Posted by Ian on September 23, 1999, at 9:10:58
In reply to Re: someone tell me what this is, posted by elle on September 23, 1999, at 7:50:14
Thoughts
Your father represented some kind if not a wholely satisfactory source security sounds like he may have been in part a friend.
With your father gone your husband represents the sole corroborating factor to your self worth. As you've lost your father recently perhaps a part of your mind is saying well what if and you fear losing him too for what ever reason.
I think what is important (but its easy for me to say without two kids in tow) is to diversify your security base i.e try to get out and get involve in some shared activity that will give you a sense of independance and boost your self esteem it could be a part time job or a shared hobby that gets you into a social environment and makes you feel valued as a part of that group. Your marriage is obviously going to be the number one relationship in your life but if you have a secondary network then it will mean you can relax a bit. Neurotic worries about your whether your husband has undying commitment are self defeating as they will strain things.
poster:Ian
thread:11902
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