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Posted by Miss Honeychurch on January 8, 2004, at 14:20:18
In reply to Re: Therapist fashion disasters, posted by Elle2021 on December 29, 2003, at 5:09:48
Well, my Therapist obviosly got some new duds AND some fashion advice for Christmas. He was looking very pleasing in a pair of black corderoys and a burgundy, long sleeved button down shirt. Same top siders though and Casio watch.
I was very pleased! (I hope he doesn't read these boards - I'm sure he could pick me out in a minute, psuedonym or no pseudonym)
Posted by Karen_kay on January 8, 2004, at 17:40:34
In reply to Re: Mr. Bean :( » Karen_kay, posted by Miss Honeychurch on January 8, 2004, at 11:01:43
Please tell me he didn't wear brown shoes with black pants..... My boyfriend got a nice watch for Christmas. I can send you his old one if you like??? Maybe you can just accidently leave it in his office. Maybe he can take the hint? Whadda ya think?
You said I can call you anything I want. Well, I'm reserving that opportunity, so be careful not to make me angry in the future. I may seem sweet and caring right now, but if you make me angry just watch out :) I'm a cancer you know (zodiac), and like a crab I'll strike! he he he! I too enjoy any type of compliment, unless I feel it is false. I'd rather hear nothing or a criticsm than what I perceive to be a false compliment. That drives me nuts. I really jump my therapists case for doing that! I still haven't written a list of appropriate compliments, but I'll get around to it some day....So, cutie pie what are you doing tonight? (how's that?? the best I can do right now...sorry..)
I love getting prepared for threrapy. It's a must. I'm not really feeling the crush anymore. He's my daddy now. I even yelled at him a few weeks ago, "You're a lousy dad!" I laughed and said, "I'm sure you're a great father to your children but you're not a good father to me!" It makes you feel really silly for having these so-called feelings for your therapist when they don't feel them back. Even worse, I feel that he has nothing but contempt for me. That I'm just wasting his time. It's sad, but what can I do. I think should honestly talk to him about switching therapists and see what he says. I think it is to the point that he either has some countertransference issues that he can't control or jsut a general dislike for me or something.... I don't know....I'm just really going through some things and he said that when I started going through them "we" would go through them togehter but that isn't happening. I'm going through them alone. And I'm not sure if it's my fault or his or both....You know? This crap is confusing. I have enough going on , I don't need the drama of therapy to add to the list. (Sorry, thinking out loud.... Back to "Happy Karen")
So, you wrote him a "Love Letter" Somethng like this:
Mr Bean,
With every breathe I take, I whipser your name. How I long to be near you, to untuck your sweater and unfasten your Casio watch. If only we could make sweet loven, and I could dress you in the morning. With more age appropriate clothing and style. Why won't you let me be near you? Oh why won't you consult a fashion consultant? Oh why can't you help me with my procrastination? Oh why can't we spend the night speaking French and Flamenco dancing? Oh why don't you have style? Oh why don't you floss? I could teach you,if only you'd let me. We could learn so much from eachother. You could teach me lessons of life. I could teach you lesson of etiquette. You complete me. Jerry Maquire told me that.
Yours forever,
Miss Honey XoXoXoPS. We can discuss this Wednesday. Enjoy your holiday! :)
*That's a pretty sweet love letter. Is that what it said. I'm sure that's what it meant anyway! It is strange when they say things like "I care about you" or "I'm glad to see you" or "you can think about me when you masturbate" Yup, mine told me that :)
I WISH I could dance. I always say if I had one super-human power it would be to THINK I could dance like Micheal Jackson. I don't care if I actually do dance well, just that I think I do. I'm very clumsy. I can barely walk. I'm always bumping into walls and falling down for no reason. I can barely walk in a straight line. It's sad :( I hope you do well at your dance show/production!!! I'm sure you will! Break a leg! Your costume is sexy of coure, to match your attitude...I love watching dancers! I think they are so graceful! It's wonderful! I just wish I could do it! But, I know my boundaries and strengths and grace is not one of them...
