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Posted by Deneb on November 11, 2009, at 16:13:21
I saw pdoc again and I am feeling pretty hopeless again. Pdoc said she has already gone above and beyond for me. She sees most students on a short term basis and since I'm not even taking any classes, she's not even supposed to see me. She said other students are waiting to see her and resources are scarce. She made me feel guilty about seeing her.
I think she doesn't want to see me anymore. She seems at the end of her rope. I think she has given up on me.
When I told her about how I went to see the prof. and waited for him but was too afraid to approach him, pdoc said, "You're kidding me?" I let her down again. I can't do anything right.
I asked about supplementary counseling and she says the waiting lists are long and they are nearly impossible to get into. She seemed to indicate I should snap out of this myself.
When I told her I thought I was depressed she said it was a situational depression and no meds will help with that. She's not giving me much hope here.
She said there was hope for me, but where is the evidence? She's not very convincing.
Posted by tetrix on November 12, 2009, at 0:15:53
In reply to Saw pdoc again, feel hopeless again, posted by Deneb on November 11, 2009, at 16:13:21
(((Deneb)))
I am so sorry you have to go through this..
I often hear of bad experiences students have with counselors available to them. Either the sessions are limited or pdocs are not motivated enough to help. I am not sure whats your Pdocs problem but I really dont like it that she is making you feel all those negative feelings.I am not sure if you have the financial freedom to see a regular therapist, at least once in 2 weeks.. or if you could borrow money from your parents or friends
If you cant afford that, please listen to my advice before you dismiss it. It may sound lame and it will require some time and dedication to work but please try it. Find an activity, I would highly suggest Yoga, but could be painting, singing, martial arts, self defense course, in short something that is physical and creative and requires concentration. Studies have shown that such activities stimulate the right side of our brains and that could lessen the severity of depression and anxiety. But it takes times and perseverance.
I am currently trying to break away from my depression and even though I do see a therapist, I dont put all my eggs in one basket and trust her to magically help me. Talk therapy helps but in combination with other activities that you enjoy and that challenge you, you will get better results.
I am thinking of you and sending you positive vibes, you are not alone.
Posted by softheprairie on November 12, 2009, at 7:00:06
In reply to Saw pdoc again, feel hopeless again, posted by Deneb on November 11, 2009, at 16:13:21
Sounds to me like your pdoc bites. Just because someone has (or has been labeled) BPD doesn't mean they should be left stranded alone. If you go through the official route, can your GP refer you to therapy or another pdoc (not one who works for the university) that your provincial insurance would cover? Even if it is a waiting list, the sooner you get on the list, the sooner you can get their help, I would think.
Posted by Maxime on November 12, 2009, at 11:14:19
In reply to Saw pdoc again, feel hopeless again, posted by Deneb on November 11, 2009, at 16:13:21
I'm sorry that you are going through a hard time with your pdoc. Maybe you can ask her straight out about the things that are worrying you. It seems like you put words into her mouth without meaning too. I know it's easy to do when we feel so rotten. How many semesters of school do you have left? She can't give up on you before you finish. You should probably get yourself on a waiting list for a new one soon.
Hang in there Deb. You are going to be okay.
Take care.
Posted by Phillipa on November 12, 2009, at 11:49:34
In reply to Saw pdoc again, feel hopeless again, posted by Deneb on November 11, 2009, at 16:13:21
So to her when the situation improves you also will improve is that what she means? Phillipa
Posted by Deneb on November 13, 2009, at 3:05:32
In reply to Re: Saw pdoc again, feel hopeless again, posted by tetrix on November 12, 2009, at 0:15:53
Thanks for your suggestions Tetrix.
According to cognitive behavioural therapy, my pdoc is not making me think negative thoughts. I'm just thinking of them myself, but yeah, I think she should have been more sensitive.
I think she may be getting frustrated.
I'm going to look into joining the YMCA. I think you're right in that physical activity would be good.
I'm also getting a low cost student therapist. I just started the process yesterday. The usual fee is $70, but it is negotiable.
Posted by Deneb on November 13, 2009, at 3:07:16
In reply to Re: Saw pdoc again, feel hopeless again, posted by softheprairie on November 12, 2009, at 7:00:06
Thanks for your reply. I'm going to look into getting a pdoc from the community soon. Getting on a waiting list would be a good idea.
I'm also getting a student counselor.
Posted by Deneb on November 13, 2009, at 3:08:43
In reply to Re: Saw pdoc again, feel hopeless again » Deneb, posted by Maxime on November 12, 2009, at 11:14:19
Thanks Maxime
I have 5 more classes to go. It takes a long time though because I keep dropping classes.
Posted by HyperFocus on November 15, 2009, at 22:24:22
In reply to Saw pdoc again, feel hopeless again, posted by Deneb on November 11, 2009, at 16:13:21
A doctor and therapist does not tell their patient they're doing them a favour by seeing them.
A doctor and therapist doesn't ridicule their patient about their social phobia.
A doctor and therapist doesn't try to convince their patient nothing is really wrong with them, and that somehow they're just not trying hard enough. That's malpractice tbh.Need anymore reasons for ending it with this person? You shouldn't. I'm glad you're gettingto see someone else.
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