Posted by deirdrehbrt on March 8, 2006, at 16:03:31
In reply to my troubled son, posted by heart_broken on March 7, 2006, at 14:11:28
(((((Heart_broken)))))
Sometimes the right thing doesn't feel right. Sometimes the easy way is the absolutely wrong thing to do. I think you found the right way. Some of us need to feel intense pain to recognize that something is wrong, and I think myabe your son is starting to feel that.If you're an addict, and you're comfortable, you have no incentive to change. There is no easy or soft way to get free from an addiction.
I'm glad that your son has a sponsor. I'm glad that he's going to meetings, even if it's just once a week. This means that he's at least willing to look at the possibility that he might have a problem. For a real alcoholic, that's a huge step. It's still another huge step to go from there to admitting you are powerless over alcohol.
Drinking between meetings isn't something novel with A.A. Many people do that while they are new. They're trying to figure out if they really are alcoholic. That doesn't mean his chances are any less, it just means he's not quite ready to put down the bottle. I know many people like that. Some, who came to meetings drunk, and some who would duck to the bathroom to have a drink during the meetings. Eventually, these people cought on.
All that I can say is to stand firm. Let your son know you love him. If you're able to accept him back if he stops drinking, let him know that, but remind him of your stance with alcohol, and your resolve to enforce that.
I can't make any promises, but if he's getting serious about A.A. then he's in the right place. A.A. seems to work best when people are at their lowest.
Blessings,
--Dee
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