I'm studying telecommunication. I want to direct and produce my own documetaries. I just love people and I'm curious about them. I'm a certified scuba diver as well, so I'd also like to get into underwater documentaries possibly. But, I'm more interested in people and mental illness especially. But without sensationalizing, as in making people appear weak or helpless. I prefer accurate portrayals, you know? I actually wrote a paper on Bipolar Disorder for my Psychology 101 class (but it was a very personal paper, not diagnostic) and the prof asked to use if for her 400 level class to give a portrayal into what it actually "feels like" to have bipolar disorder. I was really proud. Because I didn't embellish or downplay, it was accurate according to how I saw everything that happened through my eyes. And I want viewers to see what other people see and gain a perspective that way. To gain understanding and compassion and to learn. That's why we are here, to learn from each other (at least I think so).. I think I'm here to teach compassion and I'm pretty handy with a camera so I need to learn to teach compassion through a camera.
Sorry to ramble jsut feeling a bit off today hun. Hey, you're a pretty lady :) Bye bye for now!!! Oh, I'll have to check out that cure cd.. B sides only... HMMMMM!!!!! YUMMY!!!
Posted by Dinah on January 8, 2004, at 19:36:48
In reply to Were his shoes brown? » Miss Honeychurch, posted by Karen_kay on January 8, 2004, at 17:40:34
Karen, sweetie. You don't need to go back to being "Happy Karen". Angry Karen is welcome to us too.
Do you think you really could ask him about that? Not that I think he's really trying to get rid of you, because he sounds fond of you, but to get it out in the open and lance those festering wounds. How about I'll try it if you do?
Posted by Miss Honeychurch on January 8, 2004, at 21:20:24
In reply to Were his shoes brown? » Miss Honeychurch, posted by Karen_kay on January 8, 2004, at 17:40:34
The shoes were his usual "boat shoes" "top siders" "docksiders" or whatever you want to call them. And yes, they were brown. Baby steps remember, baby steps. I wore them every day of 8th grade in 1984 I think. The socks were black and pulled up so I couldn't get a gander at the leg hair, but I was able to imagine it.
Leaving a substitute watch is a good idea. He also had a fresh new haircut. Can't help but think he got all primped up for me today. I don't think I made too much of a fool of myself today, although I did a lot of leaning forward toward him with my face cupped in my hands looking adoringly at him. I'm sure he didn't notice! I'm so transparent!
Your love letter was a lot better than mine. The best I could do was quote Charles Dickens! I mentioned nothing erotic like tucked in sweaters or dental floss. You have a gift for words my dear... I can't wait for our joint session.
And I wouldn't mind seeing the angry Karen, no problem. I will crumple into a pile of mush however if you become angry with me. I don't deal with anger very well if it is mine or directed at me. Something I am working on. I am basically afraid of anger which is why I have never expressed it.
I have seen 2 really good documentaries lately - "Keep the River on your Right" about some journalist's foray into cannibalism in South America and "Dogtown" about skateboarding in Santa Monica in the 70s.
Posted by Karen_kay on January 8, 2004, at 21:22:12
In reply to Re: Were his shoes brown? » Karen_kay, posted by Dinah on January 8, 2004, at 19:36:48
For some reason it threw me off that you responded. I don't know I guess I'm just used to Miss Honey responding here and your response actually kind of scared me. I actually reread the post to "be sure I didn't write anything bad." WHAT?? I'm just not feeling myself lately, honestly. I don't know what's going on but I really need to get it figured out.
I tell him often that I don't think he likes me and he just appears frustrated by it. I think that he thinks I'm using it as a ploy to waste time. That he honestly thinks that he is so completely neutral that there should be no reason for me to think that. Maybe he doesn't think it should matter whether he likes me or not. Maybe it shouldn't, honestly. This is JUST a business relationship in a sense.
I think if I broach the subject of changing therapists then he'll just say, "Well, that's up to you." I've asked in the past about discontinuing therapy and that's how he answered. But, I wasn't serious and I'm sure he knew it. But this time I really think I am. I really don't think I want to continue. I can handle having to work hard to remember things. And I can handle being stereotyped as being "stupid" because I forget who people are and how old I am. But I can't handle this anxiety and I can't handle the memories that are being brought up and the fear that I'm facing right now. Seriously!
