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Posted by Jay_Bravest_Face on December 2, 2008, at 1:00:10
Ohhh...the world has tumbled, cracked before me. I am joining a number of you in this horrid problem. I think I have may lost my job with a place I've been for, for about 6 years.
I've been bawling my eyes to tears since I was "sent home" at about 12:30 a.m. What happened....well, I was left an abrupt note that tonight I would be working in a whole new "area" (different group home) I have not done anything like that in my 6 years. Anyhow, I had never, ever worked this new "area", know *nothing* about it, and the client there is on "probation" because he set one of his other fellow clients on fire. (ya...) I felt uncomfortable going there, with no training and no info on the "area". So, at nighttime, there is one other "boss" above me, who is the "night supervisor". He phones me at my normal place of work, and demands that I go work this other area. I told him "no", and the "boss" was very demeaning and humiliating. I stood my ground...no..no..no. He just acted like an *ssh*l*. Finally, I told him he was still sh*tt*ng in diapers when I started in this field, and just got so fed-up, I told him to go f*ck himself. He then said "Well I am going to send you home." Like as if in Grade 1 or something like that??!! So I just hung up, and left and am now home. I didn't stay because I know he would have called the cops on me to 'remove' me.
So, tomorrow (or today, really) my 6 years of a near *perfect* work record, and have been told that I am the only reliable one out of many by my fellow staff, will hopefully speak for itself.
I phoned my 'normal' boss there and left a message to call him in the morning. I told him I have severe psychiatric problems, and this *better* be handled properly, or else I am going to claim discrimination in the workplace. The stress and pain alone tonight have only been calmed by medications. Driving my way home in tears, i actually for the first time in a very long time had nasty thoughts of just ending it. I was driving, and the telephone poles where attracting me.I have to go for an MRI tomorrow, to determine if *something* is causing my FSH levels to bottom out. Yes, I am a bit scared, because signals in the brain don't just stop.
I don't know how I am going to get through tonight. More pills, I guess. But, no, I wouldn't try to harm myself or attempt suicide, because I have actually healed in that area at they are not issues anymore.
Thanks kindly for reading...
Jay
Posted by Dinah on December 2, 2008, at 7:35:38
In reply to I MAY have lost my job. :((((( **Trigger** S I, posted by Jay_Bravest_Face on December 2, 2008, at 1:00:10
Aw Jay, I'm really sorry.
Keep in mind that I don't know a lot about meds, but is it possible that the testosterone had something to do with this? And might be adding to your thoughts of harming yourself as well? It may be unrelated, but it's always worth discussing these things with your doctor.
I'm not too great at remembering this myself, but things do seem to manage to work themselves out one way or another.
Posted by TexasChic on December 2, 2008, at 7:54:24
In reply to Re: I MAY have lost my job. :((((( **Trigger** S I » Jay_Bravest_Face, posted by Dinah on December 2, 2008, at 7:35:38
Lets not jump the gun, you haven't lost your job yet! Wait and see what they have to say. Try to calm down and take things as they come, okay? Everybody gets upset, and it sounds like you had good reason to be. Give things a chance to work themselves out. Wait and see what other's have to say about this. And if it does come down to losing your job, you can deal with that then. Sometimes bad things happen, but good comes of it. Try to hang in there, and keep us posted! We support you!
-T
Posted by Phillipa on December 2, 2008, at 12:54:58
In reply to Re: I MAY have lost my job. :((((( **Trigger** S I, posted by TexasChic on December 2, 2008, at 7:54:24
Jay agree with Dinah could you say you didn't feel qualified to work in this area alone at night with no experience. This happened to me once in nursing didn't get angry just refused to be charge on a floor I didn't feel qualified for the Nursing Director called me down to her office I explained situation and it was fine. I hope that's how your's turns out. Will you keep us posted? love Phillipa
Posted by Kath on December 2, 2008, at 20:27:06
In reply to I MAY have lost my job. :((((( **Trigger** S I, posted by Jay_Bravest_Face on December 2, 2008, at 1:00:10
Oh Hun,
I am so very very sorry.
Please keep us right in the loop of how you're doing; how you're feeling; what happens.
I'm sending loving, supportive thoughts your way.
This just isn't fair.
much love, Kath
Posted by TexasChic on December 2, 2008, at 22:41:05
In reply to ((((((((((((((((((((you))))))))))))))))))))))))) » Jay_Bravest_Face, posted by Kath on December 2, 2008, at 20:27:06
Posted by Bobby on December 2, 2008, at 23:36:49
In reply to I MAY have lost my job. :((((( **Trigger** S I, posted by Jay_Bravest_Face on December 2, 2008, at 1:00:10
or health too. This has some traits of a classic confrontation of both the seasoned veteran and the young upwardly mobile aggressive ayewhole--as well as the age old testosterone overload. Contrary to what some reports have suggested---I think that testosterone does play a role in aggression--I have witnessed it personally multiple times. And as far as the clash of personalities----I always put my faith in the person who actually cares about what they're doing. Also, if you can, try to look at it this way---I'm sure you have witnessed people acting outside of logic and reason when under stress---say a man who loses it and shouts or worse to a family member as a result of some unknown pressure. you know--like his boss sticks it to him every day at work--and he takes it out on somebody under his control. Maybe ---and I say that loosely---the young boss is under some hidden strain of his own and doesn't have the maturity to deal with it---it happens----and in these difficult times--it doesn't take much to start the fire. Sorry Jay---but I always cling to the hope that good guys eventually win----maybe not the battle--but the war. good luck man....
