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Posted by Katt on February 20, 2004, at 17:51:11
i've gotten stuck wheeling my self around in a scooter for the past two months and have spent most of my waking life in bed for the past four months. i've noticed the blubber starting to form, but told myself to wait until i felt better before really freaking out so that i could work out again.
BUT!!!!!! then i overheard my sister and mother having this stupid conversation about how they would never "say" anything and "did you notice...?" let me finish...that she has gained weight!!!!!! then i confronted them about what i overheard. two different stories, meaning it was one BIG lie. finally the SIS fessed up and admitted to their conversation. she said, oh, but you filled in that outfit so nicely!!! WTF??? filled in an outfit nicely?? that means, look beee-otch, you are fat, and we talking about you -- don't committ suicide yet. wait until i really piss you off. but nothing pisses me off like gaining weight. trouble is, i can't seem to eat as little as i used to, and i am freakin' ballooning!!! i know, i know, dont let the perspective of others determine how you feel, blah blah blah. but we are nothing more than the perspective of others. for once in my life, i was the skinny one. now i am becoming the fat one again. i dont even want to go see them anymore. i just want to wallow in my fat despair. yuk, i am so disgusting, it pisses me off. i am nasty lookin -- so bad i want to die. FAT FAT FAT OBESE pig.
Posted by jdgjdg on February 20, 2004, at 23:53:43
In reply to Getting FAT!!!!!!!!! AND GOING CRAZY!!!!!!!!!!!!!, posted by Katt on February 20, 2004, at 17:51:11
Sweetie, it doesn't matter what they think. So many people have to be hard on others in order to feel better about themselves. It's like a bully in high school. They feel bad about themselves, so they talk about others. The only person that can make you feel fat is yourself. J
Posted by Jai Narayan on February 21, 2004, at 16:20:15
In reply to Getting FAT!!!!!!!!! AND GOING CRAZY!!!!!!!!!!!!!, posted by Katt on February 20, 2004, at 17:51:11
> i've gotten stuck wheeling my self around in a scooter for the past two months and have spent most of my waking life in bed for the past four months. i've noticed the blubber starting to form, but told myself to wait until i felt better before really freaking out so that i could work out again.
What happened? Did you get hurt?
I know first hand it's very hard not to get down
on myself for my weight gain. I have had a very hard time with controling my weight. I am always on a diet. I am not sure why some of us have such a hard time? I know how all the bad feelings can be focused by feeling fat and not being able to do anything about it. It's a hard place to get out of too. My sister has had such a struggle for most of her life with weight and she is such an achiever. It seems to be the one place where we need compassion for ourselves and others. All I can say is I know how you feel...I often feel the same.
Posted by Karen_kay on February 22, 2004, at 15:14:29
In reply to It does seem to be a struggle, posted by Jai Narayan on February 21, 2004, at 16:20:15
I know all about it... In high school, I was the "Jolly Fat Girl" Once I got on my own, I lost weight and when I saw those people again they were surpirsed at how good I looked. It's a constant struggle. And my mom is quick to point out, "Are your meds making you gain weight? Your face looks like it's breaking out, ect ect ect" And my friends are honest, a bit too honest I think.
But, I know I'm beautiful. If I gain 20 lbs (which is common for me. My weight changes from month to month.) then it's ok because I finally have a butt. Or that's what I try to tell myself. I keep pictures of my sister in the fridge so I won't eat. And I keep my "Fat Pictures" as reminders of what I WILL NOT BECOME AGAIN!!! And I don't grocery shop. My usual meal is plain pasta, no sauce. If I don't lose weight soon, I'll do the "Rice Diet." So what if I passed out before... I don't care!!! I'll starve before I get much fatter..
Sorry,, this isn't very supportive. Or maybe it is. Maybe you can see how distorted my thoughts are and catch some of yours? I don't know.. Wish I did. Maybe I'll marry a plastic surgeon one day??? And Make Myself Perfect that way... (Sounds stupid, but I think it,,,)
Posted by Jaynee on February 22, 2004, at 22:03:13
In reply to Re: It does seem to be a struggle, posted by Karen_kay on February 22, 2004, at 15:14:29
Your post really hit a nerve. Why is it that weight is such a destructive issue for most women. Most my teen years and adult life, I've always told myself if only.....if only I was 10 pounds lighter. I am 6ft tall and I weighed 130 pounds, and even then I would tell myself I needed to lose weight. I sure don't weight that now. Society has screwed us all up so much. I refuse to buy fashion magazines, and I won't allow some Misogynist male who wants all women to look like little boys dictate to me, what is supposed to be beautiful. As far as I'm concerned that is who is running the fashion industry. The most ridiculous industry going.
Why do we insist on hating ourselves because we don't look a certain way, or maybe it is just an excuse to hate ourselves and if it wasn't the weight issue it would be something else that we would hate ourselves about. Maybe we just have to try to truly love ourselves and forget what the TV and magazines tell us, and ignore the message we are being sent, because we respect ourselves too much to let some money grabbing #$%^#%'s try and sell more cream, weightloss books, weightloss pills, plastic surgery, slimming clothes, etc.......
Just my two bits.
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