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Posted by muffled on January 16, 2008, at 0:12:50
That sucks.
Oh well.
M
Posted by TherapyGirl on January 16, 2008, at 6:24:49
In reply to I kinda afraid to post., posted by muffled on January 16, 2008, at 0:12:50
Don't be afraid, Muffly.
Okay?
Posted by JoniS on January 16, 2008, at 7:19:39
In reply to I kinda afraid to post., posted by muffled on January 16, 2008, at 0:12:50
Hi Muff
I'm not sure why you're feeling this way, but I hope it passes quick. I need to be able to look on Babble frequently and read what my friends have to say - including, especially Muff.
I recently thought about my posts and what people think of what I say. I didn't realize that there were several people reading who are thinking something along the lines of "... get over it... why are you so close to your T... why do you allow yourself to continue with those feelings..." Anyway, I don't want to open a can of worms, but I just wanted to say that I thought about that and I decided there are sooo many more who are supportive, empathic, helpful, and so on.. that I'm not gonna let it bother me that some see my name on the post and go ...oh no, ot another whining post...
he he he thanks to you and all who support me here on Babble.
Muff - don't be afraid - we care and L__e you! (I bet you didn't want to see the "L" word) hee hee hee.
((((((Muff))))))
Posted by sunnydays on January 16, 2008, at 9:33:42
In reply to I kinda afraid to post., posted by muffled on January 16, 2008, at 0:12:50
It's ok muffly. I got good responses to my post above... so I think you'll get good responses to whatever you want to post. It's ok to stay off the board if you're scared, but if you think it might help, we're all still here and still the same to support you with whatever you want to post.
sunnydays
Posted by muffled on January 16, 2008, at 12:23:22
In reply to Re: I kinda afraid to post. » muffled, posted by sunnydays on January 16, 2008, at 9:33:42
I journal more when I don't post, so thats proly a good thing.
But then I know others posts have helped me on my journey, and made me feel less alone.
So then I want to post to help others.
I guess babble is just like IRL. You gonna get hurt.
I just been 'doing' and not trying to think too much.
But stuff builds.
But I been thinking some, and working to try and understand why I feel what I feel.
Trying to be more organized and functional.
I realize I got to resolve DH issues.
I goto keep working w/my ikids, that part is going fairly well.
I want to learn to be able to actually speak of myself out loud.
I want to be able to allow emotions that I do not allow now.
I am improving.
I was thinking mebbe I can just quit T now....
But I guess I goto resolve a couypla things THEN I can quit.
I wanna quit.
Sigh.
Hang in there guys.
M
Posted by ladybugsmom on January 16, 2008, at 17:52:06
In reply to I kinda afraid to post., posted by muffled on January 16, 2008, at 0:12:50
I know I am new here and have only asked questions and have not really answered but please don't get discouraged about therapy. You are doing alot of good work. It is just alot of hard work and can get tiring! You are in my thoughts and prayers!
Posted by star008 on January 16, 2008, at 21:10:21
In reply to Re: I kinda afraid to post. » muffled, posted by JoniS on January 16, 2008, at 7:19:39
I have been afraid to post.. afraid someone is going to squash me like a bug and make me feel bad.
Posted by star008 on January 16, 2008, at 21:33:17
In reply to thanks guys, posted by muffled on January 16, 2008, at 12:23:22
hey fist,,
don't quit yet while the kids are still running around yelling and causing trouble.. there is another reason you want to quit.. tell me about it if you want.. you can babblemaill. muffled can't fool the star!!! >wimpy punch<< i like you
Posted by muffled on January 16, 2008, at 21:42:14
In reply to Re: I kinda afraid to post. » muffled, posted by ladybugsmom on January 16, 2008, at 17:52:06
Posted by muffled on January 16, 2008, at 21:44:52
In reply to Re: thanks guys » muffled, posted by star008 on January 16, 2008, at 21:33:17
Nope can't fool the star!
But I just chillin for now....
M
Posted by JoniS on January 16, 2008, at 21:46:16
In reply to thanks guys, posted by muffled on January 16, 2008, at 12:23:22
Funny Muff...
"...I am improving.
I was thinking mebbe I can just quit T now....
But I guess I goto resolve a couypla things THEN I can quit.
I wanna quit.
Sigh..."You sound just like me -- with anti-depressants "... I'm doing good so I think I'll quit..."
Do what is best for you. But if I were you, I would hang in there for the long term. It has been a huuuuge help for you. ...I could be wrong...
