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Posted by mair on February 6, 2005, at 15:51:45
In reply to It probably would mean divorce., posted by Dinah on February 5, 2005, at 14:44:28
C'mon Dinah - you're worth it. Why don't you get your T to recommend it to your husband?
Alternatively, can't you manufacture a professional continuing education seminar in Chicago for the same weekend?
mair
PS: I vote for a weekend when daisy can be there if she'll commit to come.
Posted by fallsfall on February 6, 2005, at 18:58:17
In reply to It probably would mean divorce., posted by Dinah on February 5, 2005, at 14:44:28
Can you ask him under what conditions he would be comfortable? You don't have to tell anyone your real name, or where you live. You can wear sunglasses (or a Halloween mask, for all I care). You don't have to tell anyone what hotel you are staying at. You just show up out of thin air and then disappear again.
I know that you want there to be peace at home, but I think this "conference" is important to you. What is it that he is exactly afraid of? How can you work around those issues and still get to come?
Posted by slinky on February 7, 2005, at 3:36:53
In reply to Re: Outside party, posted by Dr. Bob on January 23, 2005, at 20:54:09
// We could also just hire a private security person?
I'm lost as to what's going on here but if you need security I'm your lady and I'm private.
Private Slinky at your service.
My uniform is quite erotic..
would you like me to carry a whip if people become uncivil?
Posted by Dinah on February 7, 2005, at 15:12:09
In reply to Re: It probably would mean divorce. » Dinah, posted by fallsfall on February 6, 2005, at 18:58:17
Unfortunately, I'm all too aware of how my husband feels about it. I guess I just wanted to pretend it was possible for a little while, when things seemed particularly bleak.
I could go against his wishes, but it doesn't seem like a very nice thing to do, since he feels so strongly. I think if we count "really"'s, his wishes will prevail.
Posted by alexandra_k on February 7, 2005, at 17:36:35
In reply to It was no surprise - Mair » fallsfall, posted by Dinah on February 7, 2005, at 15:12:09
Mind if I ask why he isn't so keen on the idea?
Posted by Dinah on February 7, 2005, at 19:29:48
In reply to Re: It was no surprise » Dinah, posted by alexandra_k on February 7, 2005, at 17:36:35
Hmmmm....
I guess since he's not a Babbler, he can't be blocked. He's always been concerned about my involvement on a mental health board. He unfortunately shares a lot of the prejudice prevalent in society.
The fact that I'm a poster doesn't allay his fears any. :)
Posted by alexandra_k on February 7, 2005, at 19:50:59
In reply to Re: It was no surprise » alexandra_k, posted by Dinah on February 7, 2005, at 19:29:48
Ah, so he is worried about the sorts of crazies you might meet...
Doesn't the fact that Dr B is going to be there
And a security guard (best not mention slinkey :-) ) allay his fears at all???
Posted by Gabbix2 on February 7, 2005, at 19:56:34
In reply to Re: Outside party » Dr. Bob, posted by slinky on February 7, 2005, at 3:36:53
Posted by Dinah on February 7, 2005, at 20:21:04
In reply to Re: It was no surprise » Dinah, posted by alexandra_k on February 7, 2005, at 19:50:59
I fear he hasn't much confidence in or appreciation for Dr. Bob. :) Go figure. I guess it was all those times he came across me sitting at the computer with tears rolling down my face.
It's really quite insulting. At any rate I'm insulted. I told him that the average poster here is pretty much like me. Does he think I'm a dangerous person?
Maybe he should get a PBC.
But to be kind to him, he has undiagnosed OCD, I think, as well as OCPD, and things like this really do cause him a great deal of distress.
Posted by alexandra_k on February 7, 2005, at 20:53:14
In reply to Re: It was no surprise » alexandra_k, posted by Dinah on February 7, 2005, at 20:21:04
I don't suppose he would want to come with you?
(is that allowed??)
You could tell him how much it would mean to you...
You could tell him you see it is an opportunity to get out of the house in a safe environment...
