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Posted by sassyfrancesca on October 23, 2008, at 8:48:36
...about myself.
It took training and time, but I decided (after living a lifetime of abuse, etc)...to re-train my thoughts, and NEVER say outloud anything negative about myself......because what we put into our heads stays there and affects us.
Sometimes it is SO tempting to join a conversation with women friends complaining about weight, etc...but i BITE my tongue and refuse to do it.
I also write down positive, nice compliments that people say to me.
I may be thinking something about myself negatively (can't help that), but I refuse to make it "real' by saying it out loud.
Hugs, Sassy
Posted by Phillipa on October 23, 2008, at 13:02:12
In reply to I Made a Decision to NEVER Say Anything Negative, posted by sassyfrancesca on October 23, 2008, at 8:48:36
Wow what an accomplishment. Seems if I say something positive about myself outloud someone smashes me down. For instance I'm losing weight but don't need too. Answer Well that's wonderful. I guess I did it wrong as written it looks like I said the negative they said the positive. Well you got it keep it up. Love Phillipa
Posted by sassyfrancesca on October 23, 2008, at 14:00:36
In reply to Re: I Made a Decision to NEVER Say Anything Negative » sassyfrancesca, posted by Phillipa on October 23, 2008, at 13:02:12
> Wow what an accomplishment. (Thankyou, sweetie)
Seems if I say something positive about myself outloud someone smashes me down.
Keep right on doing it. Make it a (((Phillippa) habit.
For instance I'm losing weight but don't need too. Answer Well that's wonderful.
Jealousy is usually at the root of those kinds of remarks.
I guess I did it wrong as written it looks like I said the negative they said the positive. Well you got it keep it up. Love Phillipa
Celebrate yourself!!
Love, Sassy
Posted by antigua3 on October 24, 2008, at 9:06:37
In reply to I Made a Decision to NEVER Say Anything Negative, posted by sassyfrancesca on October 23, 2008, at 8:48:36
That's quite an accomplishment and I commend you.
I'm getting better at it as I get older and the wrinkles keep showing up in different places and I realize we only have a set amount of time here on Earth.
Sometimes it feels narcisstic to me, but that's because I trained myself to do exactly the opposite. It's so easy to do it for my kids, but not for me.
antigua
Posted by sassyfrancesca on October 24, 2008, at 10:21:52
In reply to Re: I Made a Decision to NEVER Say Anything Negative » sassyfrancesca, posted by antigua3 on October 24, 2008, at 9:06:37
Hey, sweetie: Thankyou! Anything you set your mind to, I think you can do......and I was DETERMINED to not allow anyone (and myself) to never say negative things about me...after a childhood of abuse and 31 years of abusive marriage.
We need to love ourselves, and yes...we only have a certain amount of time on earth....why not make it the best it can be?
There is ALWAYS someone ready to shoot you down; that is because THEY have problems!
Hugs, Sassy
Posted by Phillipa on October 24, 2008, at 19:49:23
In reply to Re: I Made a Decision to NEVER Say Anything Negative » sassyfrancesca, posted by antigua3 on October 24, 2008, at 9:06:37
Me too always putting myself down just did when reading a post and thought boy how stupid I am. Phillipa
Posted by Phillipa on October 24, 2008, at 19:52:03
In reply to Re: I Made a Decision to NEVER Say Anything Negati » antigua3, posted by sassyfrancesca on October 24, 2008, at 10:21:52
Sassy you attitude is incredible. Love Phillipa
Posted by happyflower on October 26, 2008, at 19:40:51
In reply to I Made a Decision to NEVER Say Anything Negative, posted by sassyfrancesca on October 23, 2008, at 8:48:36
That is a good thing to do. I tend to say bad things about myself even if I don't believe it, how is that for messed up? lol
Posted by sassyfrancesca on October 27, 2008, at 9:12:42
In reply to Re: I Made a Decision to NEVER Say Anything Negati » sassyfrancesca, posted by Phillipa on October 24, 2008, at 19:52:03
(((Phillipa)): You are SUCH a sweetie....Thankyou...Hugs, Sassy
Posted by sassyfrancesca on October 27, 2008, at 9:16:11
In reply to Re: I Made a Decision to NEVER Say Anything Negative » sassyfrancesca, posted by happyflower on October 26, 2008, at 19:40:51
O.k. Happy gurl friend twin......Just STOP it. I want you to attend my classes (LOL)....you can do anything you want to (except for maybe be President?), LOL
It just takes practice; after all, you didn't come to believe or have these negative things put into your head in one day, right!!
You (and everyone) was born innocent and lovely...it's OTHERS who said and did ugly (lies) to and about us.
You can re-program yourself, now repeat after me: I will NOT say anything out loud negative about myself....no matter how hard I want to, I will bite my tongue!
Love, Sassy-twin
You have done fabulous things with your life....now WRITE that down!
Posted by happyflower on October 27, 2008, at 23:07:24
In reply to Re: I Made a Decision to NEVER Say Anything Negati » happyflower, posted by sassyfrancesca on October 27, 2008, at 9:16:11
Anything?????????? LOL, You know me, you shouldn't say I can do ANYTHING, lol.
Posted by sassyfrancesca on October 28, 2008, at 13:41:15
In reply to Re: I Made a Decision to NEVER Say Anything Negati » sassyfrancesca, posted by happyflower on October 27, 2008, at 23:07:24
You are right!!! Let me revise that.....go on that interview; be the star that you are!
Be the success that everyone ELSE sees!
Hugs, Sassy-twin
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