Take good care! I envy you - you have a good T, and she's not gone for 3 and a half months... :-(
Posted by star008 on January 16, 2008, at 21:49:26
In reply to ROFL!! :-) Made me smile!!! :-) Dent! » star008, posted by muffled on January 16, 2008, at 21:44:52
you chill baby.. there is a time to chill and it is good for you.. babble can make you tired and sad
Posted by muffled on January 16, 2008, at 21:54:02
In reply to Re: thanks guys, posted by JoniS on January 16, 2008, at 21:46:16
Yeah, she OK I guess. My T.
Her life been kinda crazy some the last while. Stuff thats out of her control, but takes up all her time. I think she tired. How dare she be human!!! ;-)
Leastaways it seems to correspond with a good patch I am having, so thats good.
I dunno. I just kinda tired of trying to expose myself with words. I still find it hard.
I am frustrated.
So remind me, when does your T return? Have you had any contact? Did you send him an email? Are you hanging in there ok? Is it getting ANY easier? Even a tiny bit at times? Are you keeping busy? Or trying to?
Nosey aren't I???? :-o !!!
Just you seem nice Joni and I wish you well.
M
Posted by JoniS on January 16, 2008, at 21:56:26
In reply to i am afraid too mufffled, posted by star008 on January 16, 2008, at 21:10:21
We wont let anybody squash you!
I enjoy your posts and appreciate you.
:-)
Posted by star008 on January 16, 2008, at 22:03:34
In reply to Re: i am afraid too mufffled » star008, posted by JoniS on January 16, 2008, at 21:56:26
thanks joni
that is really nice to hear.
Posted by MissK on January 16, 2008, at 22:34:10
In reply to Re: thanks Joni » JoniS, posted by muffled on January 16, 2008, at 21:54:02
> just kinda tired of trying to expose myself with words. I still find it hard.
This seems to be a hurdle for you, which I hope you will get over.
It made me think of an idea: have you ever thought about maybe buying one of those hand-held voice recorders and practice first in private 'talking out loud' about yourself. You can make up a list of questions at first and answer them in the recorder, then maybe work up to just talking about what you want to talk about yourself, maybe along the lines of what you write in your journal. You can journal into with words in the recorder. That way you can hear yourself and kind of get used to hearing your own words about you and your thoughts out loud. It may make you feel more comfortable then doing more with your T.
Posted by JoniS on January 16, 2008, at 23:25:54
In reply to Re: thanks Joni » JoniS, posted by muffled on January 16, 2008, at 21:54:02
Muff said:
...I am frustrated...sorry you are frustrated. I recommend physical activiy (sound familiar? you always rec it, and I agree it helps!) also, sleep on it a day or so and I bet it will pass
Muff said:
So remind me, when does your T return?Me: March 31 only 68 more days ... piece of cake! 30 down, 68 to go...
Muff:
Have you had any contact? Did you send him an email?Me: No email, but he texted me last week to say thanks for the book. I sent him a book (amazon) on therapist self care. I wasn't looking for it, it was recommended - I guess the amazon computer thinks I'm a T from all the T books I order - trying to figure out my T... he he he ROFL
in a way I was disappointed to get text because it hints at "no reply needed" I see it as an overt communication saying he didn't want to hear back from mebut - then, he called Monday, strange coincidence cause I had just left a message with his part time colleague who's sort of standing in for him. I was so down, depressed and crying so much I had to take a zanex. Anyway, my T called but it was not related to me leaving a message with other T, he was calling to ask me an accounting question. we very briefly chatted, my zanex had me calmed down pretty good by then, but it was sooo good to hear his voice. That gave me a lift for a day or two.
Muff:
Are you hanging in there ok? Is it getting ANY easier? Even a tiny bit at times? Are you keeping busy? Or trying to?
Nosey aren't I???? :-o !!!
Just you seem nice Joni and I wish you well.awh....:-)
I'm hanging in. yes, it gets a tiny (emphasis on TINY) bit easier at times, but the deep sorrow rears its ugly head every day or two. Staying busy helps lots.
I'm having some stupid thoughts lately that he wont come back, and that I suffocate him with my dependency,... blah blah blah ... I have to work at getting those thoughts/worries out of my head.
Thanks for caring Muff!
Posted by JoniS on January 16, 2008, at 23:35:02
In reply to Re: thanks Joni, posted by JoniS on January 16, 2008, at 23:25:54
Posted by star008 on January 17, 2008, at 3:49:55
In reply to Re: thanks Joni, posted by JoniS on January 16, 2008, at 23:25:54
Joni,,
i haven't been paying attention.. i knew your T was gone but didnt' know it was for so long a time.. I am sorry and I hope you are okay. How is the one who is covering for him?? are you seeing him instead?? It is such along time to wait for A T to come back. I wouldn'
t wnt to switch T's but it would be nice if you could find someone good to take his place for awhile.. sounds too alone..I guess I could do it if I had to.. ahhhh i don't know.. might have to find someone else..
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