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Posted by st@cy on December 28, 2003, at 21:08:11
today i heard about a girl i knew dying in a car accident last night. my cousin told me while laughing, i got so angry i shouted, "what are you laughing about. you think it's funny???someone dies and you think it's funny??" that was the turning point of my day. it started out good. i was happy about the hockey game i went to last night and in good spirits, but then i heard the bad news and i was in a depressed mood since. it's not like i knew the girl really well, i partied with her now and again and i saw her around campus. it's just the thought that one more person i know died in a freakin' car accident. i hate car accidents. i was in one a couple weeks ago and it scarred me for life (mentally, not physically luckily for me). i don't know what to think about death, it's confusing. do i cry? do i shrug it off like nothing? what do i do? i get this pain in my chest and i become easily aggitated when i hear about it, but for the most part i feel ignorant as to how i should feel.
Posted by deirdrehbrt on December 28, 2003, at 21:49:23
In reply to this is me dealing with a death.., posted by st@cy on December 28, 2003, at 21:08:11
St@cy,
I think that many people laugh at what frightens them. It's not that they don't respect death, but more that they are terrified of it and the humor is a way of de-fusing it.On the other hand, some people don't laugh. A few years ago, a very good friend and her husband lost their daughter in a car accident. She was 18. She was studying to be a nurse. It was horrible. She was a really good friend to my older daughter. Her death tore up an entire city. There were still the few who would joke, but for the most part, they realized that it was a great tragedy.
The death of someone your own age or younger brings harshly to mind the fact that people OUR age do die. Some from illness, some from accident. Sometimes we don't know when it will happen, and sometimes we do. The point is that it will happen, and it's kind of our job to do our best until it happens to us. Someone said that it's not the length of our days, but how we spent them that matters.
How is it supposed to feel? It's different for everyone. There isn't a prescribed way to feel for any particular situation. When we're depressed, the hurt will be deeper. The guilt may feel deeper, but again, we need to remember that what we are experiencing might be altered by the illness.
Take care of yourself. You are special.
Dee.
Posted by noa on December 29, 2003, at 19:00:15
In reply to this is me dealing with a death.., posted by st@cy on December 28, 2003, at 21:08:11
I can understand why this hit you so hard. So, so sorry.
Posted by st@cy on December 30, 2003, at 23:25:47
In reply to Re: this is me dealing with a death.. » st@cy, posted by noa on December 29, 2003, at 19:00:15
i want to thank you guys for your compassion and sympathy, your words helped me understand what happened better. and i just want to let you know how much words of kindness and guidance can mean when someone is in doubt. thank you again..stacy
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