Posted by AdaGrace on May 20, 2005, at 5:43:41
In reply to Formative Years, posted by Toph on May 14, 2005, at 8:51:41
I am reminded of a plaque I hung on the wall in my children's room when they were little. I don't remember what the exact words were, but the gist was "children learn what you do" The old saying "do as I say, not as I do" doesn't really work. Children can learn so easily from parents mistakes. They can take that knowledge and become their parents or become a better person for it. Noone needs to thank their parents for the abuse if it makes them stronger, more forgiving, more loving, more understanding, and obviously less abusive. But it can be seen in so many people when they become adults and grow to become more beautiful human beings and treat others including their children as they wished they were treated, and of course as they should be treated.
Children learn what you do.
Toph, I know that it is hard to write about bad things in the past. I commend you on your efforts and sit here thinking that I am glad I know you. Even if it is in the world wide web way instead of in person.
AdaGrace
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