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Posted by anastasia56 on January 10, 2005, at 11:29:54
In reply to Anybody here live like a hermit?, posted by Angel Girl on January 10, 2005, at 3:41:30
Posted by Slavegirl on January 10, 2005, at 12:21:57
In reply to Anybody here live like a hermit?, posted by Angel Girl on January 10, 2005, at 3:41:30
To what extent? For how long? To what degree? (stupid questions)...just wanting to know where I register on the Hermit Scale. Does it get worse and worse...or do I just go through periods of it..or am I generally becoming a social hermit where I don't feel like going out or being with people. Seriously, I get to the point when I LIVE in jammies, have learned to accept the mess around me without freaking out (Normally I would obsess about every bit of dirt)...and generally just let things fall around me.
SG
Posted by Angela2 on January 10, 2005, at 13:08:30
In reply to Anybody here live like a hermit?, posted by Angel Girl on January 10, 2005, at 3:41:30
Angel Girl,
If I could, I would be a hermit or recluse. Just me, my cats, and my computer.
-Angela
Posted by bimini on January 10, 2005, at 14:43:24
In reply to Re: Anybody here live like a hermit?, posted by Angela2 on January 10, 2005, at 13:08:30
I would like that. I don't have the energy to interact and keep mostly to a tranquil minimum base. I won't avoid massive overload either and will go to concerts and parties, just don't expect me to make any sense later. It has taken me several weeks to recoup from travelling, all goes to mush and gets funky.
bimini
Posted by partlycloudy on January 10, 2005, at 15:08:18
In reply to Anybody here live like a hermit?, posted by Angel Girl on January 10, 2005, at 3:41:30
I would like to live like a hermit, but my <husband> <therapist> <p-doc> CIRCLE ONE OR MORE keep pushing me out there. Coming back to work has been excrutiating. I woke up this morning feeling so yuck and I have had to play pretty with the world and I don't feel like it.
Sometimes I push myself to be out there and it's good for me.
Sometimes I push myself and pay for it in tears, pain, and sleep.
Today is a number 2 day.
Posted by KaraS on January 10, 2005, at 22:11:57
In reply to Anybody here live like a hermit?, posted by Angel Girl on January 10, 2005, at 3:41:30
> I do. Am I the only one?
>
> AG
I live like a hermit too. I have a neighbor in my complex who I am friendly with and she calls me daily. I have been doing some temp work that gets me out a little bit but I'm not up to that lately. I can totally relate to Angela2 when she said it's herself, her cats and her computer. That sounds just like me.My neighbor really looks out for me. She is a loyal friend but she is hard to take at times. She is very holistically oriented and she thinks all I need to get healthy is some acupuncture and reiki healing. It's so damn frustrating dealing with that level of ignorance - and she doesn't let up on it.
I've gone long periods of time where I was completely alone and it's better to have the annoying, but caring, neighbor though.
Anyway, sorry to rant.
k
Posted by cubic_me on January 11, 2005, at 12:59:42
In reply to Re: Anybody here live like a hermit? » Angel Girl, posted by KaraS on January 10, 2005, at 22:11:57
You guys may feel like you live as hermits in physical life, but you are sociable here.
I know I feel more comfortable talking behind a screen, and I don't have to come here if I don't feel like interacting, but I'm interested in what keeps you socialising here when you don't like doing it in real life?
Posted by Susan47 on January 11, 2005, at 15:40:03
In reply to Re: Anybody here live like a hermit?, posted by Crazy_Charlie on January 10, 2005, at 5:15:43
would your life be improved greatly if you lived like a hermit? That sounds kind of mean, really. Is it people you don't like? Aren't you a psych?
Posted by Susan47 on January 11, 2005, at 15:44:37
In reply to Re: Anybody here live like a hermit? » Angel Girl, posted by KaraS on January 10, 2005, at 22:11:57
Actually it's so hard being depressed and I get really angry with everybody when I am. But in reality, Kara, it sounds like your neighbour is a very caring and loyal (I think you even said that, too) friend.
Posted by KaraS on January 11, 2005, at 17:39:38
In reply to Re: Anybody here live like a hermit? » KaraS, posted by Susan47 on January 11, 2005, at 15:44:37
> Actually it's so hard being depressed and I get really angry with everybody when I am. But in reality, Kara, it sounds like your neighbour is a very caring and loyal (I think you even said that, too) friend.
Absolutely she is and I do appreciate that. I'm just tired of the lectures on the horror of medications. I need them to even semi-function and she doesn't understand that. I just don't have the energy or the will to deal with it when she starts on me.
Posted by Susan47 on January 11, 2005, at 22:23:35
In reply to Re: Anybody here live like a hermit? » Susan47, posted by KaraS on January 11, 2005, at 17:39:38
Do you feel she's being a nag? Maybe she is.
