Posted by bob on April 5, 2000, at 16:34:10
In reply to Re: The husband thing again..., posted by Greg on April 5, 2000, at 14:08:16
I tell you what, Nikki ... if that's his attitude, I got a pair of steel-toed boots that'll lump it just fine for him.
Forget about the time you've been married. There's no "good" time to get divorced, in the sense of how long you've been married. What good is it to get a divorce after 30 years? Does doing that make you stupid for staying in a relationship that long?
My best friend dated his first wife for several years before they tied the knot ... and that changed EVERYTHING about her personality. All of a sudden, she wanted him to be just like her daddy -- something she had shown absolutely no sign of before the big day. My friend tried his damnedest to do so and drove himself miserable in the process. They divorced after six months.
Several months too late, if you ask me.
Yeah, it would be nice if Greg and me and a few others of "the boys" around here in Babbleland could help re-educate this guy -- you've obviously had something good going for the two of you at sometime, and it is a shame to leave that behind.
But what he's doing is abuse, pure and simple. People don't have to hit you to hurt you. If he can't see that he's hurting you, then he's more messed up than you can possibly imagine yourself to be, and you don't deserve that kind of treatment.
best wishes,
bob
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