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Posted by yesac on August 14, 2003, at 15:25:49
In reply to Re: Anyone here today? yesac, posted by kara lynne on August 14, 2003, at 14:37:36
Does the smoke get into your apartment too? Oh I would hate that!! Thank goodness I've never had to live with smokers. So are you saying that you are avoiding meeting them BECAUSE of what you hear through the paper-thin walls? Or just that you wouldn't care about meeting them if the walls weren't paper thin? I'm sure it's not like this, but I have this image in my mind of in the movie Big, when he checks into that ghetto hotel and can hear the people next to him screaming at each other all night.
My neighbors are a little odd. I live in a duplex, so they share a wall with us. The only time I met them actually, was when I locked myself out of my house. It was awful, because here I was like introducing myself and having to say that I locked myself out and needed their phone, did they know the landlord's number... And THEN to top it off, could they drive me to my landlord's house to get an extra key (because of course, my own car keys were locked inside my house)? They were nice about it and did drive me, but I felt so ridiculous the whole time! The dude wasn't very conversational either. Other than that, I say hi to them now and then but that's about it.
I haven't had any side effect problems with parnate except a WICKED DRY MOUTH and lightheadedness. So it hasn't been too hard to stick with actually. I'd like to be able to eat cheddar cheese again though.
I live in NC. I grew up in NH from the time I was 6 (before that Vermont), then went to college in MA. So I'm pretty much a New England girl in the South. I moved here all by myself last October!
Posted by yesac on August 14, 2003, at 16:24:18
In reply to re: Anyone here today? jimi, posted by kara lynne on August 14, 2003, at 14:42:33
Posted by lil' jimi on August 14, 2003, at 16:39:58
In reply to re: Anyone here today? jimi, posted by kara lynne on August 14, 2003, at 14:42:33
hey kara kara,
> Ok, I'm gonna try and settle in. I don't mean to sound like I'm better than anyone here-- in fact I think I feel bad because I've deduced that this is my plight in life.
>well, i was going to try to defend the trailer park folk .... .... but there's only so much one can do ... ... Heh!
> Well, if you can't beat 'em (literally, if I can't beat them)...
>AHG! ... you can't BEAT them!! ... HA!
> You're funny jimi. Keep telling me...all the time! It's working, I haven't called so far!
>No, Ex-o!
No, Ex-o!
No, Ex-o!Don't "Just say" NO! ....
... ... Say, *** ***, ** ***, **, *******, NO!!!i kid you sweetie ... keep up the No Call Policy!
Thank you!
~ jim
> Do you play guitar with your left hand?i wish ...
... ... i can hear "manic depresion is capturing my soul
.... ... i know what i want, but i
... just don't knowwww ...."i haven't any of my right-handed guitar in a loooooooong time ...
xxx,
~ jim
Posted by lil' jimi on August 14, 2003, at 16:47:24
In reply to thunder and lightening » lil' jimi, posted by yesac on August 14, 2003, at 14:56:36
well, i Think i put the windows up in my un-air conditioned neon ... i hope!
> Oh! It seems to rain here practically every single day. When you look at the forecast, for about the past 3 weeks and all through this weekend and next week, it says isolated T-storms, chance of T-storms, scattered showers, rainy, chance of rain... Crazy! There usually is some sun though during most of the day (when i'm inside at work). Last week, I made the ridiculously stupid move of leaving my car windows open (because my AC is broken!) while I went into a store. The weather was sunny and fine. But I was in there longer than expected and I came out and it was absolutely POURING. My seats had puddles on them! I was so annoyed with myself. I was afraid that my car would reek after that but it didn't actually. Well, I learned MY lesson, that's for sure!
looks like another week of wet here too
... ... we needed the rain, but we're fixing to get flooding if it keeps up at his rate ...... hey looky there ... ... the whole northeast is in a blackout ... !
keep dry and thank your little yesac car for not stinking!
~ jim
Posted by lil' jimi on August 14, 2003, at 16:57:05
In reply to weekend fun, posted by yesac on August 14, 2003, at 15:05:28
hi yesac,
> > you and our sweet yesac and y'all's weekend evasions ... ... what can we do to help you guys have fun in general and have fun on the weekend?
