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Posted by Susan47 on February 11, 2006, at 10:35:20
What bothers me more than a little bit, what's been bothering me for years, since the first time I clued into him .. is how much does he know of his effect on women? How much does he or did he use it, without acknowledging his use of it? How many women have walked in ready to transfer and been blindsided by his sexuality, which is .. what is latent? Latent .. yet given away, taken home every day, you'd think and hope, to his wife and the women in his private life, but maybe there weren't or wasn't enough of that, and he was using us to fill in the gaps, so to speak, and taking us home wrapped in bubbles and fantasy, and bringing back remnants to his work, and never intending ever to have that known, but ... or maybe, just maybe, he was aware of himself, and his ladies, his female "patients", or clients as we more properly were .. maybe the term "patient" helps someone like that justify his assumed role .. because he had to wrap his role up in gauze, he'd wrapped himself in gauze too.
I hope I'm wrong, I hope this is just me thinking in a paranoid way. But if that's true, then I must be coming out of it. If I'm right, though .. if I'm right, then I hope he's stopped.
Posted by Racer on February 11, 2006, at 12:14:18
In reply to Ex-Therapist ... a therapist's effect, posted by Susan47 on February 11, 2006, at 10:35:20
But the really important part of all this isn't what he was aware of, you do realize that, don't you, Susan? It's YOU, what you were aware of -- not about him, but about you. What need did this fill for you? How did this affect you?
It's good to see that you really do seem to be getting over it, but maybe changing the focus from whether or not he was aware of his effect on you, to how you were effected? Do you think that might help you get over it faster?
Posted by Susan47 on February 11, 2006, at 18:51:01
In reply to Re: Ex-Therapist ... a therapist's effect, posted by Racer on February 11, 2006, at 12:14:18
I'm not having any trouble getting over it Racer, I am over it. It's just putting things into the proper perspective, now. That's all.
Posted by Susan47 on February 11, 2006, at 18:52:35
In reply to Re: Ex-Therapist ... a therapist's effect, posted by Racer on February 11, 2006, at 12:14:18
I can't take responsibility for anybody else's side of it. I have to remember that. My side, my side .. yes. I'm very much aware of my side of it, I know what I experienced and why I did so.
Posted by Susan47 on February 24, 2006, at 17:57:06
In reply to PS,, posted by Susan47 on February 11, 2006, at 18:52:35
I think I must have imagined the whole thing. There's no way that this man would ever ever ever use his sexuality in the office, as a matter of fact I think he tries extra hard to keep himself out of it. I remember seeing him open the door for a female client one time, and he actually backed away as she came through the door, and he made sure he walked almost all the way to the wall to open it wide enough for her, and she wasn't exactly fat. It was exaggerated and kind of showy, but that's just the way he can be. Just the way he could be sometimes, it was fun, fun to watch that. But man he could be cold too. Wow oh wow ... that really used to hurt .. maybe if I loved myself more, at the time, maybe if I were a different person he wouldn't have had to be so cold to me.
Oh dear.
Enough. This is so damn good for the soul though. So nice.
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