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Posted by Gabbi-x-2 on February 7, 2005, at 23:51:11
In reply to Re: Rules - Gabbix » Gabbix2, posted by alexandra_k on February 7, 2005, at 23:40:41
> Though if we really are serious about wanting a change in the blocking policy it might be something best discussed when we are feeling fairly cool calm and collected about it all rather than waiting till we are mad as hell...
Yes that's a good point, it really is,
but then.. it's also a good way to make oneself mad as hell in my experience. : )
Posted by alexandra_k on February 8, 2005, at 0:18:47
In reply to Re: Rules - Gabbix » alexandra_k, posted by Gabbi-x-2 on February 7, 2005, at 23:51:11
> Yes that's a good point, it really is,
> but then.. it's also a good way to make oneself >mad as hell in my experience. : )Aaaaaaah, but if we are careful to observe the civility 'guidelines'...
;-)
Posted by gardenergirl on February 8, 2005, at 6:40:23
In reply to Re: Rules - Gabbix, posted by alexandra_k on February 8, 2005, at 0:18:47
So hell is okay here? (Now there's a question!)
I would think that would be asterisked.What if hell were asterisked? Would it not feel like hell? Okay, too early in the morning. I've made my head hurt.
:0
gg
Posted by Dinah on February 8, 2005, at 8:23:21
In reply to Re: Rules - Gabbix » alexandra_k, posted by Gabbi-x-2 on February 7, 2005, at 23:51:11
Posted by Dinah on February 8, 2005, at 8:26:03
In reply to Re: Rules - Gabbix » alexandra_k, posted by Gabbix2 on February 7, 2005, at 22:43:43
I too have noticed he's decided to listen to feedback and be a bit more understanding when people appear to be trying to follow the rules. He still can't stand having a cease and desist order violated, even slightly, though.
I don't know if it has validity any longer, because my observations is that it isn't balanced on this, but he used to say that he was more vigilant when he thought there was a forest fire in the making.
Posted by Toph on February 8, 2005, at 10:24:33
In reply to Re: Rules - Gabbix » Gabbix2, posted by Dinah on February 8, 2005, at 8:26:03
> I too have noticed he's decided to listen to feedback and be a bit more understanding when people appear to be trying to follow the rules. He still can't stand having a cease and desist order violated, even slightly, though.
>
> I don't know if it has validity any longer, because my observations is that it isn't balanced on this, but he used to say that he was more vigilant when he thought there was a forest fire in the making.I may not be as qualified or experienced as you are, and while this may sound like sour grapes, I disagree. I find in my short time here that (to use the 911 metaphor again) Bob is a better cop than a detective, extinguishes some fires that are actually candles, and confuses misdemeanors for felonies and vice versa - arsonists and serial killers escape justice while regular participants are banished for excessive parking tickets.
OK, so I'm a touch dramatic.
Toph
Posted by AuntieMel on February 8, 2005, at 11:09:52
In reply to Re: Rules - Gabbix, posted by gardenergirl on February 8, 2005, at 6:40:23
hell is allowed and b*mbo isn't
Posted by Dr. Bob on February 8, 2005, at 14:11:13
In reply to Re: Rules » Toph, posted by Gabbix2 on February 7, 2005, at 22:39:43
> is it not condescending for Bob to stop the discourse when both parties may not want his intrusion?
>
> TophOne issue here is that posts aren't just between two people. Posters can discourse however they like by email, but what they post affects the environment for everyone.
--
> I used to be far more angry and say "This is B.S" But the truth is the I prefer the posters at babble as a whole better than any other board I've posted on, so *something* is being done right.
>
> Gabbix2I know I'm not perfect, but I try to do my best. And I agree, the posters here are great! :-)
Bob
Posted by AuntieMel on February 8, 2005, at 15:53:11
In reply to Re: the posters at babble, posted by Dr. Bob on February 8, 2005, at 14:11:13
Posted by Gabbi-x-2 on February 8, 2005, at 16:35:31
In reply to Re: aw, shucks (nm) » Dr. Bob, posted by AuntieMel on February 8, 2005, at 15:53:11
I'll second that
Posted by Jai Narayan on February 8, 2005, at 18:50:35
In reply to Re: the posters at babble, posted by Dr. Bob on February 8, 2005, at 14:11:13
you are better than all right.
I have appreciated you and this site for over a year now.
I know there are many who have fled this site for PC.
And I have read their posts.
but...
you knew this was coming.
Dr. Bob, honestly I have never had a problem with you.
You wanted me not to post while I was wrapped up in my political fervor...
I understood that.
Life goes on...
I still come here to babble and read the posts, enjoy the posters and am interested in your opinions.
Jai Narayan
Posted by Gabbi-x-2 on February 9, 2005, at 0:14:31
In reply to Re: the posters at babble, posted by Dr. Bob on February 8, 2005, at 14:11:13
I need to rephrase this for myself, it probably looks silly but I have too.
....the truth is the I prefer the posters at babble as a whole better than any other board I've posted on, so *something* is being done right.
That sounded completely egocentric.
"As long as I prefer the posters here, something is being done right" YUK!
That wasn't at all what I was thinking. I meant that I think the posters here overall are the most intelligent, interesting people I've met on any board, so something must be being done right. There I feel better now.
Posted by Toph on February 9, 2005, at 6:41:47
In reply to Re: Rules - » Dinah, posted by Toph on February 8, 2005, at 10:24:33
>
> ...arsonists and serial killers escape justice...It just dawned on me that generalizations can be uncivil. Anger can cloud one's judgment. I apologize, especially to anyone I might of offended.
