a person that's been am intergal part of your life for so long without at least discussing your feelings with them first, but if you feel strongly enough about it then do it. Your health and happiness are the most important things, to you and to us. We love and support you here. Change is the hardest thing for us to overcome and I understand how you feel. Baby steps Cindy, baby steps.
I hope this works out for you and you are in my thoughts. Please let me know how it goes, OK?
Hugs,
Greg> > The part about concern about the psychotherapist - opening a can of worms and more crap to deal with - I understand having hesitation. But to me, therapy is the best gift I ever gave myself. If you find a therapist you really click with, it can be really wonderful. To be listened to like you never have been, understood like you never have been is great. As far as what content you get into and how deeply, with a good therapist you set the pace and you deal with what you can handle as you can handle it. I have gotten so much out of my therapy (2 1/2 years) that I can't recommend it strongly enough. It's the first place where my perspective was taken as valid. I'm used to being negated. I feel so supported by my therapist. It is the most nurtured I've ever been by anybody (and I'm married for 15 years). The content has been very painful, but the support, the caring make it bearable and enable me to figure out what I have to. I urge you to give it a try. You'll know early on if you click with that person.
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> JennyR, I went to see my pdoc today and am thinking of discontinuing therapy, now. After about a year of coming to really feel understood and cared about, today I felt like just giving up and never going back. I'm trying to get the courage to divorce (have been married 26 years) and he said, "just do it!" and that insight doesn't matter (which is probably true), but I feel too really scared to take action. So now I feel hurt and am decreasing my antidepressant (Effexor-XR) so that I can perhaps change pdocs, although I've been crazy about him until now. The medication helped decrease the OCD and depression to the point where I can begin to handle other problems in my life, but I'm so afraid, I feel paralyzed still. I feel like he was saying, either do it, or don't come back anymore whining about things. Probably he is right, but I still can't handle the fears (mostly of my own feelings). I've lived separately now for almost four years, so know I can take care of myself. I feel so ashamed, guilty, and hurt. What did you do when you felt like quitting therapy, if things ever seemed too much to handle too fast? I'd like to get the worms back in the can and not open any more cans of worms right now!
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