Posted by jujube on January 11, 2005, at 23:32:21
In reply to Anybody here live like a hermit?, posted by Angel Girl on January 10, 2005, at 3:41:30
I do sometimes. I like, and actually need, my hermit phases. There are times when all I want to do is go to work, then come home, take my dog for a walk and do things like read and listen to music. It's nice to be alone, and not have to be "on" and "up" all the time. My recent period of self-imposed solitary confinement has gone on much longer than usual, and I am running of excuses for not going out and socializing with friends and family. I am hoping that adding a new med will pull me out of it. We'll see.
Posted by KaraS on January 12, 2005, at 1:27:09
In reply to Re: Anybody here live like a hermit? » KaraS, posted by Susan47 on January 11, 2005, at 22:23:35
> Do you feel she's being a nag? Maybe she is.
She can definitely be a nag. She's one of the most infuriating, difficult and eccentric people I've ever known but she also has a heart of gold (that is if you're on her good side. If she feels you've done her wrong, she'll find a way to sue you and make your life miserable.)
Posted by KaraS on January 12, 2005, at 1:33:58
In reply to Re: Anybody here live like a hermit? » Angel Girl, posted by jujube on January 11, 2005, at 23:32:21
> I do sometimes. I like, and actually need, my hermit phases. There are times when all I want to do is go to work, then come home, take my dog for a walk and do things like read and listen to music. It's nice to be alone, and not have to be "on" and "up" all the time. My recent period of self-imposed solitary confinement has gone on much longer than usual, and I am running of excuses for not going out and socializing with friends and family. I am hoping that adding a new med will pull me out of it. We'll see.
>Sometimes we need those times to recharge our batteries. It's too hard to socialize when you don't feel like it. I suppose if it goes on for too long, then it might take a toll. I think it's also different if you have the options to go out with others but you choose to stay home alone. It's also different if you're getting out and going to work and interacting with others there. I've gone for months at a time with very little human contact. I hope I'm never in that place again.
Posted by Angel Girl on January 12, 2005, at 4:08:42
In reply to Re: Anybody here live like a hermit?, posted by Crazy_Charlie on January 10, 2005, at 5:15:43
Actually, I'm very content this way and there comes the added bonus of not getting into arguments with other people (although there is still the net).
AG
> No. I don't.
> But sometimes I'm convinced that my life would be improved greatly if I did.
>
> But I guess it's not any fun when it's the other way around either....
Posted by Angel Girl on January 12, 2005, at 4:10:42
In reply to Re: Anybody here live like a hermit? » Angel Girl, posted by rainbowbrite on January 10, 2005, at 8:04:26
> when i am depressed i sometimes do but not in general. but i know someone totally hermitized. are you avoiding people?
In a nutshell, yes!
Posted by Angel Girl on January 12, 2005, at 4:15:13
In reply to Re: Anybody here live like a hermit?, posted by Slavegirl on January 10, 2005, at 12:21:57
sg
I am on disability from work. I *only* go out to go to the bank, buy groceries and got to all my doctor and T appts. That's it!!!
You mean there is something other than jammies? I stopped freaking out about my apartment a long time ago unless I know someone is coming over, which I rarely allow. I do however; *try* to clean every once in awhile but not as often as I should.
AG
> To what extent? For how long? To what degree? (stupid questions)...just wanting to know where I register on the Hermit Scale. Does it get worse and worse...or do I just go through periods of it..or am I generally becoming a social hermit where I don't feel like going out or being with people. Seriously, I get to the point when I LIVE in jammies, have learned to accept the mess around me without freaking out (Normally I would obsess about every bit of dirt)...and generally just let things fall around me.
> SG
Posted by Angel Girl on January 12, 2005, at 4:17:25
In reply to Re: Anybody here live like a hermit?, posted by Angela2 on January 10, 2005, at 13:08:30
> Angel Girl,
>
> If I could, I would be a hermit or recluse. Just me, my cats, and my computer.
>
> -Angela
AngelaOops!!! I forgot to mention that I have 2 cats. They're easier than people. Just me, my 2 furbabies, the computer, music and TV.
AG
Posted by Angel Girl on January 12, 2005, at 4:21:04
In reply to Re: Anybody here live like a hermit?, posted by partlycloudy on January 10, 2005, at 15:08:18
pc
Hugs sweetie. I do so feel your pain. I hope you adjust soon. I'm definitely not ready to go back to work and nobody at this point is pushing me to do so. They used to but they now realize that I'm nowhere near ready for that huge step. I wish you well and I hope you don't have to much pain and tears during your adjustment. Hugs.