And I'm certain your therapist is very fond of you. He's worked with you for quite a while now. He knows so much about you. I know very little about you and have grown quite fond of you. How could he not be fond of you? He made a mistake last week and I hope he apologizes for it. It was uncalled for. I think if you ask him, the results will be very good for you. He will tell you how much he cares for you. And that's great. I just wish I had that kind of relationship with my therapist. I do sometimes, just not all the time.
Posted by Dinah on January 8, 2004, at 22:17:33
In reply to Dinah *Gasp* » Dinah, posted by Karen_kay on January 8, 2004, at 21:22:12
> For some reason it threw me off that you responded. I don't know I guess I'm just used to Miss Honey responding here and your response actually kind of scared me. I actually reread the post to "be sure I didn't write anything bad." WHAT??
Oh dear, I hadn't realized I was so scary. :) Although, admittedly I can be on occasion, but I can't imagine having occasion with you.
>
> I tell him often that I don't think he likes me and he just appears frustrated by it. I think that he thinks I'm using it as a ploy to waste time. That he honestly thinks that he is so completely neutral that there should be no reason for me to think that. Maybe he doesn't think it should matter whether he likes me or not. Maybe it shouldn't, honestly. This is JUST a business relationship in a sense.
>
Well, it is and it isn't. I used my own job as a comparison to my therapist once, and he said therapy wasn't like that. That you were most effective as a therapist if you did care. But from what you've told us, I'm pretty sure he does care. It's just hard to see it right now.> I think if I broach the subject of changing therapists then he'll just say, "Well, that's up to you." I've asked in the past about discontinuing therapy and that's how he answered.
You aren't alone. Mine has said similar things frequently, including today. I think they're trained to handle what they perceive as ultimatums, although we don't mean them that way, in a certain rigid way. I'm not sure they realize how it makes us feel and react sometimes. I mean, I understand that they don't want to be "manipulated" (which I know I, and I'm sure you, don't mean to do, but they think we do). But there's no reason they can't soften the "That's up to you. I'm sorry you're making that choice." just a bit, so that it leaves a bit more room for us to save face, and makes us feel like we're more than merely a paycheck. I tore a strip off my therapist's back (verbally) about that today.
> But, I wasn't serious and I'm sure he knew it. But this time I really think I am. I really don't think I want to continue. I can handle having to work hard to remember things. And I can handle being stereotyped as being "stupid" because I forget who people are and how old I am. But I can't handle this anxiety and I can't handle the memories that are being brought up and the fear that I'm facing right now. Seriously!
I must have quit at least five times, probably more, the first five years I saw him. But I really didn't want to. Make sure you're sure what you want to do before you quit. I was really lucky he took me back. Some of what you said to Speaker makes me think you're not as certain as you think you may be. But you do need to ask him to back off to a pace that you can tolerate better.
>
> And I'm certain your therapist is very fond of you. He's worked with you for quite a while now. He knows so much about you. I know very little about you and have grown quite fond of you. How could he not be fond of you? He made a mistake last week and I hope he apologizes for it. It was uncalled for. I think if you ask him, the results will be very good for you. He will tell you how much he cares for you. And that's great. I just wish I had that kind of relationship with my therapist. I do sometimes, just not all the time.I do sometimes, but not all the time either. Maybe that's the way it is with some of them. :(
Posted by Karen_kay on January 9, 2004, at 0:37:42
In reply to Re: Were his shoes brown? » Karen_kay, posted by Miss Honeychurch on January 8, 2004, at 21:20:24
Ah, I would never become angry at you! Never ever ever! I was merely joking of course. I was in a foul mood earlier, but I am feeling a little better. I took some anxiety meds and ate something so I feel a bit better :)
And I'm certain he noticed you cupping your head in your hands, they are paid to notice things like that. My therapist just pointed out to me that when he says something wrong and I thinh he's full of crap or it doesn't apply to me I look up to the left corner of the room. And it is so true! I'm glad he noticed! (Picture a horse turning its head away when you try to touch it's face and that's what I do when he gets my sister's name wrong, or calls my nephew a niece or says that I'm not at all like my mother)
The point I'm trying to make is that they know us better than maybe we think. Or maybe they don't? I don't know...
