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Posted by Dinah on March 31, 2004, at 8:38:09
But I spent yesterday's session just crying and sitting quietly feeling safe for fifty minutes. Which felt great, but didn't do anything to ease the real life stress that had me upset. I think he'd tell me to spend my time tackling my work. And if he didn't tell me that, he probably should.
:(
Posted by All Done on March 31, 2004, at 9:03:08
In reply to I soooo want to call my therapist, posted by Dinah on March 31, 2004, at 8:38:09
Dinah,
Would now be a good time to listen to the relaxation tape he made for you?
I'm sorry things are so bad right now. I can only provide you with the same advice I gave Karen and that is to take care of yourself before you tackle the rest of the world. I know this is not always easy to do, but try something even if it's just 15 minutes or so. Go run warm water over your hands for a little bit. You like that, right? Hug Harry for a little. I *know* you like that :).
Deep breaths.
Take care,
All Done
Posted by fallsfall on March 31, 2004, at 9:27:40
In reply to I soooo want to call my therapist, posted by Dinah on March 31, 2004, at 8:38:09
"Hello, Dinah. How are you feeling today? Yes, it was a relaxing session, and I think that you did what you needed to do for you - that is always a good thing. I'm glad that it helped you feel more peaceful. Ah, yes, life does go on, doesn't it? And an hour of peace within the storm doesn't make the storm go away, does it? Can you take a piece of the peace with you and sprinkle it on your stress like Jimmies on ice cream? Then you can have a little bit every minute to remember that there is calmness and that I will be here with you in your forever therapy. You certainly do have an awful lot to do at work these days. But you have been keeping up with it and working steadily over these past months. Give yourself credit for that. It will probably slow down pretty soon - how long can a busy period last?? So you just need to get from here to there. Take it 1 hour at a time. Make small goals for yourself. And eat those Jimmies when you need them. You do have that relaxation tape that I made. You could listen to that when you take a break from your work. Or just keep it in your pocketbook so you can touch it when you feel overwhelmed. But, remember, I'm here. And if you need me you can call me. OK?"
Posted by Speaker on March 31, 2004, at 9:41:18
In reply to Re: I soooo want to call my therapist » Dinah, posted by fallsfall on March 31, 2004, at 9:27:40
Dinah,
If in any way it will help you...call your T.
Take good care of you,
Speaker
Posted by EmmyS on March 31, 2004, at 10:18:50
In reply to Re: I soooo want to call my therapist » Dinah, posted by fallsfall on March 31, 2004, at 9:27:40
FF - I loved your msg to Dinah! I am borrowing it and pretending it was to me. Just what I needed. Thank you. :-) emmy
Posted by Karen_kay on March 31, 2004, at 12:45:29
In reply to Re: I soooo want to call my therapist » Dinah, posted by fallsfall on March 31, 2004, at 9:27:40
Remember how Dinah helped you last week? Looks like you possibly returned the favor. You're very wonderful, know it? VERY WONDERFUL! And I wouldn't scream it if it weren't so very true..
Dinah, you're very stressed with work and the family situation right now. But you are doing marvelous at holding it together. Absolutely fantastic. If it helps to call him, then call him. But don't doubt your own ability to hold it together either. You've done a marvelous job thus far. I'd have been running streaking the halls at this point. Do what you can, enlist the help of others what you know you aren't able to do. You are very good at knowing your own boundaries. You are truly astounding. I'm very glad to know you Dinah, and I just can't say it enough... Honestly, I can't. (Forever therapy, possibly (definetly), but you will come through the most perfect person in the world. And I say that sincerely!)
Posted by Penny on March 31, 2004, at 13:14:52
In reply to I soooo want to call my therapist, posted by Dinah on March 31, 2004, at 8:38:09
((((Dinah))))
I'm sorry things are so rough for you right now. What would be so bad about calling your T? Every session can't be extra productive - sometimes we have to just sit and 'be' in therapy. And that is most certainly OKAY. It's GOOD in fact. No, it wouldn't be helpful (or not as helpful) if that's all you ever did in your sessions. But it's not all you ever do in your sessions. You do so much work, and right now things are tough for you outside of that room, so I can completely understand how crying and sitting quietly feeling safe for fifty minutes was not just a good thing but a necessary thing for you.
And today it's okay for you to call your T. And while it's important for you to spend time tackling your work (not as though you haven't been anyway), it's also important for you to nurture yourself and get help during this difficult time.
Many hugs to you, Dinah. I hope things ease up for you soon.
P
Posted by Dinah on March 31, 2004, at 18:32:12
In reply to Re: I soooo want to call my therapist » Dinah, posted by Penny on March 31, 2004, at 13:14:52
I ended up not calling him. I took a Klonopin and had a chance to get really angry with a radio call in show. Between the two things the tension was reduced to where I could stand it. To make things even better, I didn't get dozens of angry calls today, and no new disaster reared its ugly head. The old ones aren't fixed, but I think I just needed a break from new ones. In fact if I can make it through the rest of the week without angry calls or new disasters, my resilience might be restored.
And I think I might listed to that tape tonight while I take a hot bath to relax those tense muscles.
And Falls, that was great! I wish my therapist spoke so soothingly. :)
Posted by gardenergirl on April 1, 2004, at 9:33:50
In reply to Re: I soooo want to call my therapist » Dinah, posted by Penny on March 31, 2004, at 13:14:52
Dinah,
Penny said it so well. Part of being super and/or amazing woman is relying on others when needed, and allowing yourself to recharge.That said, I'm sorry you have so much to go through right now. I think you are right about the torrent.
Take care!
gg
Posted by terrics on April 1, 2004, at 20:36:36
In reply to I soooo want to call my therapist, posted by Dinah on March 31, 2004, at 8:38:09
Is he good about calls? If he is I would call him. Why make yourself feel worse? Feel better. terrics
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