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Posted by Deneb on October 13, 2005, at 1:14:37
I've ruined my life.
Posted by sleepygirl on October 13, 2005, at 1:14:37
In reply to I skipped my midtern today, posted by Deneb on October 12, 2005, at 16:30:58
No Deneby, you didn't. It may require some fixing, but your life is not ruined. You skipped a midterm - you'll have plenty of midterms and finals, and you will do great because you are very smart. Talk to your professor, see what you need to do (hint: it's not beating yourself up). You can handle this. :-)
Posted by Emily Elizabeth on October 13, 2005, at 1:14:37
In reply to I skipped my midtern today, posted by Deneb on October 12, 2005, at 16:30:58
What has been going on? I noticed that you haven't been around for the past few days. How can we support you?
Best,
EE
Posted by crazy teresa on October 13, 2005, at 1:14:38
In reply to Re: I skipped my midtern today » Deneb, posted by Emily Elizabeth on October 12, 2005, at 18:33:04
Posted by Deneb on October 13, 2005, at 1:14:38
In reply to I skipped my midtern today, posted by Deneb on October 12, 2005, at 16:30:58
I can't see a future.
Posted by crazy teresa on October 13, 2005, at 1:14:38
In reply to Re: I skipped my midterm today, posted by Deneb on October 12, 2005, at 19:00:06
I will be your friend, but I will not give you any sympathy when you deliberately set yourself up like this.
This is cycle you need to break NOW!
Posted by rainbowbrite on October 13, 2005, at 1:14:38
In reply to Re: I skipped my midterm today, posted by Deneb on October 12, 2005, at 19:00:06
go to the doctor and get a note. It may seem like the end of the world but when you break down what it is worth in the big picture, Its about the size of a flea!
One little midterm just can't affect the rest of your life. If it is so catostophic, then maybe drop the class?? Ive had to do it and I felt exactly like you do know and my future is still bright.
Posted by javableue on October 13, 2005, at 1:14:38
In reply to Re: I skipped my midterm today, posted by Deneb on October 12, 2005, at 19:00:06
As others have suggested, go talk to your doctor and professor as soon as possible and see what your options are. It would also be a good idea to go speak with one of the school counsellors to discuss ways of helping you study; I know you were sent from there to your doctor, but study skills are very much within their range of competence. There are ways to keep this from affecting your life too negatively, but you need to stop the cycle now before you hurt yourself more.
Whatever happens, take care of yourself above all. I know how pressing school can be, how it can seem like failure will blot out your future (in fact, just last week I was on the receiving end of a talk like this), but it can always wait if circumstances call for that. Your life can't, and you need to take care of that right now; otherwise, all the educational success in the world won't be enough.
Is there anything we can do to help?
jb
Posted by JenStar on October 13, 2005, at 1:14:38
In reply to Re: I skipped my midterm today, posted by Deneb on October 12, 2005, at 19:00:06
oh Deneb...You really need to learn coping and time management skills! This kind of behavior won't help you be successful in life. :( YOu can't just skip everything that makes you nervous.
That being said, it's still NOT the end of the world. You can pick up and move on from here. Honestly! One skipped midterm, one failed class...it's not the end of the world. You can still get back on track and graduate with a degree, so don't give up now. You've come a long way, and don't lose all the ground you gained.
take care. What are you going to do next?
JenStar
Posted by alexandra_k on October 13, 2005, at 3:31:59
In reply to Re: I skipped my midterm today, posted by Deneb on October 12, 2005, at 19:00:06
hey there. i hate exams. really really really. i used to get performance anxiety real bad. would start stressing big time. when i was an undergrad i used to take 25 mg of chlorpromazine a couple of times a day starting a few days before an exam. it helped with the anxiety but also made me feel a little numb. strange... but it really helped me to get through.
you haven't ruined your life.
really.
but i know it probably seems that way right now.
but you will get through this.
really.
and in a couple weeks time...
you will have forgotten all about this and will be doing well again.it is hard for me to know what to say...
because i don't know what is going on for you and i don't know your reasons why you missed it.i guess all i can do is tell you a bit about me and see if you can take something helpful...