Have you ever told him you think he looks like Bean? I think I'm going to tell mine that I think he looks like Craig Kilborn. But, I don't want to boost his ego any. I'm feeling out of sorts with him and I don't want to do anything to make him feel good right now. I always wonder and ask my friends who would play me in my own made for TV movie.... Who do you think would play you? (I'm known for asking strange questions like this..Who's smarter a brain surgeon or rocket scientist...the list goes on and on.. I think I annoy my friends with these questions. I even asked my therapist once if I was a car, based solely on physical qualities, what kind of car would I be? I said a ford escort. He said that he doubted that and was frustrated that I found myself to be "cheap" (my words....)American Movie is a good documentary about "down-home" film makers trying to make a scary movie. It pretty funny. I just watched a pretty good drama that is based on a true story called "Rabbit Proof Fence" It's really good! It made me cry! You should look it up on www.imdb.com that's a good source to find out about films and actors, ect....
Talk to you later, gator....
Posted by Karen_kay on January 9, 2004, at 0:54:35
In reply to Re: Dinah *Gasp*, posted by Dinah on January 8, 2004, at 22:17:33
No, you're certainly not scary Miss Dinah. It's just that I tend to forget that others can read what I write. Then, I feel that maybe I wrote something "bad." I think I was just in a little girl stage and I almost felt like I'd been caught by mommy, not that you'd be a bad mommy! You'd be a lovely mommy. Will you be my mommy? Just me being silly.... I tend to be silly quite often :)
And again, I really think, looking back on things I'm projecting my own feelings onto him. He really isn't neutral, I am. During the session, I'm the one who is completely void of any emotion at all. That's what the problem is. And I'm really glad I figured it out! Dinah, you saved me again. Now, I need to staple this post to my forehead so I don't forget that the next time I complain that he's emotionless or unsupportive, though he could be better.
And I know they aren't supposed to beg us to stay. "Oh please don't go. I couldn't continue my practice without you, ect" but they could at least say that they feel that leaving right now wouldn't be in our best interest or something...Anything, any type of support to not give up would be comforting.
Good for you for tearing him a new one for that! It sounds like you don't let him get away with too much.I just think I was "having a moment" earlier. It seems to be happening more frequently. I'll make it, I'm sure.
Posted by Dinah on January 9, 2004, at 9:56:31
In reply to Re: Dinah to the rescue! » Dinah, posted by Karen_kay on January 9, 2004, at 0:54:35
That wsan't what I ripped into him about, actually. It was about money. We had already been arguing about the timing of his telling me he was angry and saying I was annoying. I thought that given how well he knows me, the timing of how he did that was close to sadistic. He claimed ignorance.
Then one of the EMDR therapists wants him to be there at the first EMDR session, in case something went bad. I told her he probably wouldn't be interested, but I asked him anyway, and he said it would be fine as long as I paid him. Well, duh. I know he wouldn't show up without money. Then he tells me he'd also charge me for the travel time from his office to hers. Now her office is easily within five miles from our homes (we live within a few blocks from each other). There's no reason when we jointly scheduled the appointment, he couldn't do it at a time that was convenient for him. Moreover, he claims an auxiliary office about three blocks from her office.
I accepted it quietly at the time, but then called back later. Told him I paid him a ridiculous amount of money each year for close to nine years, his fee was higher than PhD psychologists in our area, one and a half times what he gets from his insurance clients (which he has told me make up the majority of his practice), he doesn't give me quantity discount, I have to drive to the inconvenient location where he moved his office and pay another $500 or $600 in parking fees which he doesn't validate. I told him that my employers wouldn't *dream* of trying to squeeze the last nickel under those circumstances, and would consider the travel time to be a small cost for maintaining goodwill. And that he didn't need to call back. Slam the phone.
But he did call back and apologize. He said he had been caught off guard and hadn't thought it through and that even before I called he had decided he wouldn't charge the travel time. So another anger short circuited by decent behavior by him.
I guess I do have a lot of pent up anger. :(
Posted by Penny on January 9, 2004, at 10:14:13
In reply to Re: Dinah the fire breathing self advocate, posted by Dinah on January 9, 2004, at 9:56:31
Dinah!!! I'm sooooo proud of you!!!!
I think he totally deserved that reaction from you! I mean, REALLY. Travel time? Maybe if it was an hour away or something, but in the same city? C'mon!!!
I'm glad he had already thought it over before you called, but he still deserved your anger over that one. I don't think it's very fair that he's charging you that much more than he receives from insurance patients - why does he not charge them the difference?
