Posted by kerry B on June 30, 2000, at 8:44:55
In reply to My Bipolar Soap-Opera life., posted by tdaneen on June 30, 2000, at 7:31:13
> My husband told me 8 months ago that he wanted a divorce. He just couldn't handle my problems. I am a BPII with atypical depression. I have never been hospitalised. I have been through hell in the last seven months finding a job, taking control of my illness, being a single mom, bearing the stresses of everyday life that all of us who are BP have trouble doing sometimes. I have been surviving. I have built new friendships, and have found new love interests. I have met people who understand me and don't hold my illness against me or make excuses for me when I am flakey. They help to keep me more stable.
> I have a good pdoc who is constantly working with me, trying to get my chemical gunk under control. I am by no means close to a goal of being where I want to be, but it is a hell of a lot better than a three year depression.
> My husband is a controlling and manipulative man. I don't even know if he does it on purpose. I have fed into that for so long, that I jump whenever he says he wants to talk...One week ago he threated to use my being BP to try and get custody of our four year old daughter. Again I only see this as manipulation. Last night he told me that he wants to get back together.
> Not one word was said about him missing me, or how much he wanted me back in his life, or how much he thought of me...he only could say that he didn't want his life going this way.
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> Boy am I long winded! Anyway...I would like to hear from any BP's who have been through divorce and how it effected their moods, and treatment. Also how (or if) it was brought up in their divorce for custody.
> The last few days have been hard. I just want to know that there is someone out there that might be a little bit like me....and I'm not alone.....
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> Thanks for listening..
hi tdaneen,
I know what it is like to a point. I have BP in there among my illnesses and it has been really hard. I have two kids which I do adore and my husband has often threatened to divorce me (he hasn't yet, don't know why) and take the kids from me due to my illness and that I am unfit to look after them which is a load of rot. I am a good mother and the kids and I get on so well when he's not around.
Anyway, I got some legal advice about his rights and they said that he wouldn't have a chance of taking the kids if I was on medication, had support from a doctor and was managing well all round, kids etc, so don't let him bluff you.
If you are managing and are no threat and you have the doctor's support, you don't have a problem O.K?
Hope this helped a little. It's tough to go through this but you sound really strong which is a great quality to have especially for your child.
As for your moods, don't let this get the better of you. Talk about it as much as you can, how you feel etc, it's important otherwise you will feel lost and confused as I do when I'm in that situation. The ups and downs are not pleasant so please talk about it whenever you can. Support does wonders. Even if it's on here, it's great to be able to express it in writing as well.
Hang in there!!!!!!
Best wishes
Kerry
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