Posted by alexandra_k on June 8, 2009, at 1:29:35
In reply to Re: helllllllllllllooooooooooooo?, posted by twinleaf on June 8, 2009, at 1:07:52
it is out of sight out of mind with him. this has happened once before. he took 2 months off while his wife had a baby. he said he understood that it was a long time and that we could stay in touch by email. maybe one email exchange a week or something like that. then he didn't reply to me at all until the day before out appointment. i said i wouldn't have gone to the appointment if he hadn't contacted me at all. he seemed surprised. i said he shouldn't make promises he can't keep. it wasn't even defensive about it. but he knows that it is important to me.
he didn't keep in touch during my time away the way that he seemed to think he would. i could live with that. but he did say he would keep a slot open for me. and he didn't. he just seemed to think that it would magically work out okay. he knows how busy he is, surely. just out of sight out of mind. he didn't think to check with his secretary that he actually was keeping a slot open around the time of my return. he didn't think to check and find out that that wasn't the case until the week that i was due back. he didn't even think to tell me that this was the case until i emailed him close to a week after i was back. then he is like 'oh i didn't know my secretary usually deals with my schedule'. out of sight out of mind with him is all. thats the way he is. he can be great in person but when he isn't there in person he is just hopeless. if he can't hold me in mind when i'm not there how am i supposed to learn to do that with him?
he knew for about a month beforehand. and he did nothing. and that isn't okay.
can't put things right because can't even get in to see him. and there it is.
poster:alexandra_k
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