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Posted by pinkeye on July 8, 2005, at 14:30:58
I wonder about people who seem to be very nice and happy because of their nature...they don't even put efforts into being nice and happy, they just are.. and they are so pleasing and caring, and they don't even have to put an effort to be that way.
I had an accident with a guy few days back, and he was actually quite a poor guy - and I didn't cause his car big damage. But my car's airbags and windshiel is gone.. (no one is hurt).. He was extremely pleasant.. HE didn't make a fuss or get angry, he was more concerned about how I was doing.. He didn't want to call the cops and he said he is not going to claim anything for his car - that he will remove the minor bend himself.
And I didn't call him after that, but yesterday he called me and asked me how I was doing, and asked me to drive safely - he said he didn't need any money from me or my insurance and that he didn't want to claim anything. He was sorry that my car was more damaged.
And I knew this guy was not pretending.. he was just that way.. A very poor guy likely - his utility van was really old, he didn't have a cell phone, and he doesn't even have a voice mail in his house. But very decent and pleasant.. I was really amazed. He was an old guy and very poor, but there was something really nice about this person.
I like people like this who are naturally very nice and happy and pleasant. I always have to try to be happy.. and I have too much of guilt to overcome.. and though I appreciate people who try to be good and pleasant and happy, I get very inspired by people who are naturally like that.
Posted by Shortelise on July 8, 2005, at 16:52:59
In reply to Some people are so happy and nice by themselves.., posted by pinkeye on July 8, 2005, at 14:30:58
What a nice story - I'm sorry you crashed your car and hope you are ok, but it's so nice to hear that the other person involved didn't use this mishap as an excuse to vent anger.
Pinkeye, there are days when I am able to be like that. There are other days when I am not. Good days and bad days.
You seem like a very kind, caring person.
ShortE
Posted by happyflower on July 8, 2005, at 17:00:16
In reply to Some people are so happy and nice by themselves.., posted by pinkeye on July 8, 2005, at 14:30:58
I do think there are nice people everywhere. But you say this guy was poor, well could it be if you turned the accidedent into the insurance company , he would lose his liscense if he didn't carry insurance. He might of called to make sure you weren't going to do that. I guess he could just be a nice guy, but it sounds suspicious to me.
Posted by pinkeye on July 8, 2005, at 17:03:43
In reply to Re: Some people are so happy and nice by themselves.., posted by happyflower on July 8, 2005, at 17:00:16
I don't think so.. He gave me his license number, and vehicle number, address, home phone number, and I reported the incidence to my insurance anyway (I was being cautious and didn't want to blamed for hit and run later on). He didn't object me to reporting to my insurance. And besides, the accident was my fault and I accepted it on the spot itself, so he doesn't have to do anything with his insurance.
Posted by pinkeye on July 8, 2005, at 17:04:22
In reply to Re: Some people are so happy and nice by themselves.., posted by Shortelise on July 8, 2005, at 16:52:59
yeah, it was really a very pleasant experience. Usually I have heard that people behave very badly when their car is hit..
Posted by Tamar on July 8, 2005, at 19:21:25
In reply to Re: Some people are so happy and nice by themselves.. » Shortelise, posted by pinkeye on July 8, 2005, at 17:04:22
> yeah, it was really a very pleasant experience. Usually I have heard that people behave very badly when their car is hit..
I’m sorry to hear about your accident, but I'm glad you had such a good experience with a decent human being. It's heartening to know that there are good people out there. My car was hit a few months ago when I was pregnant and I was quite shaken up and the women who hit me tried to claim it was my fault! (My car was stationary at the time and she reversed into me.) So some people behave badly even when they're to blame...
I really believe a little goodwill goes a long way. Being nice just because it’s nice to be nice makes the world a better place.
Posted by Jen Star on July 8, 2005, at 20:18:28
In reply to Some people are so happy and nice by themselves.., posted by pinkeye on July 8, 2005, at 14:30:58
hi Pinkeye,
I'm glad you're OK and that nobody was hurt in the fender-bender. And it IS awesome when you meet someone so naturally nice like that! It likd of feels like the world opened up and is dumping candy rain on you. :) I've met genuinely nice people like that and it's so heart-warming and exhilarating. It always makes me want to go right out and do something nice for someone else! And hopefully then the trend spreads....I'm glad you're having good times & experiences these days. I'm glad to see you writing happy posts. :)
JenStar
Posted by pinkeye on July 8, 2005, at 20:25:38
In reply to Re: Some people are so happy and nice by themselves.. » pinkeye, posted by Tamar on July 8, 2005, at 19:21:25
> I’m sorry to hear about your accident, but I'm glad you had such a good experience with a decent human being. It's heartening to know that there are good people out there. My car was hit a few months ago when I was pregnant and I was quite shaken up and the women who hit me tried to claim it was my fault! (My car was stationary at the time and she reversed into me.) So some people behave badly even when they're to blame...
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> I really believe a little goodwill goes a long way. Being nice just because it’s nice to be nice makes the world a better place.
>Oh.. it was bad that the other woman blamed you.. that is really bad. Yeah, I was really touched yesterday when he called me and asked how I was and if the damage to my car cost me too much, and asked me to be careful in future etc.. It was so very sweet. I totally didn't expect it out of a stranger and that too from someone whose car I banged into.
Posted by pinkeye on July 8, 2005, at 20:29:53
In reply to Re: Some people are so happy and nice by themselves.. » pinkeye, posted by Jen Star on July 8, 2005, at 20:18:28
Yeah.. it is so very nice to be with happy people.. I also really love being with nice and happy people. It makes me to want to be that way too.. I don't really care that much for people who are like cheerful, outspoken, or like popular.. but when someone is quiet/nice and genuinely plesant, it is extremely nice to be with them.
Somehow I ahve been having a decent time these days.. I also have a little girl as my neighbour - and she is very attached to me.. (she was like that for sometime), but now she is almost like an angel - so very pretty, and she says such beautiful things like "I always love you so much pinkeye" etc.. she is only 4 and not even from my country, and she hugs me and sits on my lap etc, and I hold her hands and walk with her.. So it is really pleasant. And she asks me never to leave her and go, and I am wondering what I would do since I have to go to India in a month.
Sometimes life is just really good.. other times too awful
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