I dunno...And he doesn't validate your parking?? At the LEAST he should do that, IMO. Of course, I have nothing to do with that, so...
Yes. He totally deserved your anger. Well done. Don't you dare feel one bit of regret about that!!!
P
Posted by Miss Honeychurch on January 9, 2004, at 10:29:47
In reply to Re: Dinah the fire breathing self advocate, posted by Dinah on January 9, 2004, at 9:56:31
Dinah, you rock, girl!!!!
I hope to one day get to a point in my life where I don't feel bad sticking up for myself. People like you are an inspiration to me!
Posted by Dinah on January 9, 2004, at 10:30:09
In reply to Re: Dinah the fire breathing self advocate » Dinah, posted by Penny on January 9, 2004, at 10:14:13
I agree completely. And it really makes me think less of him. I'm not looking forward to today's session.
Posted by Dinah on January 9, 2004, at 10:30:50
In reply to Re: Dinah the fire breathing self advocate, posted by Miss Honeychurch on January 9, 2004, at 10:29:47
Posted by Miss Honeychurch on January 9, 2004, at 12:42:18
In reply to Re: Well, notice I did it on the phone. :) (nm) » Miss Honeychurch, posted by Dinah on January 9, 2004, at 10:30:50
Posted by Jai Narayan on January 9, 2004, at 17:34:33
In reply to Were his shoes brown? » Miss Honeychurch, posted by Karen_kay on January 8, 2004, at 17:40:34
> I'm studying telecommunication. I want to direct and produce my own documetaries. I just love people and I'm curious about them. But, I'm more interested in people and mental illness especially. But without sensationalizing, as in making people appear weak or helpless.
< Wow! that is so cool!
> I prefer accurate portrayals, you know? I actually wrote a paper on Bipolar Disorder for my Psychology 101 class (but it was a very personal paper, not diagnostic) and the prof asked to use if for her 400 level class to give a portrayal into what it actually "feels like" to have bipolar disorder. I was really proud. Because I didn't embellish or downplay, it was accurate according to how I saw everything that happened through my eyes.
<please sweet person send me a copy? At my e-mail address? Please. I would love to read it. my mother was bipolar all my life starting with my birth and I have always wondered what she saw. You are the best!
Posted by Karen_kay on January 10, 2004, at 21:24:50
In reply to you are the BEST!, posted by Jai Narayan on January 9, 2004, at 17:34:33
I went shopping today to help raise my spirits a bit and also for "back to school items," if you want to call them that. I guess that's how I justify it anyway :) But, I went for my biggest passions, shoes and perfume! I got the shoes on sale and the perfume, well...anyway! I guess I figure that if I like the way I smell and I smell good all year long and I get compliments on it then why not, right? And the shoes were really on sale!!!!! Big savings!!! So, that makes up for what I spent on the perfume, right?
<please sweet person send me a copy? At my e-mail address? Please. I would love to read it. my mother was bipolar all my life starting with my birth and I have always wondered what she saw. You are the best!
*Yes, I know I am the best, though you can continue to say it. It won't break my heart if you continue to tell me so. I'll think about sending it to you. It's just that it is so personal that I'll have to think about it. I'm sure you understand. I'm pretty sure I will say yes, but I just need to think about it first. I wouldn't want my life story of "madness" to get out before I sell the rights to a Film Producer :) Seriously, let me sleep on it a few nights. I just have some concerns as I guard my privacy and have trust issues and it is a rather personal story. I only wrote it with the intention of her possibly being able to use it as a teaching aid (and of course for extra credit). Actually my therapist asked to read it and I declined. The only possible reason I'd let you read it is because we've never met. I haven't even let my boyfriend or any other family or friends read it. See, I do have some trust issues. Promise you won't send it to my shrink? :)
Posted by All Done on January 10, 2004, at 23:22:26
In reply to Re: Mr. Bean :( » Karen_kay, posted by Miss Honeychurch on January 8, 2004, at 11:01:43
Just and FYI -
I'm not sure where either of you live, but if you're in the Chicago area (and happen to be awake and reading posts), I just noticed there appears to be a Mr. Bean marathon on PBS (WTTW, Channel 11).
