Psycho-Babble Relationships Thread 549597

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I think my marriage is over....

Posted by woolav on September 1, 2005, at 7:00:10

About 6 months ago, during a manic episode, I did things that I regret dearly. But, as we all know you cant change the past. I have taken steps since then to control my BP symptoms. I am taking 2 diff. mood stabelizers now etc..I have not had any real manic episodes, but still have suicidal thoughts.
My husband, cant let go of what happened. And since I was not in my right mind, I dont rem. everything that I did. But he doesnt believe that. So, he keeps diggin into the past. Each time, it opens new wounds for him, and even me. But, I think he is ready to give up.
It seems like this "monster" (BPII) keeps following me. And I am afraid that one day it will just get me and that will be that.
S

 

Re: I think my marriage is over.... » woolav

Posted by Phillipa on September 1, 2005, at 21:06:30

In reply to I think my marriage is over...., posted by woolav on September 1, 2005, at 7:00:10

Woolav, I remember from pbabble. But I thought you two were in marriage counseling? Fondly, Phillipa

 

Re: I think my marriage is over....Phillipa

Posted by woolav on September 2, 2005, at 13:55:14

In reply to Re: I think my marriage is over.... » woolav, posted by Phillipa on September 1, 2005, at 21:06:30

Everything was starting to get better. But, he re-opened the past. If you rem. I was talking to men online. But, apparently he has still been checking my old yahoo screen names and emailing some of ppl i chatted with, trying to find out if i had sex with any of them. (i didnt) but it doesnt matter. He is threatening me now, saying if i dont tell him the truth, then he will divorce me. Well, when i tell the truth, its not what he wants to hear. Then he calls me a liar. I told him it seems he wants me to lie and make up some story of a sexual rondavue. He was pushing and pushing me last night saying if i just told the "truth" we would work things out. Well, the truth he wants me to say would actually be a lie, if that makes sense. So, i said yeah, i did it. Then, like a snake, he pushes me and says im a nasty whore. I dont think at this point there is any hope. He doesnt believe the truth and there is nothing i can do to change it. I feel like im am being held together with little pieces of glue and its going to come undone. Im scared, not for myself, because i dont care, but for my daughter. I know she wants a mom, but i feel like this and dealing with my freak parents is too much for me. I can picture myself so peacefully on a mountain or high building and just putting my arms out and falling........

 

Re: I think my marriage is over....Phillipa » woolav

Posted by Phillipa on September 2, 2005, at 19:05:41

In reply to Re: I think my marriage is over....Phillipa, posted by woolav on September 2, 2005, at 13:55:14

I'm starting to think something is wrong with my computer. I didn't get notified of your post. Woolav try again and get him to that counsellor. Did he find anything on the computer. If he didn't then how can he say you cheated? Fondly, Phillipa

 

Re: I think my marriage is over....Phillipa » woolav

Posted by Susan47 on September 2, 2005, at 22:51:45

In reply to Re: I think my marriage is over....Phillipa, posted by woolav on September 2, 2005, at 13:55:14

It sounds a bit like maybe he just wants an excuse to get out of the marriage, sounds like he's too insecure to handle what happened. Maybe he would believe you if he wanted to?

 

Re: I think my marriage is over....Phillipa

Posted by Phillipa on September 2, 2005, at 23:21:24

In reply to Re: I think my marriage is over....Phillipa » woolav, posted by Susan47 on September 2, 2005, at 22:51:45

I know you've given him articles to read on bipolar have you let him read any Threads on here? Fondly, Phillipa

 

Re: I think my marriage is over....

Posted by woolav on September 5, 2005, at 14:57:10

In reply to Re: I think my marriage is over....Phillipa, posted by Phillipa on September 2, 2005, at 23:21:24

Nothing matters anymore..

 

Re: I think my marriage is over.... » woolav

Posted by Phillipa on September 5, 2005, at 16:29:35

In reply to Re: I think my marriage is over...., posted by woolav on September 5, 2005, at 14:57:10

Right now I feel the same way. Fondly, Phillipa

 

You matter to us » woolav

Posted by Damos on September 5, 2005, at 16:42:56

In reply to Re: I think my marriage is over...., posted by woolav on September 5, 2005, at 14:57:10

I'm sorry for what you are going through. Just know that all you are, all you feel and all you're going through matter to us.

 

Re: You matter to us (nm) » Damos

Posted by Susan47 on September 5, 2005, at 23:04:45

In reply to You matter to us » woolav, posted by Damos on September 5, 2005, at 16:42:56

 

Above meant for woolav, but Damos gets it too (nm)

Posted by Susan47 on September 5, 2005, at 23:05:33

In reply to You matter to us » woolav, posted by Damos on September 5, 2005, at 16:42:56

 

Re: Thank You all. I need support... (nm)

Posted by woolav on September 6, 2005, at 11:07:04

In reply to Above meant for woolav, but Damos gets it too (nm), posted by Susan47 on September 5, 2005, at 23:05:33


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