Posted by Jennifer on May 25, 2000, at 1:23:35
In reply to How to deal with it, posted by Naeemah Small on May 17, 2000, at 17:35:14
> Naeemah, I'm a cycler at times, and it's no fun. It can take years to find the "just right" medication and/or therapy. The pushing away has nothing to do with you; you just happen to be the one there. As for some "motherly advice", you are only 24, and people go through a lot of growing over the next five years. The difference in your goals/views of life can be very different at 30 than 25. With that in mind, and prior absolutely great advice to be sure and take care of yourself first, why don't you just distance yourself from this guy for awhile? He needs time to come to grips with his illness and get it under control to the best of HIS ability. As his friend, you may be getting emotionally close to the person that is not "really" him (that's the best I can word that if anyone else can help) Starting a long term relationship under these conditions can be extremely stressful, and marriage is hard enough as it is (I assume that would be your goal if you continue to see him). Get on with your life and if you're still available in 5 years, give him a call to see how he is. He can find support from friends. My illness has been very hard on my family, and my husband and I had been together 9 wonderful years beforehand. That amount of time gave us the stable basis to work through the illness together without ruining our marriage. God bless, and I'll keep his health in my prayers.
My name is Naeemah Small from Mesa Arizona. I met a guy from Southern Cali. We met will we were 21 years old. Now, I am 24 years and he is too. I started seeing mood changes last year. I told him that he needs to see a doctor or he would not be able to talk to me anymore, so he saw a doctor. After a while, he was digaons with cyclothymia. I still love him. But, he has push me away. He told me that he loves me, but still has push me away. Has anyone gone threw this?
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