Posted by bob on May 16, 2000, at 14:39:19
In reply to Re: I beg to differ ...To Cindy W, posted by Cindy W on May 16, 2000, at 0:24:19
[Hey! Where did my P's go? ;^)]
> ... How can I be madly in love with someone I hardly know? Maybe in part because he listens nonjudgmentally and accepts me for who I am without any apparent investment or hidden agenda; maybe because I don't see him at his worst, when he is not on the pedestal I place him on; maybe because I don't have to pick up his dirty socks, or whatever. Since I know very little about my pdoc, except that he is kind, patient, and attractive, I have projected all kinds of things onto him which are superhuman and unrealistic; this is probably the same I do in new relationships with men in my life....
Well, whatever you do, then, be careful about computer dating!
Imagine trading emails, revealing more and more, and you know even less about the person ... and again, you start filling in the blanks. Like someone else mentioned, this isn't just something that happens between therapists and patients ... a number of situations are ripe for these sorts of relationships.
cheers,
bob
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