Posted by Mark H. on April 17, 2000, at 13:00:04
In reply to Am I gay?, posted by Andrew on April 17, 2000, at 3:25:59
Andrew, It's important to remember that you are OK whether you're straight or gay. Around your age, I remember having had sexual feelings for both genders -- I really liked girls A LOT, but sometimes I was only physically close with other guys -- horsing around, playing football, wrestling and stuff -- and I would be embarrassed that I sometimes got aroused. I later realized it's natural, normal and no big deal, and it has nothing to do with whether you're straight or gay.
I've had a number of gay friends over the years, and they all KNEW they were gay from a pretty young age. Just worrying about whether you might be probably means you're not. But don't judge yourself or others either way. People who have a balance of masculine and feminine energies generally have broader and more intimate friendships with both genders.
It's important not to rush into being sexually active. Anyone who pressures you to have sex is not your friend (and I'm not saying your friend does this, just that it can come up). Relax and take your time. You'll know when the time is right for you, and you probably won't feel any confusion at all about your sexual preference.
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