Posted by shar on July 17, 2003, at 14:23:50
In reply to Re: » allisonm, posted by Racer on July 17, 2003, at 11:36:53
Racer,
I was blocked (for saying "ungood") while you were in the midst of much of this, but I was reading and you were VERY much on my mind. It's arrogant to think I could have made a difference, but I sure would have wanted to try. I'm sorry about the police...but not. I know you understand, or would if it was someone who you knew and cared for.Here's what I have to offer. My analysis of your situation is that, right now, it is untenable. Any "normal" faced with all this would be worse off than you are, much worse. Life is against you, or it sure seems that way. Many times I've asked myself, what else could happen???? You may be doing that, too, or you may be too tired to even bother.
If you end up with a "gift that keeps on giving" from your ex-lover, do not take that out on yourself also. That is obviously his business, and you are kind and generous to even consider telling his wife. My recommendation about that is, if you get an email from her delete it. If you send one to her, tell her you do NOT want a response. Do not subject yourself to these people who are in pain themselves and looking for a scapegoat.
Racer, you have heart. That's part of the problem, yes, but it is also part of the solution. You are having extra double-plus hard times, times I can't even imagine going through (except the financial problems and unemployment--which is hard Enough!).
Live or die is not the only choice. With so much pain, stress and hassle it may seem so, but it is deceiving you. You can, I will attest, have other options, you just have to be around to greet them. Sorry if I sound like Pollyanna, because I personally .....welll, can't say more about that, might be blocked again.
Wow, is this long enough?? About ten times too long?? Yes!
Shutting up now,
Shar
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