i used to get real bad performance anxiety. i thought i had to do really very well or there was no point doing it at all. what would happen... is that some time during the semester (typically about half way) i would start to really stress. about an essay or a test or something like that. i'd do the assessment (under extreme stress) and then think i'd flunked it (or even worse in my eyes just scraped through). and so i'd end up in hospital because i was freaking out.
and i didn't think i had a future.
and when the results came in...
i'd done just fine.just worried myself sick with stress.
is it about stress like that?
because i think it would really help if you could try and tell your p-doc what happened.or write and tell him what happened.
he may be able to give you a note.
to base your grade on your internal assessment
or to let you sit a late exam.
but you need to talk to him and get something to give to your prof.
its not too late but you really do need to do it at the earliest opportunity that you can for the uni to consider it.
please do this deneb.
i hope... you haven't hurt yourself.
don't beat yourself up
sh*t happens sometimes
you will pull through
really
Posted by Deneb on October 13, 2005, at 10:48:47
In reply to Re: I skipped my midterm today » Deneb, posted by alexandra_k on October 13, 2005, at 3:31:59
I'm trying to study for my psychology midterm tomorrow, but I can't concentrate.
I think the problem is that I cannot see a future anymore.
I don't want to live long.
OK for now
Posted by caraher on October 13, 2005, at 10:52:20
In reply to I skipped my midtern today, posted by Deneb on October 12, 2005, at 16:30:58
I missed a midterm once - it had been rescheduled when I missed class. I now have a PhD. Your life, even just your academic life, is MUCH bigger than one semester or one course, let alone one exam.
See what you can do about it before you give up on the course. More important, do what you can to avoid giving up on YOURSELF!
Posted by alexandra_k on October 13, 2005, at 15:36:47
In reply to I don't have a future, posted by Deneb on October 13, 2005, at 10:48:47
> I think the problem is that I cannot see a future anymore.right now. the problem is that you cannot see a future right now. but thats not because you have a better grip on the future, its because your vision is limited. i know it can be really very hard... but if you just do the best you can with your study... well... i promice you that in a couple days max you will be able to see a future again.
and then... you are going to feel so very proud of yourself for getting through this really horrible rough time.
really.
i know it feels like its forever...
but this is one of those bad patches.
couple days max, couple days max.just hang in there.
(((Deneb)))
Posted by Deneb on October 13, 2005, at 16:29:07
In reply to Re: ((((Deneb)))) » Deneb, posted by alexandra_k on October 13, 2005, at 15:36:47
...that I have to reply. :-)
I didn't feel like replying because I was so very ashamed of what I did. I felt like you have all gotten to know me and expected me to do well. I felt like I let everyone down.
I think my freaking out over the two midterms that day has triggered something within me or something. I got pretty depressed today. I studied for 10 mins then cried for 10 mins, studied for 10, cried for 10 and so on and so forth. I almost went to buy a rope again, but I didn't because I didn't have time to before my chemistry lecture! I'm confused. Do I really want to die or not? If I really wanted to die, I wouldn't have given a darn that I would miss my chemistry lecture!
I can only conclude that I don't really want to die. I just don't know how to cope with things.
I'm still pretty depressed. I don't want to do anything. I need to get myself motivated.
I don't know why I'm so very depressed today and not the other days. I was desperate before, now I'm just depressed. Maybe I should stop messing around with the dosages of my meds...I don't know what is causing what now. :-(
I think my problems are psychological. I need to conjure up more confidence in myself. I need to stop fearing the future.
It's so sad, now that I'm no good at school, I don't really have an identity anymore.
I need to pull myself together! Why can't I pull myself together? Normal people don't think of killing themselves over midterms!! Normal people wouldn't choose a zero over a C!!! I have some serious issues people.
I need my regular p-doc... :-( She always knew what to say to me when I get this way. She always gave me hope and motivation.
Deneb
stillthinksitsagoodideatobuyaropejustincase :-(
Posted by gardenergirl on October 13, 2005, at 17:32:28
In reply to You guys have been so supportive..., posted by Deneb on October 13, 2005, at 16:29:07
You have other choices.
gg
Posted by Deneb on October 13, 2005, at 18:28:03
In reply to You guys have been so supportive..., posted by Deneb on October 13, 2005, at 16:29:07
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