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Posted by deerock on October 6, 2009, at 15:05:13
hi there,
my therapist is often late to appointments. she stays after too if she is late. and there are also times where she is on time and runs a few minutes over if i am in the middle of something heavy. so its not that she is not giving me my time....but it is that i am almost always on time and frequently rush to arrive on time only to find her showing up 10-15 minutes late. i am often her first appointment...so her door is locked and we walk into the office/building together.
im going to bring it up with her. i wish i had a job where i could show up 10-15 minutes late for meeting, consistently, and not get fired. i doubt my telling her about it will cause her to change. i have brought it up before, i think she was more mindful for some time, more punctual and then went back to her old ways. i guess nobody is perfect.
but sh*t...at least i can show up on time. i wonder how much of this is simply knowing "oh well, whats he gonna do? he needs me...." the kind of thing that she can actually change but doesnt think its important enough to change because she is the one with the power.
all stuff to talk about with her. i know.
thanks for reading.
Posted by Leo Brazil on October 6, 2009, at 15:05:13
In reply to therapist often is late to appts, posted by deerock on October 2, 2009, at 14:19:46
I am going through a similar situation. I always show up on time for my appointment and so does my therapist. But there's something that bothers me. Instead of her inviting me into her office, she stays with her friend (who's a therapist too) in the office to have sex with him while I read a magazine in the waiting room. Sounds crazy doesn't it? Well, a few weeks ago I thought I nuts to imagine that they could be doing it in that office, but yesterday I finally came to the conclusion that it was really happening.
I am going to fire her and look for another therapist.
Posted by yxibow on October 6, 2009, at 15:05:13
In reply to Re: therapist often is late to appts, posted by Leo Brazil on October 2, 2009, at 20:32:13
> I am going through a similar situation. I always show up on time for my appointment and so does my therapist. But there's something that bothers me. Instead of her inviting me into her office, she stays with her friend (who's a therapist too) in the office to have sex with him while I read a magazine in the waiting room. Sounds crazy doesn't it? Well, a few weeks ago I thought I nuts to imagine that they could be doing it in that office, but yesterday I finally came to the conclusion that it was really happening.
> I am going to fire her and look for another therapist.
You're sh*tt*ng me ?? If this is the US there's at least like 27 violations going on there if you actually saw or heard this going on.
I don't know... my therapist is on time... occasionally he has to switch schedules around because he forgets he has a meeting.He's one of the best therapists I've had, so I discount the fact that his scheduling can be a bit scattered.
I think ironically the more ill I feel the more on time I am to appointments and the more I wish I could continue when time ends.
C'est la vie et la vie marche...
But I'd certainly say to take it up with a therapist that, hey, we're a team and I'm on time -- how come you're not, etc... maybe there's a reason, maybe not.
As for your (Leo) therapist.... if you aren't "imagining" that they're having sex instead of having a conference chat (which is perfectly legitimate in a medical LLC, etc).... um... um.... well.... what do they say (not saying you are)... to interject some humour purely..."Just because you're paranoid doesn't mean it isn't true" :)
-- tidings
Posted by 10derHeart on October 6, 2009, at 15:05:14
In reply to Re: therapist often is late to appts » Leo Brazil, posted by yxibow on October 2, 2009, at 23:54:05
>if you actually saw or heard this going on.
Leo has posted about this here:
http://www.dr-bob.org/babble/psycho/20090907/msgs/919342.html
Posted by Dinah on October 6, 2009, at 16:28:31
In reply to therapist often is late to appts, posted by deerock on October 6, 2009, at 15:05:13
My therapist's sessions generally run from ten after till the hour. Or at least he's supposed to give me fifty minutes. Sometimes I have to remind him. If she habitually comes ten minutes late, maybe she'd be willing to change the official appointment time to reflect the reality so that you know what to expect, and get the full amount of time.
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