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Posted by Pandabear on April 22, 2004, at 21:34:34
I have a question...it is kind of hard for me to ask this but I need some opinions from any women out here...I went to my therapist today who was asking me when the last time it was that I had a physical...and well..it has been a long time. She was asking me because I have been really hurting for the past couple of days and I think I have figured out why but she of course wanted to ask me. I cannot stand doctors..(yet my dad is one) :) Let me rephrase...I like doctors but not doctors with me as their patient..unless it is therapy :) ANYWAY, she said that they could give me a tranquilizer to help me when I went ..and I want this but, im now scared out of my mind. Does ANYONE know of any good tranquilizers I might be able to take ..I know of xanax..im already on Lamictal and seroquel..but if she had asked me to go to the doctor tomorrow there would be NO WAY I could do this. Im so embarressed by this but, I want to know why my options are as far as the diffent medications. If I were to go on a tranquilizer..just for appts...would this seriously get me to a point where I wouldnt care and she could do a physical? Or, would I take the medicine and it not affect me well enough...and she couldnt do one...Im wanting to be at a point where I dont care at all..I hate it that im like this but it really freaks me out. I need help to be able to go through with it. Does anyone know of what kind of tranquilizers there are? Please send me some advice and good comments I need some reasurance..thanks. PB
Posted by rainyday on April 23, 2004, at 11:40:10
In reply to tranquilizers?, posted by Pandabear on April 22, 2004, at 21:34:34
My only experience is from when I worked for a dentist. There were several patients who had to premedicate with valium before getting cleaning or an exam. I think some people who get extremely anxious would take one the night before the appointment (otherwise they wouldn't sleep due to worry), and one the morning of.
Other techniques would be to wear a walkman or a similar device to take your mind off of where you are.
I do think the tranq would reflect some of the findings of a physical - like it might depress your pulse rate or blood pressure, or affect your balance, but I should think an UNDERSTANDING and COMPASSIONATE doctor could take that into consideration.
I would also ask your T if she could recommend such a doctor.
Hope this helps somewhat.
Posted by karen_kay on April 24, 2004, at 13:26:37
In reply to tranquilizers?, posted by Pandabear on April 22, 2004, at 21:34:34
i'm not medication savvy, but i wanted you to know that i'm thinking about you. you can get through this dear. talk to you therapist about various sorts of benzos you can take, such as klonopin, valium, xanax, to help with your anxiety. try to sleep the night before. and reward yourself afterwards, with icecream or something special. you'll do fantastic. and your test results will show that you are healthy as a mule. think positive thoughts dear. those help more than anything.. take care.
Posted by Pandabear on April 24, 2004, at 13:53:20
In reply to (((pandabear))))) » Pandabear, posted by karen_kay on April 24, 2004, at 13:26:37
Thank you for thinking positive thoughts for me...I am the worlds worst when it comes to thinking positively. I am beside myself this weekend. I talked to my therapist on Friday right before she left her office for the day and she told me that my psychiatrist is going to talk to me on tuesday at my appt with her. I asked her if she was going to be putting me on any medication and she said that i would have to talk to her but that she is being very understanding. My therapist also said that I am at a different place in my life and that I would probably be ok with out meds but..i quickly said differently. Yes, I am at a different place in my life (thank goodness) but, now im dealing with all new issues and whereas I understand that Im always going to be dealing with SOMETHING... I told her if she asked me to go to the doctor tomorrow there would be NO WAY I could. I just feel like nothing is going to be ok because it usually isnt ok for me. I had a melt down on thursday night and started crying saying that I didnt want anyone to touch me or hurt me and that I just wanted to be left alone...I told my therapist this and she didnt say much except that she is going to try and get me in to see her this next week. Im so scared right now. I feel as if now that this discussion is going on that I am not in control of my life anymore. My doctors are taking over of my life and making decisions for me...(this is how I feel) and I feel like im losing control. It is completely scaring me. I just want to wake up and be fine.
I know to some people i might sound like a complete baby but I am truly messed up right now about all of this. My dad is a doctor and they say that doctors children make the worst patients..I think its because we know too much about how things are done...My therapist asked me if my parents knew that I had not been to see a doc in a while and I said I believed that they did..when they said that they hoped I was taking care of my self not only mentally but physically as well...I was like.."yeah im taking care of myself ...I go to a doctor..(meaning my therapists) But my therapist reminded me saying that yes they are doctors but, they dont perform physical exams on people or draw blood or anything of that nature..thank god for that because if that were the case..I wouldnt be there talking to her either...:)I just dont know what to do with myself but when I was finishing my conversation with my therapist on friday she asked me if I could put all of this on a shelf for the weekend and not worry with it. I told her I would and she said that she would try and get me in to see her sometime this next week..so let's hope so...Until then though, I am going to try and relax...I have been cleaning my townhouse ALL DAY today...I think it is just one way I can focus on something that I am in charge of and no one can tell me how to do it...does that make sense...I feel like im in control of something when really Im losing all control.
