Posted by Diane on February 8, 2000, at 10:55:04
In reply to Depression and procreation..., posted by Adam on January 31, 2000, at 0:33:03
ADOPT. Adoption is the way to go.
I never had kids. And fear of passing on my depression was one of the main reasons why. My dad is a depressed, abusive, alcoholic... His mother was hospitalized and underwent ECT numerous times over many years. I've had trouble sense I was 11yrs
old. My Mother is depressed also. Both of them tho are against most all drugs, "mind altering" in particular.That includes anti-depressants.
I personally wouldn't take the risk of passing it on. It would be selfish if I did, in my opinion.
I don't care what researchers say or don't say I would not risk passing it on either hard wired genetically or unconsciously in my behavior. I'm not into taking risks with someone elses life.In my opinion if you are not 100% together (financially, physically, emotionally...) you do not have any right bringing kids into the world. NONE! In my opinion.
How women/people who are drug users, on welfare, or are in abusive/destructive situations or are of genetic risk can clear getting pregnant with their conscious is _beyond me. It's disgusting.
I've known a few knocked up heroin addicts in my time. And ain't nothing sicker than seeing a hugely pregnant addict cooking up her dope, tying herself off, slamming it and nodding off. GROSS.
Or a pregnant speed freak snorting her lines.
People like that should be castrated.Religious freaks are also disgustiing. They don't believe in abortion/contraception!
Hell don't they feel it's a SIN to bring a child into the world that you can not afford to properly care for. How can they not?
Because you forgot to use a condom last time... because YOU made a mistake... A child has to suffer. That's crazy, in my opinion.> But my own flesh and blood? It almost feels immoral.
Don't be so shallow and self-centered. That's inane reasoning. Come on... get real! ADOPT !!!
It's amazing the myriad of reasons people have for procreating. I'm sure you've heard em.
My favorite was from a wife of a friend (they already had 3) "I just love dressing them in their little clothes"
Well the kid died at 18 months after she got tired of caring for him and sluft him off on the 3 girls, whom ever sense I've known them were chronically sick with colds/bronchitis you name it. And sense he lived/slept in the 3 girls room he also
came down sick and died one night (Christmas day, no less). It took all my effort to keep my mouth shut. I wanted to hit that bitch so bad I had to walk away for a year.Women who take fertility drugs and have litters of kids have big mental problems in my view/opinion. Same for women who go thru numerous artifical inseminations just to have their own flesh and blood kid. What's the driving force behind that?
Why wouldn't ADOPTING a child suffice ?????Having a child, whether adopted or not is an awesome responsibility. Are you up to it. I mean REALLY up to it. What have you got to offer a child?
There are too many people on the planet already
.
"Since 1960 the population of the Earth has doubled from 3 billion to 6 billion."http://www.zpg.org/ Zero Population Growth
Teen Pregnancy
11/5/1999In the U.S., 20% of teen age girls become
pregnant within one month after becoming
sexually active.
Did you know?
6/25/1999Half of all the married women in the world of
child bearing age do not have access to
modern contraceptives.
Y6B
6/14/1999The UN projects that the population of the Earth
will reach 6 billion on October 12, 1999. That is
up 1 billion since 1987.
Water and Population**
6/1/1999According to the Worldwatch Institute, the
amount of water available per person from the
hydrological cycle (evaporation and rain) will fall
by 73 percent between 1950 and 2050, as a
result of population growth.
Women and Education**
5/27/1999In every country for which there are data, the
more education a woman has, the fewer
children she chooses to bear.
City Growth**
5/24/1999The number of people living in cities fifty years
from now will be 6.2 billion--that's more than the
entire population of the world today.
Job Market***
5/21/1999The U.N. estimates that 1 billion people (1/3 of
the global work force) is unemployed or
underemployed (working, but not earning
enough to meet basic needs).
Farm land disappears**
5/18/1999According to the U.S. Dept. of Agriculture, since
1970 the U.S. has lost an average of 1,000,000
acres of farm land *every year* to urban and
suburban sprawl.
If you want to bring up children_ if you have the time and the inclination ..ADOPT.Or do what my husband did....he got us a cat (a stray). The Runt.
To date I've neutered/vaccinated/wormed/bathed 18 strays. I take them over to Safe Haven (adoption services) where they do not kill them.Side note:
Here in this small town I've never seen more dogs chained and staked and left 24hrs a day in the rain, snow and freezing winds. It's disgusting. Or hounds in cages all year long until the next hunting season. Sick. Point? Here we got people who can't
even take proper care of a pet, who don't _care enough_ to take proper care of a pet, having children!
It doesn't jive.
Sorry for going far afield here but it's an emotional subject with me. Like I said above having/raising a child is serious stuff!
How people can take it so lightly angers me to no end. I don't understand it. :o(The older I get, the more I experience, the more I can't stand the human race. I've never been a people person (in HS I wanted to grow up and be a hermit, no kidding) but I'm worse now than ever. I have lost most of my hope so keep that in mind when
reading my posts.
Tho I mean and feel every bloody word I say!Why wouldn't ADOPTING a child suffice ?????
BiPolar and Heritity
http://bipolar.about.com/health/bipolar/msubgene.htmEnough ranting... :o)
poster:Diane
thread:20155
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