Thought I'd let you know. : )
All Done
Posted by All Done on January 11, 2004, at 0:41:50
In reply to Re: Mr. Bean Karen_kay and Miss Honeychurch » Miss Honeychurch, posted by All Done on January 10, 2004, at 23:22:26
Sorry. I'm pretty new at this...
Posted by Karen_kay on January 11, 2004, at 10:02:16
In reply to ^^^Above for Karen_kay and Miss Honeychurch, posted by All Done on January 11, 2004, at 0:41:50
Awesome! Thanks a bunch! Miss Honey, if it's on where I am, I'm be thinking about "my new therapist" :)
Thank you All Done... It's strange.. I kinda think that this thread is a "secret" between Miss Honey and I... I didn't think anyone else read it. I'm going to go back and make sure I didn't put anything I shouldn't have in it. Well, I guess it's too late for that anyway! Hope you enjoyed it!
Miss Honey, how have you been? What did bean say aobut the love letter? Did he even realize it was a love letter? I'd say, judging by the new duds, he knew and got all dressed up just for you! Either that or he's been reading? Oh,no the horror!
Posted by Jai Narayan on January 11, 2004, at 11:21:58
In reply to yes, yes, I know :) » Jai Narayan, posted by Karen_kay on January 10, 2004, at 21:24:50
Wow, I had no idea what a huge request this was. I respect and honor anything you decide. I will not share it with anyone else on this planet, I promise. But if you want to keep it to yourself....I would totally honor that.
you are the BEST best.
Posted by Karen_kay on January 11, 2004, at 14:58:40
In reply to Re: yes, yes, I know :), posted by Jai Narayan on January 11, 2004, at 11:21:58
you are the BEST best.
*Could you say that just once more, pretty please :)
Posted by All Done on January 12, 2004, at 0:21:38
In reply to Re: ^^^Above for Karen_kay and Miss Honeychurch, posted by Karen_kay on January 11, 2004, at 10:02:16
> Awesome! Thanks a bunch! Miss Honey, if it's on where I am, I'm be thinking about "my new therapist" :)
>
> Thank you All Done... It's strange.. I kinda think that this thread is a "secret" between Miss Honey and I... I didn't think anyone else read it. I'm going to go back and make sure I didn't put anything I shouldn't have in it. Well, I guess it's too late for that anyway! Hope you enjoyed it!I hope you didn't mind my intrusion...
So many of your posts make me laugh and the ones that don't (or aren't intended to be funny) have been insightful and at times very helpful to me (a newbie to all this therapy-stuff). I hope you don't censor anything because you think about the fact that others are reading. When I see the little, yellow "new" next to your name, I look forward to reading the entry and I thank you for that! : )
Take care,
All Done
Posted by Karen_kay on January 12, 2004, at 8:01:46
In reply to Re: ^^^Above for Karen_kay and Miss Honeychurch » Karen_kay, posted by All Done on January 12, 2004, at 0:21:38
Ahhhhhhhhh, that was sweet! :) Miss Honey (and everyone else) WE ARE IMPORTANT! YAHOO! Thank you All Done! And I can assure you, I don't censor myself :) I think Social Babble is "Fun Time," and I really enjoy writing love letters and agendas to Miss Honey. But, for crying out loud, I feel like I'm only doing it for entertainment! I thought for sure she would take that last agenda in to her session with her. But, I guess not. I suppose it is up to me to pay her therapist a little visit on my own time and create my own agenda for him. If she doesn't use my advice, maybe she won't be included in this agenda! However, I have class today so I don't have time right now to write the agenda. But, I'll be thinking about it instead of the lecture, I assure you of this! And I'll post it when I get back from my classes. Now, if I fail my classes because I'm thinking about therapy agendas, I wonder how many years of therapy that will tack on to my endless schedule I already have? Hmmmmm.....
