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Posted by Joan797 on January 13, 2006, at 8:33:59
And so I returned with the inquiry....
"You never said I had a pretty face..."
"Ahhh but you have a beautiful intellect."
"Ohh, ok. I'm smart but not pretty.
'Boy's don't make passes as girls who wear glasses'"And so the moment of akwardness was smoothed over by humor.
But she sits there afterwards, mad at herself.
Mad that she showed vulnerability.
Mad that she showed vainess.
Mad that she couldn't see the forest for the trees, or in this case, a compliment of utmost importance, because she would rather be told she was beautiful than intellectually stimulating.How sad.
How very sad.And yet, how very human.
Posted by Susan47 on January 13, 2006, at 12:37:59
In reply to She had a beautiful face, posted by Joan797 on January 13, 2006, at 8:33:59
Intellect IS beautiful, that's what's so sad. It's not human at all, it's society and the way it's been set up for us. We're born into it, but we can't change it, and you've written this so beautifully Joan.
Posted by Joan797 on January 14, 2006, at 7:26:26
In reply to Re: She had a beautiful face, posted by Susan47 on January 13, 2006, at 12:37:59
Susan,
Hasn't human nature adapted to society's pressures so much so that we now have girls born to "be" girls, and boys born to "be" boys. I would have let my son play with dolls if he wanted to, but he would rather play with a football. I found a Victoria's Secret catalog in his room when he was 7, Internet porn pictures when he was 8. I even explained that average everyday women that he would be encountering in his life were not like those pictures, but it was no use. Yes, society has spoken. I just fear that it has spoken so often, and so loudly that it's no longer a matter of setting the record straight. It's painfully apparent that in the story above, some of us are simply "born" with the desire to please the eye instead of the ear.I don't know. I talk in circles.
Sadly enough, I'm the subject of the story, and I am embarassed at myself.
Joan
By the way, nice to chat with you again Susan
Admin will explain my situation.
Posted by Susan47 on January 16, 2006, at 23:22:45
In reply to Re: She had a beautiful face » Susan47, posted by Joan797 on January 14, 2006, at 7:26:26
It's okay, I'm as thick as oil. I don't really notice people, Joan, you know? And then when it's all pointed out to me, I'm like, oh. Of course. And then ...
tell me why it's so easy to remember all the bad things.
So terribly difficult to think of the good.
Unless I'm .. in that place. Lately, even the drug has a hard time getting me to That Place. The only one that's safe. Is it possible to train my mind, do you think, Joan? I'm totally off subject here, I realize that. You know me. You know me. :]
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