Posted by alexandra_k on March 4, 2005, at 18:08:52
In reply to Re: I just want to, posted by Susan47 on March 4, 2005, at 16:53:04
> My new t knows a great deal already. I told her almost everything... almost.
Thats good :-)
>She doesn't know the frequency.
Well... Thats probably not so very important...
>Once a day would've been enough to burn her out, she says.
Yes.
> I'm so ashamed.
You don't have to feel ashamed. It is up to your therapist to set limits Susan. And if you push those limits then it is up to them to talk to you about that and sort it out. They have to look after themselves Susan. Sounds like your last t's boundaries weren't so hot. Your new t sounds a bit better with that. That is good. It means she is looking after herself. To make sure she won't get burned out. That means that she won't have to terminate you like the last one did - see?
> I don't know if I can ever tell her everything.
> But I do know I can tell her a great deal.Thats good enough.
> Her boundaries are very strick but she's sensitive enough to know when to let them down.
Thats terrific. You can't really ask for more than that.
> And I think I won't cross hers, because I learned so much already, but it was such a painful lesson, so hard to learn when there was so much panic attached to the subject matter.
Yeah.
> I don't like being alone.
> Not at all.
> It's like being dead, Alexandra.
> And sometimes, being with the wrong people is also like being dead.Im sorry Susan. But you aren't alone. You have the internet. I know it isn't the same as being able to connect with people IRL but it is infinately better than nothing Susan. Infinitely better than nothing and it is 24/7.
> I need to hear his voice again, and I need to fight that. Fight it.
Yes. Because it will hurt you more than it will help you.
> Do you see how I try? Do you see? Do you listen? Do you understand?Yeah Susan, I do.
Don't talk to him anymore Susan.
Talk to us
Talk to your new t.
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