Toph
Posted by karen_kay on February 9, 2005, at 8:03:06
In reply to dear Doc Bob...., posted by Jai Narayan on February 8, 2005, at 18:50:35
jai, jai, jai.....
when will you learn that kissing mr bob's butt won't make him like you any better. remember, it's other places he likes kissed even more.
discombobulated and confused (and of course mr bob's fav.),
kk
Posted by AuntieMel on February 9, 2005, at 12:44:08
In reply to dear Doc Bob...., posted by Jai Narayan on February 8, 2005, at 18:50:35
I know I can be a rabble rouser at times, and I do often disagree with you.
But I can't see myself going anywhere else. This place *is* special. I've never posted anywhere else before and I doubt I will in the future either.
And - I'm a computer geek!
Posted by Jai Narayan on February 9, 2005, at 21:19:01
In reply to Re: dear Doc Bob.... » Jai Narayan, posted by karen_kay on February 9, 2005, at 8:03:06
pray tell, what places should I kiss the dear Doctor?
and would everyone else on the site mind?
slinky?
have you asked around?
god I miss you girl!!!
it just ain't the same without you...
how many have said this to you and how often...
it's so good to hear your sassy talk.
Ja*
Posted by Jai Narayan on February 9, 2005, at 21:23:07
In reply to Re: dear Doc Bob.... me too., posted by AuntieMel on February 9, 2005, at 12:44:08
oh AuntieMel....
okay have your already been asked how you got your name?
I had an Auntie Ed, Auntie Mo, Auntie Tell.....
and my sister was called Uncle Ellen....
so I think I qualify as one who needs to know....
don't you think?
Ja*
Posted by Slinky on February 9, 2005, at 22:23:36
In reply to KK now you've got my curiosity.....hummmmm, posted by Jai Narayan on February 9, 2005, at 21:19:01
> and would everyone else on the site mind?
> slinky?No worries..I'm in my yearn for Kate Moss phase
Posted by Dr. Bob on February 9, 2005, at 23:21:52
In reply to Re: Rules - Bob, posted by Toph on February 9, 2005, at 6:41:47
Posted by AuntieMel on February 10, 2005, at 9:25:25
In reply to AuntieMel....pick me...over here....pick me:), posted by Jai Narayan on February 9, 2005, at 21:23:07
Actually, I think I did explain once, but I don't mind repeating it.
One of my dearest (probably best) friends lives over in England. I met him through work, though oddly when we worked in the same office we hardly talked. We became good friends when we both began travelling for the company - and after he'd moved.
I was over there when his first child was born, and shortly after the second, and many times before, in between and after both births. When I'm over, I always spend as much time as possible with him, his wife and kids.
The kiddos call me 'Auntie Mel' in that cute voice only a British child has. And when we go out sightseeing or something they always call it a 'Mel adventure.'
So - that's the story of the name. Not because I'm a dried up little old lady. I turned 50 this hear, but I'm anything but dried up....
Now - have you explained yours??
Posted by Jai Narayan on February 10, 2005, at 21:13:48
In reply to Re: AuntieMel....the saga behind the name » Jai Narayan, posted by AuntieMel on February 10, 2005, at 9:25:25
what a darling story.
I could hear the children with the british accent.Jai Narayan
is a name that was given to me by my spiritual teacher.
Jai means "hail"
Narayan is the name of a Hindu dancing god....
honestly there are so many attributes to this god...
to reduce him to just dancing is much too simple.
but I loved the name Narayan, I almost married a man just to get the name....
(he was quite a nice man as well, honestly I married and divorced someone else that was far less nice, boooo).little did I know the name was coming in the mail....
so every time I hear my spiritual name it reminds me of my spiritual destiny in this life.
So, I guess it's no big deal...gosh it's nice to know you AuntieMel
Ja*
Posted by Jai Narayan on February 10, 2005, at 21:17:18
In reply to Re: KK now you've got my curiosity.....hummmmm » Jai Narayan, posted by Slinky on February 9, 2005, at 22:23:36
Oh, now I understand...
we all yearn for you slinky
while you yearn for someone else...
I know how to do this...
it's so familiar.honestly slinky
I love hearing from you.
Ja*
Posted by Dr. Bob on February 12, 2005, at 1:36:09
In reply to Re: KK now you've got my curiosity.....hummmmm, posted by Jai Narayan on February 10, 2005, at 21:17:18
Posted by sunny10 on February 18, 2005, at 12:32:52
In reply to Re: let's keep it administrative here, thanks (nm), posted by Dr. Bob on February 12, 2005, at 1:36:09
It has been my experience (read here- disclaimer MY experience) that I have noticed Dr. Bob
1)responding sometimes when other haven't to protect a posters feelings
2)overlooking a great deal of animosity in most PBC'd threads before jumping in when it became obvious that neither poster was benefitting from the conversation, and others were beginning to notice and respond poorly (protecting the environment)
and lastly
3) that there has literally been name-calling, the "slights" usually have more to do with the mood of the reader of the slight than that of the writer (I myself have been both reader and writer in these cases....On the other hand of applauding all that Dr. Bob is trying to accomplish with this wonderful outlet for us, not one of us will be "healthy" until we can bear slights and even confrontations, because life is like that.
Maybe we might want to bear in mind that it is possible to help someone BY hurting their feelings, sometimes. That which cuts the deepest is usually the most true.I have learned to take what upsets me the most and work on the WHY, instead of the WHY ME, that I used to focus on.
And, Toph? I went to boarding school AND Montessori (mwah!!)
-sunny10
Posted by Dr. Bob on February 19, 2005, at 22:45:36
In reply to Re: let's keep it administrative here, thanks (nm), posted by Dr. Bob on February 12, 2005, at 1:36:09
> let's keep it administrative here, thanks
Here's a link for other posts:
http://www.dr-bob.org/babble/social/20050215/msgs/460629.html
Thanks,
Bob
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