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Posted by orchid on April 13, 2006, at 20:03:54
How many people in your real lives know of this site, and your id here, or do they know you participate here?
For me my two Ts knew this site and my participation here, but they don't check out here and for all purposes, they would have even forgotten about this by now. So no one in my real life really knows about babble and my posting here.
It is almost like babble is a complete fancy world. And a fantasy land. Is it the same way for others or do the two worlds collide? How do you feel when it collides?
Posted by jammerlich on April 13, 2006, at 20:26:48
In reply to Do your real life friends/spouse/SO know of babble, posted by orchid on April 13, 2006, at 20:03:54
I saw this header just as my husband walked near me and I couldn't respond just then because I had to switch my screen to something else. So, no, he doesn't know. No one knows and I don't want them to. This is the only bit of complete privacy I have and I want to keep it that way.
I don't even say there's a board I read or post to. I say absolutely nothing.
Posted by crazy teresa on April 13, 2006, at 20:32:46
In reply to Do your real life friends/spouse/SO know of babble, posted by orchid on April 13, 2006, at 20:03:54
My husband just walked in and looked at the screen and said, "You still talkin' to all your psycho-friends?" ;~}
But I don't think he reads the boards. He'd be pissed if he did because he'd see what I've written about him! ;~} I've mentioned that I post to a couple of friends, but they don't know where.
Posted by annierose on April 13, 2006, at 21:42:53
In reply to Do your real life friends/spouse/SO know of babble, posted by orchid on April 13, 2006, at 20:03:54
My family does know, as well as my close friends. I had to "come clean" when I decided to meet everyone in Chicago last year. My husband had MAJOR problems with it back then. I think now he is happy I have someone to talk to about all these feelings that get dredged up in therapy.
And he felt better after I met them.
Posted by Dinah on April 13, 2006, at 22:22:54
In reply to Do your real life friends/spouse/SO know of babble, posted by orchid on April 13, 2006, at 20:03:54
My husband knows. He couldn't very well not know.
My best friend found out when Dr. Bob kindly sent a thank you to my donation, from "Dinah" to my work address. She figured it out. She's passed away now, but I knew I could trust her with it.
My therapist knows all about it.
Other people might know I post on an internet mental health board, but not which one. And I only tell people who aren't likely to use the internet themselves.
But no, it's no secret.
Posted by LadyBug on April 14, 2006, at 1:38:49
In reply to Do your real life friends/spouse/SO know of babble, posted by orchid on April 13, 2006, at 20:03:54
My T is the only one that knows I read and post here. She would never take the time to check it out. She's too busy for that. My family isn't aware of anything I do in therapy or what my T and I talk about. They would never understand. This is my private space I guess.
LadyBug
Posted by Poet on April 14, 2006, at 8:44:27
In reply to Do your real life friends/spouse/SO know of babble, posted by orchid on April 13, 2006, at 20:03:54
My T, husband, and one friend know.
My T thinks it's good that I have online friends and promises not to spy on me. When I'm online at home my husband doesn't peek- he says *oh, you're babbling- sorry.* I told my friend about babble hoping she'd realize how helpful it would be for her, but so far she hasn't even lurked.
Poet
Posted by pegasus on April 14, 2006, at 9:38:31
In reply to Do your real life friends/spouse/SO know of babble, posted by orchid on April 13, 2006, at 20:03:54
My husband knows all about it, and is very supportive. Sometimes he even tells me I should go "tell my gang" about something. He would never read here, though. It's not his style or his interest. But he's very glad I have people to "talk" to about some of these things.
I'm taking classes in a counseling psych program, and I've mentioned it in class discussions sometimes. Usually when I'm trying to make a point about something that a lot of therapists don't seem to understand the same way that clients understand it. It's handy to be able to refer to babble as evidence, so it doesn't sound like I'm only talking about my own experience. I had a lot to contribute to a discussion about attachment to therapists the other day!
