Posted by AdaGrace on March 21, 2005, at 9:33:41
In reply to Re: , » alexandra_k, posted by alexandra_k on March 21, 2005, at 3:45:57
No, Alexandra, you are not alone. There are so many others out here who feel like you do, but find that others do care about us and feel the need to comfort us and make us feel safe in our world of solitude and scary mindsets.
Let me tell you something that I have been thinking about you for a very long time. I think perhaps you are one of the most intelligent people I have ever had the pleasure to meet. Often times I don't know how to respond to your posts because they are so very far over my head I just can't keep up. I don't mention this to put you down, but to build you up. For you see, people women and men are attracted to intelligence. Often intelligence attracts intelligence. AND Alexandra, many times an intelligent attraction brings forth someone who sees you for who you are, challenges your mind, and yet understands the shortcomings and doesn't put you down or hurt you because of it. It is a true friend/lover who isn't afraid of your intelligence, but nourishes it.
I often think that this is the reason for my serious incompatibility with my husband. I am smarter than he is in so many ways. He is afraid of that and therefore puts me down in so many ways so as to keep me "in line". Do you know what he said when I graduated College? "Graduating Highschool is a much bigger deal than this" What a scared little boy he was, and I couldn't see it. I thought I deserved to be treated that way, I thought I was stupid. I know better now. And those things, those little minute multitude of things have piled up into a mountain of hurt over 20 years, and I can't climb over that mountain. I'm on top of it. But I can't get over the fact that it is there.
Okay, now I ran off into a tangent about myself. Alexander, I am here listening to you, thinking of you and caring.......
AdaGrace
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