Well, anyway, thank you! And it wasn't an intrusion in the slightest. I don't mind that others read at all. It's just that I tend toforget that others are reading. Maybe I just find myself and my outrageous stories boring by now? I know my old man does. But, my therapist doesn't. That's a good sign :) He likes to listen to me talk. But, he's getting paid for it also :( He did tell me once that if we weren't client and therapist, that I'd be the type of person that he'd ahng out with, but I doubt he'd be the type of person I'd hang out with. He's just TOO emotional. YECK! I just know he'd call me crying all the time and I'd have to say, "Look man, get it together! Enough of your whining! I just can't take it anymore. Write yourself a script for some valium and follow it with a shot of rum and go to sleep. And please, if you feel this way in the morning, don't call me. I have enough bringing me down. I don't need your incessant whining to listen to as well. I have a mother and several friends for that. Hey, if you're feeling better later, do you want to go grab a beer."
I'm not very supportive am I? :) No, I don't think I could be his friend. But, he is so very yummy!
Posted by Miss Honeychurch on January 12, 2004, at 8:48:52
In reply to Re: ^^^Above for Karen_kay and Miss Honeychurch » Karen_kay, posted by All Done on January 12, 2004, at 0:21:38
All Done,
How sweet of you to let Karen and me continue our fetish for Mr. Bean! UNfortunately, I just saw your post this morning so I couldn't revel in any Bean marathon. sigh...
I'm feeling sort of cra**y about the Christmas card/letter. I saw him last week for the first time in 3 weeks and while we had a good session, he didn't bring up the card or letter. I at least wanted him to say thanks! This happened before with a sympathy note I sent him a few months ago after he confided in me that his mother died. He never mentioned the note and I didn't want to bring it up. Someone posted to me (I think it was Dinah?) that her therapist never acknowledged her cards either. Maybe that is something therapists do? But after reading posts about the Perfect Therapy Patient Club recently, it seems a lot of therapists thanked their clients for cards. So now I'm feeling mine must be a jerk or he hasn't even read it yet. I try so hard to be special to him and I never really get any feedback!
And then I think, maybe he's been reading this and he is just getting back at me for outing his fashion disasters!
I don't know, I'm feeling rather blue today...
Posted by Karen_kay on January 12, 2004, at 12:20:17
In reply to Re: ^^^Above for Karen_kay and Miss Honeychurch, posted by Miss Honeychurch on January 12, 2004, at 8:48:52
I have sent NUMEROUS cards to my therapist. Many of them being thank you cards, but I've also sent him a Congrats card after he finished his big test. Which test I'm not sure, as I'm not exactly knowledgable in such areas, but it was a big deal. He never comments on them. NEVER! I've brought it up once saying that maybe, just maybe I send them to test my limits (which isn't rue and he knows it) and he always says that it isn't true and if it were then he would request that I stop sending them. He said it isn't as if I send them every week or two weeks or anything like that. He also said that it isn't as if I attach a 30 page note to the card, so the card is jsut a gesture of gratitude and he appreciates them, which I know because he places them in his office. OMG, if he's reading this I'm pointing myself out at this point. There's a huge arrow over my head saying "Look Dr. Spock, it's ME! Now check out all the nasty things I've said aobut you in the past." (I get so paranoid at times it hurts :(, well it doesn't hurt but you get the picture....
Anyway, look at it this way. If he brought the card up, then it would be because he was concerned. So, it is a good thing he didn't bring it up. Also, if you want to talk about the card, why don't you bring it up? Here's the agenda...
Miss Honey (and Karen if you really need me, but I assure you I smell so good he won't be paying much attention to you if I'm in the room)
January 13, 2004
2:00 pm2:00-2:01 Greetings
2:01-2:05 Bean comments on Karen's fragrance :)
2:05-2:06 Karen hands Bean name of fragrance along with home and cell number >)
2:06-2:07 Bean slips note in pocket and stares into space
2:07-2:08 Miss Honey becomes agitated
2:08-2:10 Bean shakes it off and resumes session
2:10-2:20 Miss Honey broaches subject of card casually
2:20-2:22 Karen bluntly explains it was a love letter and tells Bean of Miss Honey's transference issues
2:22-2:25 Miss Honey pouts in corner
2:25-2:30 Bean stares into space again
2:30-2:50 Bean and Miss Honey decide to begin talking about transference and realize that the discussion isn't nearly as bad as it seems! Also Bean thanks Miss Honey for the lovely card.Hmmmmm.... Maybe Karen should start going to everyone's therapy sessions? It would be a chance to start getting her number out there at least, though I'm sure her boyfriend may wonder why so may therapists are calling her all of the sudden.....But Karen do likey those therapists....
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