>
> Ahhh... Fun... what a wonderful illusion. Well, an illusion to me anyway. An enigma really. I'd settle for Enjoy, never mind Fun!
>okay, let me ask the clueless question here ...
... what would be fun for you to do?
... can fun happen under imaginary circumstances?
... how about go to a comedy club for laughs?
.... or a movie?
... or rent a video?
... if i was there, what would i have to do to make you laugh?
... to entertain you?> It seems like it must be so easy with a loving family right there to spend all your moments with. Sylvia and Robert Santiago. I could be wrong, but it doesn't sound like I am from what I hear!
>you are correct ... ... i have it easy ... easier ... ... there can be stress from having demands and responsibilities, but it all pays off in the immeasurable comfort of having them and the support they provide me ... ...
... ... i am spoiled and i am grateful for my supporters on our home front ... ...
... ... it is a ... luxury ... and i am blessed ... ...
... .. ...
~ jimbo
Posted by lil' jimi on August 14, 2003, at 17:06:02
In reply to Going home... back tomorrow (nm), posted by yesac on August 14, 2003, at 16:24:18
hi Yesac!
Good morning! Welcome back!!
Hope you got a gooood night's sleep!
... and we hope your NC twarnt caught up in that big northeast power outage there!!Glad to be the earliest to greet you this morning!
(it is still 5 PM-ish here this afternoon.... Heehee!)kisses and good vibes!
~ jim
Posted by kara lynne on August 14, 2003, at 17:59:51
In reply to Be nice to the Neighbors!! » kara lynne, posted by yesac on August 14, 2003, at 15:25:49
Yes, they sit outside and smoke and it comes right through my windows and sticks to all the furniture and my clothes. One woman was originally living there who was supposed to be living alone, and then she moved in her bum boyfriend and his bum 18 year old, very loud son. From what I understand the landlord wasn't too happy about it. The son is actually the worst so far in terms of noise. He sits on the phone outside (smoking of course) and bellows to his friends every morning for hours.
But maybe it's a good idea to be nice in case I have to have one of them drive me to the landlord's house... ; )
You are one brave woman to move there all by yourself.
Posted by kara lynne on August 14, 2003, at 18:20:05
In reply to re: Anyone here today? jimi » kara lynne, posted by lil' jimi on August 14, 2003, at 16:39:58
-i haven't any of my right-handed guitar in a loooooooong time ...-
Me neither.
Music sweet music.....
Manic depression's a FRUSTRATING MESS!!
Posted by fallsfall on August 14, 2003, at 21:51:59
In reply to Smoke gets in your eyes..., posted by kara lynne on August 14, 2003, at 17:59:51
Posted by kara lynne on August 14, 2003, at 22:24:55
In reply to Re: Kara, Don't call him! (nm), posted by fallsfall on August 14, 2003, at 21:51:59
Were you reading my mind? I *just* started thinking about him, wondering...
Posted by lil' jimi on August 15, 2003, at 1:21:40
In reply to re: Anyone here today? jimi, posted by kara lynne on August 14, 2003, at 18:20:05
> -i haven't any of my right-handed guitar in a loooooooong time ...-
>
> Me neither.
>
> Music sweet music.....
> Manic depression's a FRUSTRATING MESS!!
... ... "Woman so weary, the sweet cause in vain
... ... "You make love, you break love
... ... "It's all the same
... ... "When it's, when it's over, mama... ... "Music, sweet music
... ... "I wish I could caress, caress, ... caress... ... "Manic depression is a Frustrating MESSSS!"
ah, such sweet memories for me ... ... my hero
... ... his music plays itself in my head ...
... ... i got to see the Experience play houston about 1969
.... .... saint jimi:
... ... all he was, is still .... ....thank you, kara lynne ... ...
~ jim aka "jimi"... ... "Well, I think I'll go turn myself off,
... ... "And go on down
... ... "All the way down
... ... "Really ain't no use in me hanging around
... ... "In your kinda scene"... ... "Music, sweet music
... ... "I wish I could caress, caress, caress
... ... "Manic depression is a frustrating MESS!"... ... "Ow! ow!
... ... "Music sweet music sweet music
... ... "Sweet music sweet music
... ... "Hooo!"
... ...
...