Thanks for your support...I really appreciate it.
Pandabear <><
Posted by Pandabear on April 24, 2004, at 14:53:07
In reply to (((pandabear))))) » Pandabear, posted by karen_kay on April 24, 2004, at 13:26:37
Also..Something that is really getting me is the fact that yes...my therapists do care about me but..it is frustrating to me that in the end..they are the ones going home resting easily not having to deal with anything that they come in contact with during the day. YES they to have their own problems to deal with but, not mine. NOt that i want them to have my problems to deal with outside of therapy but, its frustrating that they are so concerned for me during work hours but when they leave...its all up to me...am i making sense? This is what scares me...I feel like im so alone. I watched this movie one time about someone that had this baby and afterwards her back was hurting..she did nothing about it until finally her husband made her go to the doc and come to find out that it is cancer and it spread to the bone and they couldnt operate on her. Long story short she ends up dying in the end. It was an amazing movie and I watched it 3 times...which was bad considering i was really depressed at the time...but I related to it because I feel like I havent been to the doctor in so long..once I go...they will find something wrong with me that..HAD I GONE earlier..it wouldnt be an issue...I dont see myself living to a ripe old age...I never have seen that in myself..yet I like to think of my future...but Im really scared. I feel like im going to go to the doctor and if my results come back negative..im being punished for something. I dont have good luck....Ok..im going to stop talking now because Im really depressing myself. I want to say I wish I wasnt alive to deal with this..but thats not right..Im happy to be alive..I just wish I didnt have to deal with anything. I want to be alone..I want to go to sleep and not have to deal with anything. When you sleep you can shut things out for a while and then deal with them later..but i know that if i get in the bed to sleep I will just depress myself even more..yet obsessing is also going to depress me. I cannot win.
There is a reason why I am experiencing such difficulty right now and I have no idea why..but I hope to figure it out.
I will write more later...
Posted by karen_kay on April 26, 2004, at 9:14:24
In reply to Re: (((pandabear))))) » karen_kay, posted by Pandabear on April 24, 2004, at 14:53:07
awww, sweetie. do you have someone who can go with you, for support to the doctor? i think that may help just a little, and also so they can drive you there and back as well...
it stinks (just plain STINKS!!!) that therapists say they may have the answers and we hope they do, so we follow their answers, hoping they do. but, we are the ones who have to live through it. but, but BUT....it's faith (not religious mind you) but faith not only in them as individuals, and professionals, but also in ourselves (ok, so i'm speaking for myself here) in Myself, that tells me, "it's ok to listen to my therapist and to do what he says, along with my own guidance and thoughts too.' so yes, it stinks that perhaps they're changing our lives and they don't have to live through it, and it may be bad. but, i have faith that my therapist (and your as well) wouldn't lead us down the wrong path. they aren't 'bad' people and they wouldn't want to see us suffer needlessly.
sweetie, you ARE going to get through this. you really are. i wish i could promise that the doctor's visit will go smooth. i wish i could go with you (are you in Indiana? if so, i'll go with you dear, if it would help). but, after a few hours, it will be over with. and you'll feel better knowing it's done. and then you'll feel better knowing the results. and you can be able to know exactly what's going on, you know?
keep writing to me dear. and i'm thinking positively for you darling. you're going to be fine. you're going to be fine. you're going to be fien. and you're going to have ice cream.. :)
Posted by Pandabear on April 26, 2004, at 11:25:16
In reply to Re: (((pandabear))))) » Pandabear, posted by karen_kay on April 26, 2004, at 9:14:24
I really appreciate your response to me. I am doing so much better. I ended up getting sick last night so I now know why I was feeling so badly last week. That still doesnt dismiss the fact that I need to be going to my doctor..but, at least I now know why i was feeling so sick last week. No, Im not in Indiana..im in Florida..otherwise I might take you up on your offer..;) Anyway, I will keep you posted.
PB
Posted by Pandabear on April 26, 2004, at 16:56:49
In reply to Re: (((pandabear))))) » karen_kay, posted by Pandabear on April 26, 2004, at 11:25:16
OK so, Everytime I say im better..I feel bad again..so IM just going to stop saying im better. Im feeling bad again so I dont know whats going on but im meeting with my psychiatrist tomorrow so maybe we will figure something out. I just want to be left alone...I know it is too much to ask because everyone cares about me..but I just want to be alone. My boss tried to get some info out of me about how im doing mentally and I didnt want to tell her about everything im going through, so I was able to set a boundary which was a good thing...I know she cares about me, but I dont want to talk about it or deal with it...I wish there was a way I could disapear for a while and return when all that are involved which are just me and my therapists have forgotten but i dont see that happening. Im going to tell her tomorrow that I just want to be left alone and I dont want to talk about this..and see what she says..Geez...my life is filled with such drama...sorry if i seem like i am feeling sorry for myself..im just beside myself right now..I dont know what to do or say...
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