Posted by Dinah on September 26, 2009, at 13:38:45
In reply to I HAVE TO SEE T-- I CAN'T FUNCTION WITHOUT HER!!!! (nm), posted by peddidle on September 24, 2009, at 19:13:35
I wish therapists let clients decide when to terminate.
Is she at all open to it? It takes two to have any sort of relationship, and you can't continue to see her if she won't see you. No matter how bad you feel, you can't feel bad enough to change her actions. That's true of anyone, and possibly even more true with therapists. I think therapists get armored with supervision and enough clinical support for their position that they very well can see your pain as more evidence that they've made the right decision.
One day my therapist will likely hurt me. He'll hate to do it, but his knowledge of how much pain it will cause me won't stop him from doing what he thinks he needs to do.
*If* she's not open to seeing you, what can you do to ease the pain? She's not under your control. What can be in your control to help? I know you hate the idea of seeing another therapist, especially if you won't be there long. But having a therapist, even one you resent for not being *your* therapist might help with the pain.
Is hospitalization what you need? If you aren't able to function right now, or if you feel that you are in any way a danger to yourself, I can tell you that others in your position have found themselves better able to cope when they got out of the hospital than when they went in. I've asked my therapist to hospitalize me if/when he terminates me.
You need to keep yourself safe. The pain will get less over time. It's hard to believe, but it's true. You need something to help you through until that point.
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