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Posted by wishingstar on December 6, 2006, at 22:01:17
For once, I have some good news to share. Something happened and it has left me feeling so good.
Laurie called me today. The old T that I saw this summer and liked so much. She called just to see how I was doing and say she was thinking of me. Unfortunately I missed her call because I was in the shower, but she left a message that was at least a minute long just saying she was thinking of me, hoped Ginny was treating me well, was glad to hear she wasnt the only crazy T out there (because I'd left her a message telling her something ginny did that I used to tease laurie for), wishing my happy holidays, etc. She said she'd like to hear from me and hear how I'm doing. I called her back and she didnt answer :( so I told her when she could reach me if she wanted to.. or else I'll just leave her a long message one day soon and tell her how I'm doing.
I am so incredibly touched that SHE called ME just to see how I was doing. It makes me feel so special and cared about. Like I'm more than just another check for her at the end of the hour. When I finished with her she told me I could leave her messages whenever I wanted and she may or may not call back, but I only did it once, and it was several weeks ago. I didnt want to be just some patient who wouldnt go away, or hang on inappropriately. But then she called me!!
Okay okay, it's a bit of an overreaction on my part. I know. But at least it's in a good way.
And the hurt and anger towards Anne are continung to fade. I still have hard, sad moments but overall, I dont care so much anymore. I dont need her. I certainly dont miss having her for my T. SHE is unprofessional and simply just bad at what she does, in my opinion. What I needed from her wasnt ridiculous or as crazy as I started to believe it was. I dont need that woman.
I just thought you guys might like to hear that. As terrible as things have been in the last few months, I'm feeling really good right now. :) There are wonderful Ts out there.
Posted by Daisym on December 7, 2006, at 0:39:07
In reply to im happy today, posted by wishingstar on December 6, 2006, at 22:01:17
I'm glad for you. Hang on to that feeling of being cared for because you are, and you deserve to be.
I'm glad SHE called YOU. It is such a nice gesture. My therapist will do that too, and though I'm still surprised, I always end up with this little smile. Aren't we lucky?
Sometimes people will say that a therapist should not call a client/patient. That this is disruptive, or makes the client feel like the therapist believes the client can't make it without them. But you know - I've never heard a client say that. And I even asked my therapist once when he called me, "why did you call?" He said he called because he was thinking about me and worrying a little - because he knew I was having a hard time. So he thought he'd check in and just remind me that he was there for me. Then he asked me if it was OK - did I want him to not ever call first? I said no. I was touched.
So I'm glad Laurie reached out and touched you. You certainly deserve it after the past few months you've had.
Thanks for sharing.
Daisy
Posted by wishingstar on December 7, 2006, at 8:54:48
In reply to Re: im happy today » wishingstar, posted by Daisym on December 7, 2006, at 0:39:07
thanks Daisy. I agree with you completely. I suppose there may be rare instances/clients in which the therapist calling first could be harmful (ie, if someone was highly dependent, in an unhealthy way), but for the vast majority of cases, I dont believe there's harm in it. In fact, like you said too, it makes me feel so cared for and supported. It deepens the connection for me and makes her more of a real person who does indeed exist outside of the therapy room (because sometimes it doesnt seem like it!) I havent seen Laurie for about at least 2 months now, but I know she's still there and I really was part of her life, even though not in a "real" sense, for some time. It's a wonderful feeling to know that I'm important.
I'm glad your T does that as well. :)
Posted by wishingstar on December 7, 2006, at 8:55:18
In reply to Re: im happy today, posted by wishingstar on December 7, 2006, at 8:54:48
Posted by Dinah on December 7, 2006, at 8:56:00
In reply to im happy today, posted by wishingstar on December 6, 2006, at 22:01:17
Posted by muffled on December 7, 2006, at 15:13:08
In reply to im happy today, posted by wishingstar on December 6, 2006, at 22:01:17
Thats SO nice to hear. Thanks for posting that WS.
I crazy happy for you and you SO deserve it, you had a rough time!!!!
:)
Muffled
Posted by wishingstar on December 7, 2006, at 23:08:02
In reply to im happy today, posted by wishingstar on December 6, 2006, at 22:01:17
Posted by TherapyGirl on December 8, 2006, at 20:25:30
In reply to im happy today, posted by wishingstar on December 6, 2006, at 22:01:17
Congratulations, WS. You've gotten a glimpse of the other side. Whether it lasts or not, you will remember it was there and know that you can get back to it.
I'm so glad Laurie called you. I think she's one of the good ones and that the times she's disappointed you have been because she's human.
UNLIKE Anne, who is both clueless and mean, as we've discussed before. :-) I'm glad you're finding it easier to put that away. Little bits at a time...
I've been away from Babble for a few days because of my crazy schedule now that I have a new job, but I was really, really happy to see this from you tonight. It warms my heart to think of you smiling.
Posted by wishingstar on December 9, 2006, at 23:17:51
In reply to Re: im happy today --- YAAAAAAYYYYYYYYYY!!!, posted by TherapyGirl on December 8, 2006, at 20:25:30
thank you therapygirl. but as you mentioned, yeah, it didnt last. i am on a steep downward spiral right now. it was fun while it lasted, right?
i still havent called laurie back, but im going to do it tomorrow sometime. im performing in the nutcracker this weekend and i just dont have the energy to. im performing terribly and i just dont care. sigh.
thank you.
Posted by TherapyGirl on December 10, 2006, at 11:18:02
In reply to Re: im happy today --- YAAAAAAYYYYYYYYYY!!! » TherapyGirl, posted by wishingstar on December 9, 2006, at 23:17:51
I know about the downward spirals, too, unfortunately. Try to remember that you glimpsed the other side, though. That might help until you get a longer-term respite on that side.
((((((((WS))))))))
Posted by wishingstar on December 10, 2006, at 22:17:01
In reply to Re: im happy today --- YAAAAAAYYYYYYYYYY!!! » wishingstar, posted by TherapyGirl on December 10, 2006, at 11:18:02
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