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Posted by michaelb on August 12, 2002, at 11:36:46
need some answers bad. For several years I have had depression but never recognized or did anything about it. I would have suicidal thoughts almost everyday. I was having a problem at home and wanted my wife and I see a counsoler but she would have nothing to do with it and said it's my problem deal with it. The problem was her lack of emostions and affection to me. So in January I met someone on line and left and moved her in with me only to find I never could get into the relationship because I loved my wife. After the first week of being away from home I tried to kill myself and was hospitolized. After being released I went back to the girlfriend and tried to make thing work with her but couldn't because of my feelings for my wife. I tried to leave again but was always afraid of being rejected (my wife was always writing me to come back). I finally left the girlfriend and went back to my wife. While back in the house my wife keep asking me questions and thinks I was in love with the other woman because I just jumped into another relationship and sex so fast. I'm out of the house again while my wife tries to deal with her emotions.
My questions are:
1) Could the depression cause me to act so irrationally? I have never done anything like this before and I look back now and say how could I have done this? Is it caused from the depression?
2) I somehow have forgotten everything (99%) of what happen while I was with the girlfriend.
Can't even remember what she looked like. (I guess I really don't want to remember either). How could this happen?I'm on Wellbutrin now, it help a little but still very depressed.
Posted by joseph8 on August 13, 2002, at 2:22:45
In reply to Depression and memory loss, posted by michaelb on August 12, 2002, at 11:36:46
your lucky that your wife still wants you. I once cheated on my girlfriend and she took me back. then I did it again and I was history. I felt terrible that I had lost a woman that I loved and it got worse as time went on because instead of getting over her I realized how much I missed her and what a fool I had been. if you love your wife tell her and act like you do. she will want to help you too if she loves you. although your wife wont go with you , you should get therapy by your self. Look at it from your wifes perspective although asking for help and seeking out a therapist should be acceptable , the truth is that there is stigma attached to it and if there is nothing wrong with your wife she might not want that stigma associated with herself. Do all in your power to keep your wife. as for your questions , I would say they are irrelevant. get on with your life , you have done it now so get on with making amends
good luck
Posted by huck326 on August 13, 2002, at 4:28:55
In reply to Re: Depression and memory loss, posted by joseph8 on August 13, 2002, at 2:22:45
As far as your question of Depression leading to irrational actions I can only say that as a person who just recently started treatment after a lifetime of depression that I have done some pretty amazingly irrational things in my life and can definatly connect them to my untreated depression.
Hope that is at least some help.
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