I dunno hun, I just feel sad that you feel you can't go :-(
Posted by Dinah on February 7, 2005, at 21:12:20
In reply to Re: It was no surprise » Dinah, posted by alexandra_k on February 7, 2005, at 20:53:14
I really can't. I'll post to you on the Relationship board a bit more.
Posted by alexandra_k on February 7, 2005, at 22:50:58
In reply to Re: It was no surprise » alexandra_k, posted by Dinah on February 7, 2005, at 21:12:20
I made you a link.
Just to get ya started ;-)http://www.dr-bob.org/babble/relate/20041223/msgs/454755.html
Posted by gardenergirl on February 7, 2005, at 22:57:24
In reply to Re: It was no surprise » Dinah, posted by alexandra_k on February 7, 2005, at 22:50:58
I'm sorry to hear that, dinah. So, are we all coming to your place, then?
:-D
gg
Posted by mair on February 8, 2005, at 7:19:39
In reply to Re: It was no surprise-dinah, posted by gardenergirl on February 7, 2005, at 22:57:24
When I started babbling neither my husband nor my T were wild about it, mainly out of a fear, I think, of the other people here. Everytime the Babble site went down, I'd get paranoid about whether my husband had figured out some way to put a block on it, and of course I was paranoid about whether he was coming here and reading things.
I've discussed the babbles with my T alot over the years, and she's ok with it now.
What happened with my H is what tends to happen with us alot. I stopped talking about it and he lost interest.
And obviously after all these years he's seen that nothing awful has come of my participation.
Sometimes I wish I could get him interested, but that's a subject for a different thread.
Mair
Posted by Dr. Bob on February 8, 2005, at 8:41:31
In reply to Re: announcing it » Dr. Bob, posted by partlycloudy on February 6, 2005, at 13:27:39
> I'd vote for The Big Meet to happen on Saturday the 11th so us out of towners can get there in enough time.
Some people have conflicts:
http://www.dr-bob.org/babble/admin/20050128/msgs/453556.html
But I suppose no date will be perfect...
> Um, who else is on the committee?
AuntieMel and karen_kay:
http://www.dr-bob.org/babble/admin/20040527/msgs/365887.html
Bob
Posted by partlycloudy on February 8, 2005, at 18:25:37
In reply to Re: announcing it, posted by Dr. Bob on February 8, 2005, at 8:41:31
Are you still on our committee?
Posted by Dr. Bob on February 13, 2005, at 16:13:42
In reply to Karen Kay, Social Secretary, posted by partlycloudy on February 8, 2005, at 18:25:37
> Are you still on our committee?
Do we need to try to recruit someone else?
Bob
Posted by partlycloudy on February 14, 2005, at 7:02:26
In reply to Re: our committee, posted by Dr. Bob on February 13, 2005, at 16:13:42
Volunteers are appreciated!! My brain is not even on autopilot right now, rather I'm in a downward spiral. Where are my helpers??? Yipes.
Posted by partlycloudy on February 15, 2005, at 7:58:44
In reply to Re: our committee, posted by Dr. Bob on February 13, 2005, at 16:13:42
> > Are you still on our committee?
>
> Do we need to try to recruit someone else?
>
> BobAny takers?
Posted by Dr. Bob on February 15, 2005, at 7:59:11
In reply to Re: our committee » Dr. Bob, posted by partlycloudy on February 14, 2005, at 7:02:26
> Volunteers are appreciated!! My brain is not even on autopilot right now, rather I'm in a downward spiral. Where are my helpers??? Yipes.
Maybe I should announce committee openings?
Bob
Posted by partlycloudy on February 15, 2005, at 8:25:38
In reply to Re: volunteers, posted by Dr. Bob on February 15, 2005, at 7:59:11
That would be a good thing!
Posted by Poet on February 15, 2005, at 19:59:46
In reply to Re: volunteers, posted by Dr. Bob on February 15, 2005, at 7:59:11
I live within driving distance of Chicago, so that might be a benefit. If you need another committee member, I'll give it a go.
My only question is how does the committee meet?