Posted by lil' jimi on August 15, 2003, at 1:34:34
In reply to (((fallsfalll))), posted by kara lynne on August 14, 2003, at 22:24:55
> Were you reading my mind? I *just* started thinking about him, wondering...
and i thank our fallsfalll, very much .... .... !
DO NOT CALL HIM!!(This has been a Public Service Announcemment.
Brought to YOU by ....
EveryOne who loves you!!!)
..
..
..
..
Do
Not
Call
him!!!!!!
Posted by kara lynne on August 15, 2003, at 2:35:50
In reply to re: anyone heard Jimi today? » kara lynne, posted by lil' jimi on August 15, 2003, at 1:21:40
... i got to see the Experience play houston about 1969That's got to be the Experience of a lifetime...
I can hear him through your writing, lil jimi-- now I've got to hear that song!
Posted by kara lynne on August 15, 2003, at 2:57:02
In reply to re: (((fallsfalll))) » kara lynne, posted by lil' jimi on August 15, 2003, at 1:34:34
There you are! What has made you come to understand this so well-- are you just (!) being supportive, or have you witnessed something like this before? I'll take it no matter what the impetus. I especially enjoy the public service format.
This is great guys, my own personal cheerleading team. I've never had so much support. I'll try to remember these messages when I wake up stricken with thoughts of him at 3am...
And then...what should I say should we ever speak again? If he calls in the future? The more time away from him the angrier I am (recovery of self esteem), and the less I could ever 'get over' the things he said and the way he was with me. I wish I could say something clear and strong to that effect-- not that he'd be able to hear it, but for myself.
That's the next thing I'm trying to prepare for. But in the meantime, I'm
NOT
CALLING
HIM.
Posted by lil' jimi on August 15, 2003, at 3:10:54
In reply to re: anyone heard Jimi today?, posted by kara lynne on August 15, 2003, at 2:35:50
hi kara lynne!
> ... i got to see the Experience play houston about 1969
>
> That's got to be the Experience of a lifetime...
>an important one for me, for sure ... They A a a A ten
((okay, this is officially weird ... i was posting to you here in the ol' always-good-for-a-laugh "Enter your post" box ... when ... my computer spontaneously decides to start wrting on its own ... .. ... for instance, the above where is says
"They A a a A ten " ... ... i watched that appear a piece at a time ... by itself ... and i was AWAY (i moved away ) from the keyboard compleltely ... no WAY this could be a virus or a worm .. ... i re-ran my anti-virus program again last night ... did a total scan ... norton found nothing ... because i had used the patch last month on this XP dell ... and i am behind 2 firewalls AND my router ... .... no way i'm being hacked! ... ... but almost no way for that to appear, either ... ... definitely on the "very weird" list ... !!!!!!!) ...
... ... ... anyway ...> I can hear him through your writing, lil jimi-- now I've got to hear that song!
>oh, i can play those songs in my head anytime .. .. ... i'd expect you could hear them, they are so LOUD in my brain ... HA!
i got to see the who, the jefferson airplane about 1968, the yardbirds about 1967, and led zeppelin at the univ of houston ... glory days ... ... my youth ... ... in so misspent, really ..
~ jim
Posted by lil' jimi on August 15, 2003, at 3:33:07
In reply to (((jimi))), posted by kara lynne on August 15, 2003, at 2:57:02
HoooRAyyyy!!!
do not EVEN call him
and if he calls you?
don't even ignore him!
don't even answer the phone, if it's him!i care for you and, as a guy, i know guys are no good in general, and we (guys) must worship any decent women who would have us, and if we (guys) don't ... ... ... we should be ditched ... period.
this dude ain't been good to you ... even Once ...
... .. ... adios!!there is going to be someone who is wating to worship you ... ... the right way ...
sit down
close your eyes
relax
let your breathing settle down
watch your breathing until you relaxnow
raise your hand
reach out in front of you
visualize a knife made of light
it is glowing and clear
it cannot hurt you, so fear not
take the knife by its handle
envision ... it feels slightly warm to the touchnow take the knife and slowly make passes with it in front of your chest
in front of your heart
and
cut all of the ties that bindyou should feel tightness ease
pressures release
breathing should relax moredo this each night before bed time
when you're done each time put the knife back where it came from ... it'll be there
wating for youknives of light can only heal
om ah ra pa cha na dhi
~ jim
Posted by fallsfall on August 15, 2003, at 8:23:18
In reply to (((jimi))), posted by kara lynne on August 15, 2003, at 2:57:02
> And then...what should I say should we ever speak again? If he calls in the future? The more time away from him the angrier I am (recovery of self esteem), and the less I could ever 'get over' the things he said and the way he was with me. I wish I could say something clear and strong to that effect-- not that he'd be able to hear it, but for myself.
