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Posted by LadyBug on August 25, 2006, at 13:50:48
I want to talk to my T so bad today. I saw her last night and we talked about my awful marriage. It stirred every emotion up for me and now I'm stuck to dealing with it alone and I'm overwhelmed with sadness, hurt, anxiety and depression. When I left her office, she said "See ya next Thursday." I've tried not to call her lately as I'm working on being less dependant on her. But today it's killing me. If I had the means I would move this weekend. I've had enough of my husband and I can't deal with his choices any longer. I can't stand to even be near him. We've been married for 22 years so this is a hard decision for me to make. My T told me that I just need to take a leap of faith and move out. I know it will be hard financially but I'm to the point that I'd rather live in the street! I know my T can't resuce me. Years ago I would have wished her too. But I need her support right now. I will not call her, I will write in my journal, e-mail my friends or whatever I can think of. I don't want to go to my family at this point. I don't even know why for sure. I'm just sick to my stomach. I will survive. I know my T might not even give me comfort. I don't know, I'm full of anxiety as this is a pretty untimely issue that has come up and I need to get out of my home as soon as I can. No abuse or danger, just had enough. Sorry for rambling!! I'm just trying not to bug my T right now.
LadyBug
Posted by ElaineM on August 25, 2006, at 14:13:07
In reply to I want to call my T?, posted by LadyBug on August 25, 2006, at 13:50:48
((((LadyBug)))) It sounds like you're really trying to have a stiff upper lip. Deciding to leave your marriage must be a really difficult decision to make -- even if you're not in "danger". Having never been married myself, I can't truly understand how it must feel. But it sounds like you're trying to protect yourself and do what's healthiest for you.
I'm worried though that you feel like you have to do it all alone -- no family, no T? You shouldn't have to go through this without even one of your supports. I mean, you know yourself better, but do you think it might be better to wait until later to work on your "dependence" on your T? I don't know, I only want you to have some comfort available. I guess you could do both -- cope on your own, but then not feel too bad if you do need to call her. Is your desire to do this without too much help from her, because you worry that she won't be there if you ask? Don't worry about rambling or posting -- do it, especially if it's helping you.
((((Ladybug)))))I'm thinking of you, EL
Posted by muffled on August 25, 2006, at 15:08:48
In reply to I want to call my T?, posted by LadyBug on August 25, 2006, at 13:50:48
Can you limit to say 2 calls/week?
That way, you have the comfort of know you CAN call if you need to. sometimes that helps ALOT. Even if you don't call!!!
Do you have a good PLAN, regarding moving out?
Regarding how much its gonna cost, where your gonna go, what you can take with you etc. Are there children involved? Do you need to have a lawyer?
I dunno your situ. But if you have a car, you can live quite comfortably in it for a time. Not so good in winter though. I could give ya lotsa tips on car living if you need them.
Yeah, and babble is a GREAT distraction I have found, for when you struggling.
Sorry its so hard.
Don't be afraid to lean on any irl friends you might have. It makes others feel better to help others.
Dunno how it is with your family? Families can be SO troublesome at times......
And of course, if you truly think your in trouble, OF COURSE, call your T.
Other than that, I would try the 2/wk limit and see how that goes.
Take care, good luck, and thanks for keeping ME outta trouble for a bit!
Muffled
Posted by happyflower on August 28, 2006, at 4:22:56
In reply to Re: I want to call my T? » LadyBug, posted by muffled on August 25, 2006, at 15:08:48
Ladybug,
Do you live near me? Maybe we could move in together, leave our DH's and make our lives so much better. I say call your T if you still feel you need to. ((((Ladybug)))))))))
Posted by Dinah on August 28, 2006, at 21:03:40
In reply to I want to call my T?, posted by LadyBug on August 25, 2006, at 13:50:48
Did your therapist tell you you were calling too often or ask you to call less? I do know that when I try not to call my therapist or know I can't call him, I really need to call him so much more.
I'm sorry about your husband. I'm not much of a leap of faith person myself. This may be a stupid question, but are there any resources to help women make concrete, real life plans on leaving a bad situation without financial ruin?
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