Poet
Posted by Dr. Bob on February 16, 2005, at 1:20:44
In reply to Re: volunteers, posted by Poet on February 15, 2005, at 19:59:46
> I live within driving distance of Chicago, so that might be a benefit. If you need another committee member, I'll give it a go.
Great! :-)
> My only question is how does the committee meet?
It just posts here?
Bob
Posted by Angielala on February 16, 2005, at 2:08:59
In reply to Re: volunteers, posted by Dr. Bob on February 16, 2005, at 1:20:44
OK- being pregnant gives me a small disadvantage of flight... however, it's a 14 hour drive out there.... which I have done before- to get to Ohio, on a whim... and just to see the Rock N Roll Hall of Fame... so it is possible
I do have a wedding to go to in June, so I have to check what date that is and compare it to what date this will be.
So a few things that would make a difference to those considering a plane ride or long drive....
There would have to be enough Babblers attending to make it a true get together that will be worth the trip... we all have friends here... so if we can start convincing those closer friends of ours on here, it would be a good starting point to really sealing the deal to those who are on the fence. Of course I see some of my favorites have already posted about meeting- so I'm lucky :) There are a few more I will work on....
Another thing to look into is what events could take place for the get together- fun things to do, maybe find a nice hotel that's nt too pricey that we could all stay and have a bar to schmooze in, a restaurant to eat in and somethings close by to look into (sporting events, a play, museums)... another idea is to address some good issues to talk about- maybe assign a few attendees to getting something together... like a slideshow of pictures that different babblers could send in (even ones that couldn't make it)... someone could gather good stories about how Babble ha helped them through bad times and good friends that they have met... maybe a poetry slam for those on the writing board... a book gathering- meaning babblers could bring books with thier favorite excerpts that they find meaningful, moving, helpful, specific to certain mental health issues...
And of course a party! food music maybe raffle prizes a comedian (I think we should all give stand up a try- we all have SUCH good material- it's obvious we are a funny crew :) )
I think it would be wise to keep it all on a positive note, seeing that we'll be travelling for this, we all want something positive to look forward to....
These are just ideas.. if this flies, I'd be happy to help out with getting things together
I think it mostly depends on who could feasibly make it there, the more the merrier and the more apt people will convince themselves it's worth the trip
Let me know if anything progresses further!
> > I live within driving distance of Chicago, so that might be a benefit. If you need another committee member, I'll give it a go.
>
> Great! :-)
>
> > My only question is how does the committee meet?
>
> It just posts here?
>
> Bob
>
Posted by partlycloudy on February 16, 2005, at 13:47:31
In reply to Brainstorming- from a semi-pro party planner ;), posted by Angielala on February 16, 2005, at 2:08:59
> Another thing to look into is what events could take place for the get together- fun things to do,
The Art Institute? Museum of Contemporary Art? The Field Museum? There is a river tour guided by the Architectural Society that is way cool (OK, so I'm a museum person...)
> maybe find a nice hotel that's nt too pricey that we could all stay and have a bar to schmooze in,
Maybe we can negotiate a group rate if there are enough of us coming in from out of town?
> a restaurant to eat in and somethings close by to look into (sporting events, a play, museums)...
Food, mmmm. Chicago blues music, mmm.
> another idea is to address some good issues to talk about- maybe assign a few attendees to getting something together... like a slideshow of pictures that different babblers could send in (even ones that couldn't make it)... someone could gather good stories about how Babble ha helped them through bad times and good friends that they have met...
It sounds like a great party :)
> maybe a poetry slam for those on the writing board... a book gathering- meaning babblers could bring books with thier favorite excerpts that they find meaningful, moving, helpful, specific to certain mental health issues...
>
> And of course a party! food music maybe raffle prizes a comedian (I think we should all give stand up a try- we all have SUCH good material- it's obvious we are a funny crew :) )
>How about nominations for a Best Thread or Post of The Year?
> I think it would be wise to keep it all on a positive note, seeing that we'll be travelling for this, we all want something positive to look forward to....
>I agree!
Who wants to come to the party?
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