Posted by boB on April 17, 2000, at 17:32:11
In reply to Re: Am I gay?, posted by Mark H. on April 17, 2000, at 13:00:04
Andrew,
ditto to what those folks said. I only want to add that you were wise enough to recognize your friends self-interest. There is a thing people often go through when they are exploited in that they sympathize with their exploiters. This happens to sexually and physically abused children, who then turn out to be abusers themselves, and it often happens to prisoners, hostages and kidnap victims.
I would not totally discourage you from cutting off your friend, if you feel strong enough to recognize what he is up to. You might gain some strength by helping him face his exploitive tactics and he might get a clue when you refuse to go places alone or refuse to allow much friendly intimacy as long as he acts pushy.
I will say that some of my most sensitive understanding friends are gay, and regardless of desires they sometimes have toward me, for the most part they don't try to mess with my head or my body.
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