>
> That's the next thing I'm trying to prepare for. But in the meantime, I'm
> NOT
> CALLING
> HIM.NOT CALLING HIM is good!
You are wise to prepare for the day when you do see him or talk to him. What to say? You correctly point out that he won't hear what you say. So what you say needs to be good for you. I think you have a couple of choices:
1. "I'm busy right now and can't talk to you" (hangup, or walk away)
2. 2 sentances (no more) that you have memorized so completely that your unborn children know them about how you are moving on.
3. Tell him that you love him and want to come back right away - - - NOO!!!!!!!!! Don't do that!
Whatever it is, I think that the goal has to be to get away or hang up as quickly as possible. I think that a long impropmtu discussion would not be a good thing. You can talk to him, if you still want to, in 6 months.
You are doing really well, Kara!!!!!
Posted by lil' jimi on August 15, 2003, at 9:58:24
In reply to (((jimi))), posted by kara lynne on August 15, 2003, at 2:57:02
Don't make fallsfall and me come over there and take your phone away, Young Lady!!
Or worse!
(lovingly empty threats!)
If you have to call anybody, call Kara Lynne ...
... and tell her
... DO NOT CALL HIM!!~ jim
Posted by lil' jimi on August 15, 2003, at 11:19:51
In reply to Do Not {{{even!}}} Call Him !!! » kara lynne, posted by lil' jimi on August 15, 2003, at 9:58:24
Hi yesac!
How you doing?
we are looking forward to Tropical Storm Erika arriving in south texas tomorrow ... by which time Erika may have gotten all grown up ... ... into Hurricane Erika ....
... .. .. so, either way we should see some more
... rain!But the sun is shining now and has all morning today and we will get this friday with nice if warm weather ...
post back i you're feeling up to it ... ... can't let that Kara Lynne just take over YOUR thread here!!
HA! ... kidding, kara!!
anyone know any jokes?
peace,
~ jimp.s. can we get the Flaming Amygdalas to play a cameo on our tv soap opera "Nights of Our Past Lives: a Karma Production" ?
p.p.s missing you!
Posted by yesac on August 15, 2003, at 11:57:09
In reply to Yesac, posted by lil' jimi on August 15, 2003, at 11:19:51
Hi Jimi,
Thanks for the 5-pm good morning yesterday/today!
Yeah, actually I'm not really feeling too good today at all. I'm at work. Want to leave (heavens knows why - it's not like I have any PLANS or anything!). But I will say that your posts always make me feel a little better!
It is really sunny and nice here too. There might actually not be any rain today, but it rained overnight because my car was wet.
I do feel a bit outside of the loop with the discussions of guitars and Jimi H and bands and Karma. I don't play guitar let alone any instrument. I do like the soap opera idea though.
Never been good with jokes. Not like "did you hear the one about the...." or the "3 _____ walk into a bar, and the first one says ______...." type.
About Noa - she said a few weeks ago that she'd be gone for a while, not sure where or when she'll be back or if she's just taking a breather from pb.
Say hi to Erika for me.
No power outages here. I guess we're pretty lucky. But - let us not forget - NC HAD ITS FAIR SHARE OF POWER OUTAGE LAST DECEMBER!!!!
I feel like I should get in on this so... Kara DON'T CALL HIM!!! But I feel like kind of a hypocrite saying that because I recently emailed my ex-bf and he hasn't gotten back to me which is making me sad (I'm hoping that maybe he's on vacation or something and hasn't checked) - but it's an entirely different situation. We were only together for a couple of months, we certainly didn't live together, I broke up with him more-or-less, and now just want to be friends.
Well, I think I might be going off to lunch soon.
Posted by yesac on August 15, 2003, at 12:23:20
In reply to re: weekend fun » yesac, posted by lil' jimi on August 14, 2003, at 16:57:05
> okay, let me ask the clueless question here ...