Posted by Poet on December 3, 2008, at 13:38:05
In reply to I MAY have lost my job. :((((( **Trigger** S I, posted by Jay_Bravest_Face on December 2, 2008, at 1:00:10
Hi Jay,
What horrid news. I hope you didn't lose your job. I wouldn't wish anyone to be in the sinking unemployment or underemployment boat with me and other babblers.
Please let us know how the MRI went. I care about you.
((((((Jay)))))))
Poet
Posted by polarbear206 on December 4, 2008, at 20:05:54
In reply to I MAY have lost my job. :((((( **Trigger** S I, posted by Jay_Bravest_Face on December 2, 2008, at 1:00:10
Posted by Jay_Bravest_Face on December 4, 2008, at 21:45:30
In reply to I MAY have lost my job. :((((( **Trigger** S I, posted by Jay_Bravest_Face on December 2, 2008, at 1:00:10
I am soooo sorry, as I should have replied yesterday. My general anxiety has been through the roof, and I've even been afraid to open my regular mail. But, saw the doc today, and trying some different things.
Okay...about my job...I blew it way out of proportion. My boss said very nice things about me, and no I would not be losing my job. (He kind of snickered about me telling this 'other boss' to go f*** himself...lol.) I am not normally like that, but my anxiety has just been spinning out of control, especially that day this all happened.
I feel bad for not getting back to you guys yesterday...because you are all so supportive and kind. The anxious pain I felt was very real, though. I was crying all the way home that day, and just had to lose my mind by taking a 15 mg dose of Zyprexa. (Max is 20 mg, I think.) No, it wasn't to o.d., just to become all hazy and lose some of that anxiety. I paid for it, though, as my blood sugar went through the roof! Yikes. Not a nice feeling.
Anyways, please forgive me, and I thank all of you...you guys are really only one of my main support systems. Thank you thank you thank you......and I hope to be there for you, too...I try hard, but sometimes not enough.
Peace,
Jay
Posted by Bobby on December 4, 2008, at 22:41:11
In reply to Re: my job....sorry... » ALL, posted by Jay_Bravest_Face on December 4, 2008, at 21:45:30
I'm just glad you're alright----I probably spend too much time sitting on the edge of my seat anyway.Best wishes...and thanks for posting that.
Posted by Kath on December 5, 2008, at 10:39:01
In reply to Re: my job....sorry... » ALL, posted by Jay_Bravest_Face on December 4, 2008, at 21:45:30
> I am soooo sorry, as I should have replied yesterday.
~ ~ ~ don't worry!! You're here now & the main thing is that you're okay~~~>
> Okay...about my job...I blew it way out of proportion. My boss said very nice things about me, and no I would not be losing my job. (He kind of snickered about me telling this 'other boss' to go f*** himself...lol.) I am not normally like that,~ ~ ~ I love it that your boss said nice things about you AND snickered about what you said to other boss!!! LOL. I think the fact that you're not normally like that spoke hugely in your favour. It would make it totally obvious that something else was going on....& that happens to everyone sometimes. ~ ~ ~
> Anyways, please forgive me, and I thank all of you...you guys are really only one of my main support systems. Thank you thank you thank you......and I hope to be there for you, too...I try hard, but sometimes not enough.~ ~ ~ This is a great place for support for me. And don't worry....we are 'here for' others when we can be & the nice thing is that having so many people here makes it likely that at least SOMEbody will feel up to supporting whoever needs it. I had it pointed out to me on Psychology board - how can we 'be there' for everyone, all the time. And yes, there are lots of times for a lot of us when we just can't be there for anyone...we have enough just dealing with our own coping.
(((((((((((((((((you))))))))))))))))
I hope things sort themself out at your work. The thought of somebody getting set on fire by a client freaked me out big-time!!!! Be careful!! Carry a fire extinguisher in a back-pack ;-)
luv, Kath
Posted by polarbear206 on December 5, 2008, at 20:44:45
In reply to Re: my job....sorry... » ALL, posted by Jay_Bravest_Face on December 4, 2008, at 21:45:30
Posted by TexasChic on December 5, 2008, at 21:35:52
In reply to Re: my job....sorry... » ALL, posted by Jay_Bravest_Face on December 4, 2008, at 21:45:30
I'm so glad things are better! Don't worry about staying away, you did what you needed to do to take care of yourself, and that's the important thing. You got back to us when you could - that's what matters.
-T
Posted by Tabitha on December 6, 2008, at 1:34:09
In reply to Re: my job....sorry... » ALL, posted by Jay_Bravest_Face on December 4, 2008, at 21:45:30
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