AG
> I would like to live like a hermit, but my <husband> <therapist> <p-doc> CIRCLE ONE OR MORE keep pushing me out there. Coming back to work has been excrutiating. I woke up this morning feeling so yuck and I have had to play pretty with the world and I don't feel like it.
> Sometimes I push myself to be out there and it's good for me.
> Sometimes I push myself and pay for it in tears, pain, and sleep.
> Today is a number 2 day.
Posted by Angel Girl on January 12, 2005, at 4:24:50
In reply to Re: Anybody here live like a hermit? » Angel Girl, posted by KaraS on January 10, 2005, at 22:11:57
Kara
That makes 3 of us now with the cats. Any more? I can't imagine putting up with that kind of ignorance would be better than living the life of a recluse/hermit. To each their own I guess. I prefer my life where I only have to deal with my family (who don't live with me), although I think they are about ready to give up on getting me out because they know I won't listen to them.
AG
>
>
> I live like a hermit too. I have a neighbor in my complex who I am friendly with and she calls me daily. I have been doing some temp work that gets me out a little bit but I'm not up to that lately. I can totally relate to Angela2 when she said it's herself, her cats and her computer. That sounds just like me.
>
> My neighbor really looks out for me. She is a loyal friend but she is hard to take at times. She is very holistically oriented and she thinks all I need to get healthy is some acupuncture and reiki healing. It's so damn frustrating dealing with that level of ignorance - and she doesn't let up on it.
>
> I've gone long periods of time where I was completely alone and it's better to have the annoying, but caring, neighbor though.
>
> Anyway, sorry to rant.
>
> k
Posted by Angel Girl on January 12, 2005, at 4:28:49
In reply to Re: Anybody here live like a hermit?, posted by cubic_me on January 11, 2005, at 12:59:42
Yes, I do like to socialize here. I don't know, it's just easier this way but I only come to this msg board, others are strictly out of the question for me anymore.
AG
> You guys may feel like you live as hermits in physical life, but you are sociable here.
>
> I know I feel more comfortable talking behind a screen, and I don't have to come here if I don't feel like interacting, but I'm interested in what keeps you socialising here when you don't like doing it in real life?
Posted by Angel Girl on January 12, 2005, at 4:30:50
In reply to Why » Crazy_Charlie, posted by Susan47 on January 11, 2005, at 15:40:03
> would your life be improved greatly if you lived like a hermit? That sounds kind of mean, really. Is it people you don't like? Aren't you a psych?
I know I'm not crazycharlie but why do you think it is mean?AG
Posted by Angel Girl on January 12, 2005, at 4:51:43
In reply to Re: Anybody here live like a hermit? » Angel Girl, posted by jujube on January 11, 2005, at 23:32:21
jujubeYou sound unhappy when you have a prolonged need for a hermit lifestyle. I can understand that. It is certainly not for everyone. I don't have any IRL friends and my family has come to the conclusion that I do it because I want to, so therefore; there are no excuses required. Of course, they will still sometimes try to nag me out to get fresh air.
If you find something that helps you to want to go out and be with people, I would appreciate knowing what it is. That's not to say that I'm unhappy with my current status because I'm very content (at least for now). I do know however; that there will come a time when I will have no choice but to change my lifestyle. At that point, I will need all the help I can get.
AG
> I do sometimes. I like, and actually need, my hermit phases. There are times when all I want to do is go to work, then come home, take my dog for a walk and do things like read and listen to music. It's nice to be alone, and not have to be "on" and "up" all the time. My recent period of self-imposed solitary confinement has gone on much longer than usual, and I am running of excuses for not going out and socializing with friends and family. I am hoping that adding a new med will pull me out of it. We'll see.
>
Posted by Susan47 on January 12, 2005, at 15:56:53
In reply to Re: Why » Susan47, posted by Angel Girl on January 12, 2005, at 4:30:50
Well, if Crazy Charlie is a psychologist, that means he sees people every day, he interacts with them, right? I assume he has to go out to do that. I'm projecting onto him the notion that he thinks he's better off staying away from his clients. I took "A" and made it "Z", and maybe it's the wrong "Z" but he hasn't spoken up yet.
Posted by jujube on January 12, 2005, at 23:16:57
In reply to Re: Anybody here live like a hermit? » jujube, posted by KaraS on January 12, 2005, at 1:33:58
That's it exactly! Having the time to recharge and regroup is so important to my mental health. I need peace and quiet at times to deal with things that have been weighing on my mind. It's much easier for me to deal with problems myself rather than drawing friends and family into my issues. On the other hand, I always make the time when a friend, family member or colleague is going through a hard time to listen. I find that is more therapeutic for me than sharing my own problems.
Tamara
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