Posted by Jennifer on April 27, 2000, at 16:17:57
In reply to Forgiveness: Question for DebR and boB, posted by Cass on April 24, 2000, at 16:20:00
Cass, I cannot begin to completely understand your life with your mother. I know that I had plenty of things to deal with regarding my mother that she would never in her life own up to doing. I decided that I did not want to be unhappy the rest of my life because I could not forgive her. I am in therapy now and spent the first two months talking about her. All the while she was telling the family how she does not understand why I want to live in the past. She could not understand that I was seeking the ability to forgive her. Finally, I decided that I can forgive her for me. For my happiness, not hers. You dont have to forget, but forgiving will definitely help you. Let her be human. Even, let her be a monster if that is how you see her. But, forgive her for being spiteful and mean and cruel. You dont have to change how you feel about her, but I have found that after forgiving my mother, I was able to move onto myself and deal better with my problems. Not hers.
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