I've told my Ts about babble, but I'd be surprised if they ever visited. But I guess for me the value of babble is not so much dependent on it being private. I'm happy for anyone to hear what I have to say. It's just that in my real life no one has the experience with therapy to understand or be interested.
peg
Posted by B2chica on April 14, 2006, at 10:14:35
In reply to Do your real life friends/spouse/SO know of babble, posted by orchid on April 13, 2006, at 20:03:54
my old T new and i didn't mind if he read but i don't think he ever did. he was supportive, cuz i would talk about responses i'd get here and he was always suprised at what good advice i'd get.
my hubby kinda knows. when he first found out he was very upset and even told my boss, then my boss got flipped out and didn't want me 'online', well my job consists of online work so that just isn't feesable. so although my husband knows i don't talk about it too him cuz he doens't undertsand, and think it can hurt me.
i'm REALLY cautious about telling my new T cuz i don't want her here and don't really trust her enough yet.
b2c.
Posted by milly on April 14, 2006, at 14:24:00
In reply to Do your real life friends/spouse/SO know of babble, posted by orchid on April 13, 2006, at 20:03:54
No no-one knows in real life
I wondered about telling hubby but it is 'mine all mine and mine alone' he wouldn't understand!
I feel very protective of 'babble' and if he came out with a critical comment I wouldn't cope wellI half told my T but not where I post
milly
Posted by Racer on April 14, 2006, at 16:36:38
In reply to Re: Do your real life friends/spouse/SO know of babble, posted by milly on April 14, 2006, at 14:24:00
My husband knows, and will sometimes ask if I'm "writing bad things about him..." Just being cute, not insecure. I've mentioned it a bit to my T, although probably not the name of the place, now that I've thought about it...
And I did send a link to a friend I thought might benefit from it, along with my posting name.
Not a secret, but not something I wear on a T-shirt, you know?
Posted by susan47 on April 14, 2006, at 17:32:36
In reply to Re: Do your real life friends/spouse/SO know of ba, posted by Racer on April 14, 2006, at 16:36:38
My ex-T's machine has no mind, but I did tell it. Hmm, and I sent some posts to his address but I doubt if those letters were ever opened except to send back to me ... hmm, and to photocopy. So, one person for sure kind of knows, and .. I told other people but very generally, just the type of site it is and it helps me cope with being depressed and cycling around emotionally so much, and being completely wrapped up in T-transference, (yuck and ouch me) and I don't have any friends in any case who don't understand me. My acquaintances wouldn't have a clue. A psychiatrist I see every six mos. or so, to get more 'zac .. ugh ... I mentioned a type of forum I go to but nothing else .. it's not good for people to know too much about you without your permission, and it would mean that everybody who knows me IRL had this unfair advantage ... but really, part of me doesn't care so much about that, as about being honest and trying to be good, so it's really in particular, a secret, but in general not so much ... but not a big deal to anybody but me. My ex-partner knows but swears he doesn't look and I've asked him not to read or go here because it's my own special and private place which in my heart I was wishing I shared with somebody else, somebody particular, and that just gives me so much comfort ... I'll keep coming here as long as I need comfort.
Posted by susan47 on April 15, 2006, at 23:54:12
In reply to Re: Do your real life friends/spouse/SO know of ba » Racer, posted by susan47 on April 14, 2006, at 17:32:36
get anything right, everything turns to sh*t for me because I am sh*t, I am nothing but sh*t, sh*t, sh*t.
Posted by curtm on April 21, 2006, at 9:29:21
In reply to Do your real life friends/spouse/SO know of babble, posted by orchid on April 13, 2006, at 20:03:54
> How many people in your real lives know of this site, and your id here, or do they know you participate here?
** I haven't yet, but I am new (about a week.)
Thanks for having me here with all of you.
> It is almost like babble is a complete fancy world. And a fantasy land. Is it the same way for others or do the two worlds collide? How do you feel when it collides?YEAH!!!
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