Posted by shar on July 4, 2003, at 13:54:58
In reply to Re: that's just it » noa, posted by Racer on July 4, 2003, at 13:20:32
Racer,
Good morning. I did not know what I'd see when I got on this board, but it's you, and I'm very happy about that.We can move this mountain one shovel ful at a time. I agree with those who say you are in serious grieving mode right now, think of all the loss you've experienced.
Sometimes, when I line up all the things in my life and look at them I have a little 'ah ha' experience, yeah, it makes sense I'd feel like crap and be scattered, etc. If you could do the same it might help a little bitty bit.
Now, as far as wanting to continue on, well, of course, nobody would if that's what they had to look forward to for the rest of their lives. The little catch is, it won't be for the rest of your life; it'll just be until you start divesting yourself of some of the crap you're enduring, and get a little further along in your grieving. Are you weeping and weeping over this lost lover? I hope so! It obviously meant so much to you, and I know that after my last divorce I just shut out the part of myself that was hopeful of being loved or cared for or touched gently or spoken to softly and sweetly. So...weep away, I hope you will.
Weeping followed by a big fit are my two suggestions at this juncture. You will benefit by getting that stuff OUT of you. All that stuff you are quietly, carefully, stoically keeping INSIDE of you--it needs to GET OUT of you however it can. You can tell I'm not terribly creative, but my mundane suggestions might help.
One shovel full at a time, it moves mountains, and we will celebrate each and every little success and grain of sand that you move. We like you, we really, really do (just like Sally Field at the Oscars).
1. Weep and weep
2. Throw a fit
3. Keep us informed on what's going on with you.Now, what therapist could do better than that?!
xoxo
Shar
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