> ... what would be fun for you to do?
I try all the time to answer this question for myself. It's a tough one. Simple, but tough. It all really depends so much on mood. In the right mood, almost *anything* CAN be fun. Well, maybe not some things.... But I think just simple things like going out to eat, or staying home and eating, playing card/board games. I've always for the most part really liked playing (most) sports and the camaraderie of a team, provided it's small enough to allow for some degree of closeness and comfort (at least in my case). Those have actually been some of my most fun times was with various teams. But I don't have any team now. Plus, I feel like I'm not in good shape and the motivation factor is a problem. I really want to start exercising again but just haven't been able to get myself to do it. I feel so lazy and lethargic and inert. UGH!
> ... can fun happen under imaginary circumstances?
Imaginary circumstances? Do you mean, can I have fun in my mind sort of thing?
> ... how about go to a comedy club for laughs?
Maybe. Don't know of any around here. Could look into it, and try to find people to go with.
> .... or a movie?
Movies can be okay, much better to go with someone else though. They can be a bit on the pricey side these days, so I try to limit to things that I really want to see.
> ... or rent a video?
Same thing as going, except cheaper! It's a bit of a problem right now though with the current state of my apartment - one of my new roomates has a vcr, I have a tv, but we don't have much living room furniture so we haven't got that stuff set up comfortably.
> ... if i was there, what would i have to do to make you laugh?
Tell me funny stories, joke around with me.
> ... to entertain you?
I don't know, but I'm imagining you putting on some kind of show or something, the way this sounds. You could play your guitar. You could teach me some stuff about buddhism and/or meditation (I just put mediCation accidently - guess I get so used to typing that! - they're practically the same word though... interesting).
I think that there are several main issues in my lack of fun: not many people to do stuff with; don't have the motivation/initiative to do stuff on my own and usually just decide that it's not worth it or I don't feel like it; general depression which often can make it hard to enjoy things anyway.
It's just such a struggle. Sometimes (often, actually), I just can't believe that this is really my life.
Posted by kara lynne on August 15, 2003, at 12:38:49
In reply to Re: Don't touch that phone » kara lynne, posted by fallsfall on August 15, 2003, at 8:23:18
fallsfall,
This is great. You are like the mother I never had (and I mean that in the best of all possible ways). I went to her when I was 17 and told her my boyfriend had been physically abusive. She just looked at me, smiling helplessly.So two sentences about moving on. That's his greatest fear of course, my moving on. I haven't said anything definitive to him since I wrote that lovely email and contradicted it within 24 hours. Then we spoke a few times and I started to buy into his impotent words that he would do counseling and really wanted to be with me. That's the danger in speaking to him, I start thinking crumbs are feasts.
So do I owe him the "it's really over" clarification?
Nah.
Thank you fallsfall.
Posted by kara lynne on August 15, 2003, at 12:42:54
In reply to re: (((jimi))) and the NO CALL Policy » kara lynne, posted by lil' jimi on August 15, 2003, at 3:33:07
That's a beautiful meditation, jimi. I am going to do it. And I also love this:
If you have to call anybody, call Kara Lynne ...
... and tell her
... DO NOT CALL HIM!!
And this morning I'm hearing (I may have the words wrong, but you'll know)
Fly home my sweet angel,
Fly on through the sky
Fly home my sweet angel,
Tomorrow I will be by your side...
Posted by fallsfall on August 15, 2003, at 12:49:10
In reply to Re: Don't touch that phone /fallsfall, posted by kara lynne on August 15, 2003, at 12:38:49
That's the danger in speaking to him, I start thinking crumbs are feasts.
You are wise. And I love how you worded that.
Love, Mom
Posted by kara lynne on August 15, 2003, at 12:58:46
In reply to Re: Yesac » lil' jimi, posted by yesac on August 15, 2003, at 11:57:09
Hi yesac,
I don't want you to feel out of the loop, and I'm sure lil jimi doesn't either. Really I feel like I shamelessly piggybacked your guy's communication to begin with.I am just grateful for any support right now to get through this break up--joking, hyporcritical, whatever. And after I wrote it I realized you guys may never heard of the spin-off "Days Of Our Lives" which is a real soap opera here--or have you?
Anyway, here is our friend The Weekend. I am trying to prepare.
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