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Posted by peddidle on September 14, 2009, at 17:01:04
No response necessary.
Posted by annierose on September 14, 2009, at 20:30:07
In reply to Scared, alone, confused, lost... I NEED T!!!!!, posted by peddidle on September 14, 2009, at 17:01:04
can you call your t?
if you can't, sometimes writing them a letter (not necessary to send) is helpful in getting all those unbearable feelings out onto paper.
i'm sorry you feel all alone. you are not. i'm heard you all the way over here.
Posted by peddidle on September 14, 2009, at 20:51:50
In reply to Re: Scared, alone, confused, lost... I NEED T!!!!!, posted by annierose on September 14, 2009, at 20:30:07
Thanks, but no-- I don't have T anymore, that's kind of the point...
Posted by antigua3 on September 15, 2009, at 7:02:44
In reply to Re: Scared, alone, confused, lost... I NEED T!!!!!, posted by peddidle on September 14, 2009, at 20:51:50
Can you tell us what's going on? Has something triggered you?
antigua
Posted by Dinah on September 15, 2009, at 8:29:01
In reply to Re: Scared, alone, confused, lost... I NEED T!!!!!, posted by peddidle on September 14, 2009, at 20:51:50
You do. And it sucks, but she seems firm on not seeing you, from what you said of her email. I don't understand why they don't understand, but sometimes they don't.
No matter how you feel, and no matter what you do, you can't change the reality of her decision. I hate that, but it's true. You've done your best.
So.... What can be done to change the reality of how you feel?
Time will ease the worst of the pain. If you hold on, it will feel absolutely horrible for a while, but it will ease. No one was more attached to their therapist than I was, but when it looked as if I had lost him, the pain did ease to bearable after a while. Distraction helps a lot. What do you have going on that you can focus on?
And as little as you want to see anyone else, seeing someone else can be a good distraction too. You don't have to see them forever. You can even interview a few. For right now, maybe you can see it as something to ease the pain now?
Posted by peddidle on September 24, 2009, at 19:13:35
In reply to Scared, alone, confused, lost... I NEED T!!!!!, posted by peddidle on September 14, 2009, at 17:01:04
Posted by Dinah on September 26, 2009, at 13:38:45
In reply to I HAVE TO SEE T-- I CAN'T FUNCTION WITHOUT HER!!!! (nm), posted by peddidle on September 24, 2009, at 19:13:35
I wish therapists let clients decide when to terminate.
Is she at all open to it? It takes two to have any sort of relationship, and you can't continue to see her if she won't see you. No matter how bad you feel, you can't feel bad enough to change her actions. That's true of anyone, and possibly even more true with therapists. I think therapists get armored with supervision and enough clinical support for their position that they very well can see your pain as more evidence that they've made the right decision.
One day my therapist will likely hurt me. He'll hate to do it, but his knowledge of how much pain it will cause me won't stop him from doing what he thinks he needs to do.
*If* she's not open to seeing you, what can you do to ease the pain? She's not under your control. What can be in your control to help? I know you hate the idea of seeing another therapist, especially if you won't be there long. But having a therapist, even one you resent for not being *your* therapist might help with the pain.
Is hospitalization what you need? If you aren't able to function right now, or if you feel that you are in any way a danger to yourself, I can tell you that others in your position have found themselves better able to cope when they got out of the hospital than when they went in. I've asked my therapist to hospitalize me if/when he terminates me.
You need to keep yourself safe. The pain will get less over time. It's hard to believe, but it's true. You need something to help you through until that point.
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